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personaly stuck - 1/9/2014 3:05:42 AM   
bubbabarrett31


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i need help finding out how to go about meeting a mistress i have had the strong disireto be taken and forceably dominatedbut it seem that no one is really into me. be honest am i ugly unatractive, to young to willing, am i intemidating i just want to be taken by a mistress or woman with no regard to sself respect. what would you suggest i do to get out there on the scene
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RE: personaly stuck - 1/9/2014 3:14:03 AM   
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Approach them as a person first .. be an interesting person who they find charming and desirable and want to take charge of.

Or pay a professional

The chances of finding a woman who has no care who you are .. and does not mind that you have no care who she is to 'do you' for free is pretty low

You will find a sticky at the beginning of this forum on how to be attractive to a dominant woman.
But a lot of it is the same as being attractive to any woman.

To find real bdsm events near you, google your city and bdsm events or bdsm munches ... or such ...

and go be nice to people, be enjoyable, be interesting ... not just look for a woman to play with you

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RE: personaly stuck - 1/9/2014 3:18:48 AM   
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Go out and join your local munches. Meet people in the flesh. Be friendly and helpful. Word will get out what a cool/nice/fun person you are. People will come to trust you. Your best qualities will shine through more easily than they do online, because online there are thousands of male subs so it's hard to even be noticed.

Understand that no one is going to take you by force or 'with no regard to self respect' until they get to know you, like you, and care about you. This is because:
1) It's dangerous - if you decide you don't like it you could go to the police, most women don't want to be actual abusers and rapists, and until they trust you they don't know for sure how well you've thought this through. Not to mention, for all they know you might harm them when you're along together
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2) There are lots of people who don't need to be forced, who are happy to cooperate - so they don't need to take that risk.

Being forced or manhandled are common fantasies and you can find someone to do it with you, but you need to be realistic. It's going to be done within the context of a consensual and mutually fulfilling relationship. She doesn't care about your kink until she cares about you.

As for no one being interested in you: What are you doing about that? You sound like you need to work on your self esteem. You don't look ugly to me (not a fan of facial hair, but that's just personal choice) but when someone thinks they are ugly, they project a sort of self-pity which IS unattractive. 32 doesn't seem too young, unless you are only interested in much older women who want to date their own age? Too willing isn't generally a problem either, as long as it's just 'willing' and not 'pushy'. Why are you intimidating? What is it about your behaviour that intimidates people? Fix that.

Make yourself appealing by having lots of vanilla interests and making lots of friends. That's really all it takes.

Alternatively, if you just want to experience being forced to do something, you could always hire a pro. Just bear in mind that she will have her own limits on what she will and won't do with clients since there are liability issues for her if it goes wrong.

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RE: personaly stuck - 1/9/2014 3:21:33 AM   
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Ohhh and you might consider spelling and appropriate use of sentences structure and paragraphs are your friend. I would put some attention into your profile

Believe me if I notice them on your profile.... then the majority of woman would be disappointed in the effort you have shown

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RE: personally stuck - 1/15/2014 11:52:18 PM   
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Bubba, when I replied to your other Ask a Mistress topic "i'm in need of a mistress" http://www.collarchat.com/m_4616518/tm.htm on 1/10, I assumed someone would have caught the duplication by now. You have only 3 responses here (not including mine), but 19 on the above-mentioned which you had posted less than 15 minutes later. I didn't want to see the other one closed before you had a chance for it to run its course.

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RE: personaly stuck - 1/16/2014 4:20:41 PM   
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As this thread duplicates a recent thread, it has been locked. Please continue the conversation on the thread mentioned in the post above.

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