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LanceHughes -> RE: Submissive London boy new to BDSM (12/31/2013 9:16:48 AM)
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Those are all serious answers to your question. I'm guessing you were a little suprised and might have meant sexual limits in your OP (original posting.)
Well, this is where negotiation comes into play. As a sub you ALWAYS have the right to say, "No." But maybe saying, "Not at this time, since I'd like to learn more about that," would be better than just flat outright refusal. As a slave, you probably should have a written contract and the negotiation of that contract was the time to express your limits.
In either case, you can ALWAYS walk away if your limits are not respected. (And SHOULD walk, BTW.)
All BDSM and I mean ALL is based on trust and honesty. Trust is built slowly. Maybe the first sexual session is hot and heavy, but it will only go to that level if the trust has been put in place with a previous non-sexual discussion. Get it? The trust is the important thing. Hence, "stop words," so that if it's going too far (based on the trust, and NOT the negotiation) you can stop the scene without breaking the trust. Of course, stopping is always followed by discussion (and that only after after-care.)
It is ALWAYS better to have a scene that ends with both wanting more than it is to end a scene badly since you went too far.
Just my 47 cents worth.
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