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So Hard to find a Mistress in New Zealand - 1/11/2014 8:02:00 PM   
naughtyjohnnz


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Status: offline 		Hi,
I don't know why or what I am doing wrong. It so hard to find a Mistress around the Hamilton area who I can please.
I am honest genuine and real but for some reason the Mistresses I reply to just don't seam interested for some reason.

I am now thinking of trying Auckland or Wellington and see what happens.

I am not sure if it is because I have flatmates at home and can't use my place but trying to find a place in Hamilton that we could both go to is also so hard.

< Message edited by naughtyjohnnz -- 1/11/2014 8:06:53 PM >
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RE: So Hard to find a Mistress in New Zealand - 1/12/2014 1:38:49 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		Hi there,

I don't know much about the New Zealand scene- are you going to munches and meeting people in person? It seems that there are so many male subs online that it's hard for them to get noticed.

I know you didn't ask for profile advice, but I'm going to tell you what I would think if I were looking in your area, and you can decide whether I'm getting the right impression.

- I think you're probably married. We can't go to your house, and you are only available during the week in the day time. This is usually the pattern of someone who is looking to keep their relationship a secret from a partner. Needless to say, that will put a lot of women off.
- You're only looking for sessions, not a relationship. Most women want more than just a once a week session - they also want companionship and love. Not saying you can't find someone who wants something more casual, but it is going to limit you. There are tons of guys out there wanting kink sessions, but fewer wanting relationships, and the dominants can be picky and choose the one who meets all their needs.
- You don't specify what type of relationship you want, or what qualities you hope to find in a partner. This makes me think anyone will do, if they will act out your fantasy.
- Kink is the most important part of you. Most of your profile is about your kink, very little about who you are as a person. So I don't know if we'll have anything in common other than BDSM. Perhaps not a problem if we're only meeting for sessions, as above.
- You are willing to do chores, but this comes way after the list of your favourite kinks. If I were looking for a service sub, I'd probably pass you by because I'd think you don't actually want to serve me through chores, rather you're willing to trade some for your kinks. Now you may not WANT to be a service, sub, which is fine too.

Just something to bear in mind. If I've described you correctly, leave your profile as it is. If not, you're doing yourself a disservice and should improve it.

edit for typo

< Message edited by AthenaSurrenders -- 1/12/2014 1:40:58 AM >

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RE: So Hard to find a Mistress in New Zealand - 1/12/2014 1:49:53 AM   
naughtyjohnnz


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Status: offline 		Thank you so much for you advice I will take it on board and change thinks.
No I am not married and not hiding anything. I work night fill for a supermarket store Countdown so that's the reason I am available during the days. Sundays Mondays I am available anytime.

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RE: So Hard to find a Mistress in New Zealand - 1/12/2014 1:53:58 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		Might want to clear that up in your profile then. There are a lot of folks on this site to cheat, so people will assume the worst if it's not clear.

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RE: So Hard to find a Mistress in New Zealand - 1/12/2014 10:12:28 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		With all due respect, your profile says that you want to find a play partner, nothing more. I'd recommend filling out what you're like outside of play sessions.

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RE: So Hard to find a Mistress in New Zealand - 1/13/2014 4:34:57 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: naughtyjohnnz

Hi,
I don't know why or what I am doing wrong. It so hard to find a Mistress around the Hamilton area who I can please.
I am honest genuine and real but for some reason the Mistresses I reply to just don't seam interested for some reason.

I am now thinking of trying Auckland or Wellington and see what happens.

I am not sure if it is because I have flatmates at home and can't use my place but trying to find a place in Hamilton that we could both go to is also so hard.


I've always found Wisconsin to be relatively productive.

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RE: So Hard to find a Mistress in New Zealand - 1/13/2014 8:11:47 PM   
FrostedFlake


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From: Centralia, Washington
Status: offline 		I think you should write a letter to the editor about this problem.

Someone in Hamilton is bound to know and will probably tell you just where to go.

Best wishes and good luck.

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RE: So Hard to find a Mistress in New Zealand - 2/7/2014 11:26:49 AM   
JustcallmeMaam


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Status: offline 		You might want to try the Waikato kinks on Fetlife. They have an active group in Hamilton with munches and parties where you can meet people.

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RE: So Hard to find a Mistress in New Zealand - 4/15/2014 1:07:07 PM   
cowerme


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Joined: 7/24/2006
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quote:

ORIGINAL: naughtyjohnnz

Hi,
I don't know why or what I am doing wrong. It so hard to find a Mistress around the Hamilton area who I can please.
I am honest genuine and real but for some reason the Mistresses I reply to just don't seam interested for some reason.

I am now thinking of trying Auckland or Wellington and see what happens.

I am not sure if it is because I have flatmates at home and can't use my place but trying to find a place in Hamilton that we could both go to is also so hard.


Sorry to hear that, sounds like things haven't been the same since Xena Warrior Princess packed up.

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RE: So Hard to find a Mistress in New Zealand - 4/16/2014 5:52:58 AM   
MzArianaPA


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Status: offline 		You know you're in an area that is geographically isolated and that does make it a tad harder to meet compatible people to be friends with, to date, etc., let alone to find a kink partner.

So what are you actively doing other than going online to meet people who are in the lifestyle and to make yourself an attractive and viable candidate should you meet someone?

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RE: So Hard to find a Mistress in New Zealand - 4/16/2014 10:34:10 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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Joined: 8/9/2008
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quote:

ORIGINAL: naughtyjohnnz

Hi,
I don't know why or what I am doing wrong. It so hard to find a Mistress around the Hamilton area who I can please.
I am honest genuine and real but for some reason the Mistresses I reply to just don't seam interested for some reason.

I am now thinking of trying Auckland or Wellington and see what happens.

I am not sure if it is because I have flatmates at home and can't use my place but trying to find a place in Hamilton that we could both go to is also so hard.


Jon,

I apologize up front for the clear misinformation floating around.

It isn't you.

There simply are no Mistresses in New Zealand.

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