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krikket -> RE: Deception (7/8/2006 7:33:56 PM)
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This is an extremely toucy subject for me, one i won't bore y'all with, but i would like to add a note of caution:
ALL relationships, imho, must be built on trust, honor, loyalty and communication (love was left out for a reason). Again, my opinion only, when you lose one of those keystones in the building of your relationship the rest of they keystones will, eventually, tumble down around your ears. My opinion...if you are giving each other what you need in your relationship then her chat shouldn't be be a "threat" to you, anymore than it should be come her sounding board for things that are best discussed only with You. The problem seems to come with the lies and avoidance of other issues. There was a time i would chat on line for hours, like a fiend, but..i didn't (and don't) have anyone who cared what i did or didn't do and it wasn't hurting anyone so why the hell not. i read once, somewhere, that in a relationship for an activitiy to take place or to be cancelled out (and i believe the internet falls into that corner), it takes 2 yeses, but only one no for it to continue on.
The tricky part comes, i believe, is when she;'s able to comprehend this idea, and does as you wish, how will you respond to her changed activities? Will you "reward" her, if only by words, a smile, a few words? Or will You jump on line now that the computer has free time -- for work, i'm sure, oh..maybe just to say hi to the gang..etc.
Good luck and best wishes...
jiminie
PS (i have the t-shirt if ya ever want to borrow it..lol)
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