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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 11:43:04 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		I've been into this since I was a teen. I read books that my kinky English teacher gave me and just always had fantasies about being dominated.

Finally got to do it for real with my first love in college and never went back.

I only discovered this site in 2007.

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RE: Limbo - 1/5/2014 11:50:22 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I've always been a submissive personality, I've always been attracted to dominant personality men, I grew up in a traditional Male/female community, and all my sex has been "kinky" from the very first time. Nothing has ever been any different for me. I just found there was a group out there that called it something different other than life. I admit to this day I still have no idea what the differences really are.


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RE: Limbo - 1/6/2014 4:00:09 AM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		I would think the difference is, is that there are less nonconformist people in a kink aware community. There aren't the women who are EXPECTED to be submissive when they are dominant , and men who are as submissive as all get out and are put into a dominant role. In other words - when you voluntarily choose your role, you are more likely to choose the role that you find more fulfilling, and more in line with your natural proclivities.
Yes yes, before you (generic) chime in, I'm sure we can all come up with instances where WE think we know people who are in the wrong role, but in general people choose the role they want.

Seems to me that its more fun for all concerned when we voluntarily choose who we are.

anyway , a bit off topic, but sort of relevant.

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RE: Limbo - 1/6/2014 4:28:10 AM   
Kana


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quote:

I would think the difference is, is that there are less nonconformist people in a kink aware community.


Hah.
Not to Mouse.
She grew up in essentially Pennsylvania Dutch (Actually her families denomination is a tad more strict) communities. There ain't nothing more conformist than that.
Compare that to BDSM, where 1/3 of the peeps are RenFest refuges and the other 1/3 look like they came from an early 90's industrial video,yeah-I think it's safe to say that BDSM is waaaaaaaaaaaay more noncom than her upbringing.
To understate things considerably :-)


Now me? I grew up in freak central.
The only thing I've ever understood about conformity is that I have zero interest in doing so.

(Damn Nietzsche ruined that shit for me)

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RE: Limbo - 1/6/2014 6:24:12 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Sunny Quote of the Day
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MalcolmNathaniel
for


See we Jews also have a story
about a woman who looked back.
She got turned into a pillar of salt.
On the plus side
she is licked every day.
By sheep and goats
but why quibble?




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RE: Limbo - 1/6/2014 9:06:45 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		Like a few others here my beginnings into BDSM began long before there were forums. I survived very well without them and went happily into kink and introduced kink to others along the way.
Finding forums was actually more a negative thing for me because apparently most new people into this are "normal". Since my interest in this began from damaged roots, revealing myself has only served to show how much more different I am.
BDSM has tamed much of the damage, but not being normal means not being socially acceptable in forums. In life my knowledge of the twisted nature of humankind has benefits. In forums it distances people.
Thankfully I learned to turn off the desire to please random strangers long ago.


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RE: Limbo - 1/6/2014 9:21:20 AM   
unionkane


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Status: offline 		haha I would like to thank you ALL for your input!
This is so effing awesome! some are straight to the point and some embellish and some are just effing funny, like Kana!

you guys havent just made my day, you have made my mind up! and thats not easy!

I am so amazed by you guys!!!!!

*grins*

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RE: Limbo - 1/6/2014 11:21:59 AM   
unionkane


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for your insights.

this all - sharing- is all new to me and I absorb!

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RE: Limbo - 1/7/2014 2:27:11 PM   
LanceHughes


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Status: offline 		AHHHhhhh.... NOW, I see why we Leathermen (gay, male BDSMers) are so sought after for our history.

I went to the local gay bars around Denver.  Once you're at one, pick up the local advertising newspaper (aka "bar rag") and you'll know where they all are.  The (internationally famous) Triangle Bar always took the full outside back cover.  BUT! infamous for its bad-ass reputation as having a dress code and having a good-ass reputation as a "get public sex here" club, it took me awhile to get comfotable there.  But once I did get comfortable, I hardly went to any other bar.

I was arrested in the basement during the raid that cost them 6 weeks of closure on weekends (open Mon.-Thurs.) and then 3 weeks of the reverse. "But, Officer, I wasn't doing anything!" and I wasn't (at the time of the raid.)  I'd already cum and was getting ready to go. LOL!

Well, that's were we got our education.  Either one-on-one at home, or viewing the demos right there.  Sometimes both.  The heyday of the late 60s (thru late 70s) was many YEARS before AIDS was even a word. (1984 was the infamous New York Times article which wrote about "the gay cancer.")

When did I know I was a DOM?  Pretty much while reading "The Leatherman's Handbook," first edition - 1972.  But I didn't read that until ... oh, probably 1980 when my mentor clued me in.






edited for typo (and to fix a date that made NO sense. LOL)

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RE: Limbo - 1/7/2014 2:58:35 PM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		Hah-Lance is old like me. I bet he remembers the kinky swingers mags too, with all the personal ads in em.
A few color shots for the hotties to lure the reader in, then the rest in B/W on cheap paper

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RE: Limbo - 1/7/2014 3:15:35 PM   
LanceHughes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana
Hah-Lance is old like me. I bet he remembers the kinky swingers mags too, with all the personal ads in em.
A few color shots for the hotties to lure the reader in, then the rest in B/W on cheap paper

Nope.  Why would a gay man even look at those much less buy one? LOL!  What I bought was "Drummer" magazine.  That had glossies of models, but also stories, editorial material, and PAGES of ads categorized by US state. Also EVERY Leatherbar, of course.  I have an almost complete collection - missing #1, of course, and some of other early ones....but after #30, got 'em all.  Until Drummer changed hands at about 140 or so, when it wasn't so much fun.  #4 and #5 have a discussion of the hanky code!!!!

I do remember 8-mm film porno.  Young'uns, gather 'round.  To jerk off, you needed a projector AND a roll-up movie screen on tripod aluminum legs.  Oh, man.  Sometimes there's stills on some porno sites listed as "Vintage porn."  THAT makes you feel really old!

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RE: Limbo - 1/7/2014 3:21:45 PM   
sheisreeds


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

Hah-Lance is old like me. I bet he remembers the kinky swingers mags too, with all the personal ads in em.
A few color shots for the hotties to lure the reader in, then the rest in B/W on cheap paper


Those were still around into the 90s! Two or three glossy pages shoved into the newsprint. I remember them. There were still new issues coming out of some of them too into the early 2000s. I remember my one friend was still collecting them since he could proudly display his filth mags when he got his own place in 1999.

He made sure to offer you a full array of newsprint porn before bedtime if you were staying over.

I was just glad when those motherfuckers moved from that apartment into their house so there was a door on the bedroom, because OMG I loved them but I did not need the noise or the view. The door of course got ripped off in some kinky venture of theirs that I don't care to know the details of.


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