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MistressFire70 -> RE: Giving & Taking (11/19/2004 12:15:02 PM)
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For me, it depends on the relationship with the sub/slave.
If it's a play relationship, then I usually just don't bother with the activity. I get no positive energy exchange doing something to someone they don't enjoy on some level. Likewise, I get no positive energy exchange if I'm doing something I don't like. However, if it's something I really want to do and it's just a matter of pushing a limit for them (that they've apporoved), I might try it a few times to see if they are going to respond in a favorable manner.
If it's a service relationship and I feel I just MUST have that service, I'd be open to discussing with them just how I'm supposed to get that service if they don't do it. I'm talking about a daily service here. If I have a 24/7 slave, I damn well expect the house to be clean, meaning up to MY standard of clean. So, if I decide to turn my currect Ds relationship into a 24/7 Ms one, I would expect pat to do the domestic service that I expect from a 24/7 slave. However, I know that my pat hates housework and not only that, he sucks at it. Now, if he just sucked at it, but had a true desire to try it in order to please me, I'd teach him. But for something that he'd have to do on a daily basis, it can cause problems if he loathed doing that chore. Given pat's situation, I could be persuaded to allow him to hire a maid with his own money, providing he understands that HE'S the one who will get in trouble if it doesn't pass the white glove test. Thus, I save some wear and tear on his mind and I still get the service I demand.
Now, for an every-now-and then service, it'd be a toss up. I would probably just find someone else who had that particular fetish or desire and have them do it. If this makes the current sub/slave unhappy, well then they have the decision of either learning to do it (and do it well), becoming accepting of me getting it somewhere else, or deciding that it's so important to them that it's a deal breaker for the relationship.
My $0.02 worth.
Fire
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