Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty?

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ThePrincessKali -> Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:09:06 PM)
I get messages from people who don't like financial domination every once in a while or from people who don't like my profile or my journal entries, whatever. I usually assume it's a guy whose had a bad experience with a fin Domme or someone who can't find a woman to fulfill his fetish without paying. Sometimes they'll block me immediately after sending a nasty message, sometimes not. I received a particularly nasty one today and it got my wondering. Is this a fetish? Sending angry and mean messages to a stranger or are they just mean people who have nothing better to do? This is the one I received today, which gave me a good chuckle until it became racist. The young man who sent this message is listed as a 19 year old African American slave. And he specifically talks negatively about black people so I'm assuming it's some form of self hate. And it's strange because I am of Mixed ethnicity as my page states but I'm not black so it was a strange comment. Here is the message. (I didn't want to screen shot it so I don't "out" the sender as per CM policy so I copy and pasted the message.) The message was unwarranted as I never viewed his page or messaged him prior to sending. So is this something people get off on? Or just anger? " lol u cant dominate me when you're that ugly better yet financially. You're on here because you're broke in real life. You're to ugly and fat to be a model, or a sugar babby, so you come on here. This is a fetish site you fat ape. If you have a problem with it get the fuck off. And take your ugly ass to plastic surgeon because no one can take you seriously with how fat and ugly you are. Even though fin dommes a a whole are a joke, the black, broke ones like you who live off welfare if you weren't on here are even more of a joke because you retards don't even posses the looks and features to do fin domme. LMFAO. The struggle is real."

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:19:39 PM)
I don't know that it's a fetish, as such. While there might be a few people who get sexual enjoyment out of insulting people online, I think most of them are just assholes. The internet provides them with a forum to broadcast their every thought and the anonymity to prevent them having to face any real-life consequences for it. As such, people let the ugliest parts of their personality come out to play. A little bit of attention and no consequences for poor behaviour adds up to a pretty exciting experience to certain types of folks.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:21:06 PM)
It happens. I used to get lots of nasty mail on another profile... I'm terribly cute and used to get some rancid stuff from bitter old broads and/or people that just cannot cope with someone that knows themselves very well and states it plainly. You just have to get your "duck" on and let it roll of your back, hit block, etc... And find solace in the fact that no matter what negative crap you get, you'll get your fair share of positive, if not profit. Exiled

CandiDanielz -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:24:32 PM)
I've had a few of them Maybe some guys feel insecure about superior women. Most of mine have come from dominant guys being hateful just a sad little troll. Ignore them or come back with a really witty remark

Kana -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:28:33 PM)
quote: So is this something people get off on? Or just anger? I'd file it under the "people are quite often vile jerks" category and move on with my life

myotherself -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:28:41 PM)
It's not just you...it's pretty much everyone on here, and women in particular. It used to annoy me, until I actually met in person one so-called 'dom' who sent me a really nasty, foul-mouthed rant when I'd been on the site a few weeks. It made me realise that the people who send this kind of stuff are bitter, angry and desperately sad. This particular guy had to bad-mouth people just to bolster his own sense of self-esteem. Imagine having to go through life, day by day, feeling so insecure and worthless that your only source of joy is someone else's unhappiness? The guy who mailed me is local to me, and is pretty much a social pariah. People have stopped inviting him to events or even wanting to spend time with him because his bitterness is there all the time. Funny thing is though, although he bitched and moaned and started nasty rumours about people online and behind their backs, he couldn't do it face to face. Really, we should pity these people and celebrate our own healthy emotional lives.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:29:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali " lol u cant dominate me when you're that ugly better yet financially. You're on here because you're broke in real life. You're to ugly and fat to be a model, or a sugar babby, so you come on here. This is a fetish site you fat ape. If you have a problem with it get the fuck off. And take your ugly ass to plastic surgeon because no one can take you seriously with how fat and ugly you are. Even though fin dommes a a whole are a joke, the black, broke ones like you who live off welfare if you weren't on here are even more of a joke because you retards don't even posses the looks and features to do fin domme. LMFAO. The struggle is real." Do you list yourself as "Mixed?" There's a 99% chance he's copypasting this to every findommy woman who does. Speaking more generally, hell yeah, getting negative attention from hot women is a sexual fetish for some men. And, in my experience, the findomme profiles have the best photos on the site.

Apocalypso -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:30:11 PM)
And the fox sent out lots of CM mail to tell random women that the grapes were sour and he didn't want them anyway.

ThePrincessKali -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:33:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali " lol u cant dominate me when you're that ugly better yet financially. You're on here because you're broke in real life. You're to ugly and fat to be a model, or a sugar babby, so you come on here. This is a fetish site you fat ape. If you have a problem with it get the fuck off. And take your ugly ass to plastic surgeon because no one can take you seriously with how fat and ugly you are. Even though fin dommes a a whole are a joke, the black, broke ones like you who live off welfare if you weren't on here are even more of a joke because you retards don't even posses the looks and features to do fin domme. LMFAO. The struggle is real." Do you list yourself as "Mixed?" There's a 99% chance he's copypasting this to every findommy woman who does. Speaking more generally, hell yeah, getting negative attention from hot women is a sexual fetish for some men. And, in my experience, the findomme profiles have the best photos on the site. Yes I do list myself as mixed but I don't specify what the mix is.

igor2003 -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:34:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders I don't know that it's a fetish, as such. While there might be a few people who get sexual enjoyment out of insulting people online, I think most of them are just assholes. Those same exact words can be used by many people to describe findommes.

ThePrincessKali -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:35:53 PM)
Lol I responded politely that I did not want to dominate him and this was his response. I blocked him. But never the less, what an odd way to get excitement. "In your profile it was in regards to me because I'm a sub/ and slave in real time if I have relationship with my domme, maybe it wasn't but that what it came off as. Saying fuck my fetish which is fine and saying I have to send you money, and all that other deluded shit. Again, this is a fetish site and I'm not sending a stranger online money that I don't know just to send shit. And then you complain about it when people don't want to send you money lol are you fucking kidding me bitch this aint welfare service. gtfo you call yourself a fin domme? You're a broke welfare queen looking for assistance from weak ass retarded, low self esteem, men online. "

OsideGirl -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:42:28 PM)
I don't think it's a fetish, but I do think it's a power dynamic. Money is a source of power. You give up your power when you give up your money to the control of someone else. Especially in a society where men have been viewed to be the bread winner/head of household.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:42:37 PM)
Eh. I just looked at your profile for the first time, and it comes off more gold-diggery than I expected. You post like an intelligent, normal person, so I didn't expect your profile to be quite so goal oriented. If it's the profile you want, far be it from me to suggest you change it. But it doesn't surprise me that men might read it and get pissed off.

ThePrincessKali -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:49:54 PM)
I blocked the user and he has started sending me threatening messages from another profile. I think he blocked me from seeing it bc it says "profile not found" even though I keep getting messages from him. But I can't view his page so I can't report him for having multiple profiles. Any advice?

ThePrincessKali -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:51:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 Eh. I just looked at your profile for the first time, and it comes off more gold-diggery than I expected. You post like an intelligent, normal person, so I didn't expect your profile to be quite so goal oriented. If it's the profile you want, far be it from me to suggest you change it. But it doesn't surprise me that men might read it and get pissed off. Criticism noted and will think about editing.

Hillwilliam -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:51:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali I blocked the user and he has started sending me threatening messages from another profile. I think he blocked me from seeing it bc it says "profile not found" even though I keep getting messages from him. But I can't view his page so I can't report him for having multiple profiles. Any advice? Forward the emails to a Mod.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:52:00 PM)
Forward the emails to a mod and they will deal with it. They have the tools to contend with any number of profiles he may be using. Exiled

RedMagic1 -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:53:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali I blocked the user and he has started sending me threatening messages from another profile. I think he blocked me from seeing it bc it says "profile not found" even though I keep getting messages from him. But I can't view his page so I can't report him for having multiple profiles. Any advice? Open one threatening email, and click the Report Message button. Then block the sender again. If this doesn't stop him, contact Support (link at the bottom of the main profile page) and send them the username of every profile he's using. Until you hear back from Support, don't delete any of the messages. Just leave them unread, and don't respond to him further.

OsideGirl -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 1:55:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant Forward the emails to a mod and they will deal with it. They have the tools to contend with any number of profiles he may be using. Exiled No, they don't. The forum Mods only have power in the forums. Site support is the correct place to send the emails.

ThePrincessKali -> RE: Is this a fetish or just being plain nasty? (1/1/2014 2:02:28 PM)
The messages seem to be very racially driven. I have a big problem with racism in any form. I blocked all profiles he has sent me messages from and sent the names of all the profiles to site support.

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