newport222
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1. Physical/sexual attraction. I'll probably get flamed for this, but let's face it, there absolutely IS such a thing as 'chemistry'. I'm not defining a 'type' here at all. It's different for everyone. Tall, short, fat, thin, long haired, bald and everything in between. There is also a very big intellectual component to this (BDSM and sex in general are mental, folks. If you don't believe it, you're in luck! Blow-up doll technology has come a long way, and you're going to have a VERY happy life!) I've met women who didn't do much for me just by looking, but once that mouth of hers started running all I could think about was her on her knees with that bratty little grin on her face doing exactly what she was told! But the point is, she could be EXACTLY what you wrote on your dream list yesterday and yet, somehow, inexplicably, it just isn't there. The danger here is you both start going through the motions because, 'on paper' he/she is PERFECT. Been there, done that, doesn't work. Sorry. 2. Intellectual compatibility. Note: This is number 2 only in an LTR, if it's just hard twisted sex (big fan, incidentally) this component is almost irrelevant. However much we might wish otherwise, sex can only occupy only about 60% of our waking hours. (Ok, I'm a dreamer too...) You've gotta like having the other person around even when she(he) isn't chained to a workbench. And yes, even when she doesn't have the little ball in her mouth and she's actually, *gasp* TALKING to you! Trust me, long term, she's gotta be the little slut you want around more than anyone else. And vice versa. 3. Sexual desire for me, and the ability to express it. People say, what do you like? And you say, 'I like a girl chained to a radiator, choking on my cock.' Well, maybe. This could be true and it could be anywhere from boring (paid prostitute, wondering what she needs to get at the supermarket on the way home) to downright disgusting (rape). (Just for the record, rape and BDSM are two different planets. In different universes.) So, what do I like? "I like a girl chained to a radiator, choking on my cock, and every time I pull out she scrambles across the floor after it, saying 'please, please...' with a little glint in her eye that says 'who the fuck do you think you're kidding? you couldn't keep that thing out of my mouth for 20 seconds if you tried, but I want it back in so bad I'll do anything you want, Sir...'" One man's opinion, nothing more.
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