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Greta75 -> Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 6:43:45 AM)
I think most people have some sort of physical requirement right? And that is normal. But what frustrates me is getting abuse messages from doms when they don't fit my physical requirements. My requirements are simply tall, big and overweight is great, but skinny is a big no no. I do love my men over 200lbs. It's just what I always loved and feel drawn to. I just think it's silly and immature for any doms to get so agitated and upset over my physical requirement if they do not meet the criteria. Especially if they are slim and in great shape, then they should technically fit the physical requirement of most women and have no problem in that arena. Why make childish comments like, "Sorry I am not a fatty!", or "If I knew you were into fatties, I would not have contacted you!" I am sure they have their own ideal sub physical shape too. And I am sure I do not fit the physical requirements of many doms out there too, which is normal. I just feel kinda mad that they call the physique I absolutely am so sexually attracted to, "fatties".

peppermint -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 6:56:45 AM)
In your profile the first thing you list is the criteria you are looking for in a Master. You already have a preferred age listed. It would be so easy to add a preferred body type. That way if a thin guy contacts you he can't say he wasn't warned he's not your type.

DarkSteven -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 7:00:41 AM)
I don't get it either. If I walk up to a woman and ask her for a date, and she says no, then she's personally turning me down. But a ride that says, "You must be at least 48 inches to ride" - that's not personal. I have never understood that aspect of the Internet, when people state explicitly what their requirements are (and it's foolish to expect that there aren't any), and people take that as personal. I've had that happen as well, when women say, "So you'd reject me because your profile says XXX?" In future, I'll just block them because there's no way to win that one. The thing that amazes me is that there are literally tens of thousands of women here. Who would waste his time arguing with an incompatible one when he could be talking with a compatible one?

Greta75 -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 7:13:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: peppermint In your profile the first thing you list is the criteria you are looking for in a Master. You already have a preferred age listed. It would be so easy to add a preferred body type. That way if a thin guy contacts you he can't say he wasn't warned he's not your type. I didn't state a specific physical requirement because I suppose if a dom who didn't fit into those requirements wrote a very impressive introduction of himself to me, I would over-look my physical requirement. Because to be honest, the x-dom I ended up madly inlove with didn't fit my physical requirement anyway. He was short and he was definitely skinnier than my personal preference, but he had one hell of a personality and a sense of humour that made up for it! So these ones that are snide, are often the messages that I ignored in the first place, because their introduction message did not grab me at all and on top of that, they are not physically the right size. And when they continually send messages getting aggressive on why ain't I answering, I simply tell them, that if a someone does not reply, it's obviously she's just not interested and if he must know exactly why, it's simply because I have a preference for heavier guys. And frankly, I bet even if I said their introduction just didn't impress me, I would probably still get another slew of abuse of another kind.

MercTech -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 7:21:36 AM)
The physical can get the attention but it is what is between the ears that keeps it. Now, if you are taller than 5'6", buxom, and red-headed... I might get whiplash checking you out walking down the street. But, if you are short, dumpy, and have a lot of shared interests with me, I'll be asking you out more often than the buxom readhead.

Greta75 -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 7:23:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven I have never understood that aspect of the Internet, when people state explicitly what their requirements are (and it's foolish to expect that there aren't any), and people take that as personal. Yup, while I did not state weight requirement on my collarme profile, as it is seriously not a heavy factor for me for a dom, but I have in other places when I am looking for kink partners. And people get so irate about it! The thing is, like I bet if a man asked for a BBW, he will never get abusive message from a skinny woman about his preferences. But there is something strange with men getting upset with females preferring the "BBW" male version!

sloguy02246 -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 7:32:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven If I walk up to a woman and ask her for a date, and she says no, then she's personally turning me down. But a ride that says, "You must be at least 48 inches to ride" - that's not personal. True enough, but, what if the woman you're asking for a date is wearing a T-shirt with a line across the chest and beneath that line are the words, "You must be at least this tall to get on this ride." [8D]

windchymes -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 7:43:47 AM)
The internet is full of frustrated, cowardly people who act out by insulting people, because they can and not have any retribution. Best thing is just to toughen up and let it roll off your shoulders....or don't even let it get to your shoulders. It means NOTHING. It's not worth a speck of a reaction from you, other than maybe a snort and then forget it.

hlen5 -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 7:49:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sloguy02246 quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven If I walk up to a woman and ask her for a date, and she says no, then she's personally turning me down. But a ride that says, "You must be at least 48 inches to ride" - that's not personal. True enough, but, what if the woman you're asking for a date is wearing a T-shirt with a line across the chest and beneath that line are the words, "You must be at least this tall to get on this ride." [8D] Has that happened to you??[;)]

DarkSteven -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 7:53:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sloguy02246 quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven If I walk up to a woman and ask her for a date, and she says no, then she's personally turning me down. But a ride that says, "You must be at least 48 inches to ride" - that's not personal. True enough, but, what if the woman you're asking for a date is wearing a T-shirt with a line across the chest and beneath that line are the words, "You must be at least this tall to get on this ride." [8D] If I am tall enough to read the words, it should be a moot issue. Or I could ask her to kneel when I ask.

sloguy02246 -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 9:18:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hlen5 quote: ORIGINAL: sloguy02246 quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven If I walk up to a woman and ask her for a date, and she says no, then she's personally turning me down. But a ride that says, "You must be at least 48 inches to ride" - that's not personal. True enough, but, what if the woman you're asking for a date is wearing a T-shirt with a line across the chest and beneath that line are the words, "You must be at least this tall to get on this ride." [8D] Has that happened to you??[;)] Yes, it actually has - well, minus the T-shirt. [:D] On the first date (a Saturday in Crystal Lake) we met for lunch and ended up sitting there talking for over 3 hours, so naturally when we left I was feeling very good about the prospects for another date. Next morning she sent an email telling me she was "shocked" at my height (I am 5" 9" as was she) because she was "not ready to start a relationship with a man unless he was someone she could actually look up at" (seriously - that was what she wrote). I admit I was stunned and then related the sorry tale to my co-worker on Monday morning. Being the type of person he is, he promptly looked up a photo on the internet which depicted a female wearing just such a T-shirt, which of course made me laugh out loud. I realize she may not have had the same reaction I had to our first date, but I always thought there were better ways for her to tell me that "I don't think this relationship isn't going to work for me."

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 2:04:24 PM)
Greta, it makes life so much easier if you just reply once with " I'm sorry but I don't think we would be a match", then block because they WILL continue to hound you. Any response at all, even rejection, tends to be considered an open door. The one polite response is enough and you cut the communication line from there. Don't waste any more of your time! And thanks to Oside for a very useful phrase. I admit my physical preference in men is the same as yours. And like you it always amuses me that men routinely reject women they consider BBWs when I have such a soft spot for big cuddly men [:D]

MsLadySue -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 2:17:13 PM)
I can relate to the larger man thing. My sub of two years had me at the first 'teddy bear' hug. He's only a few inches taller than my 5' 6" and weighs over 300 pounds. Something so nice about a 'cuddly' man.

OsideGirl -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 3:07:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 I just think it's silly and immature for any doms to get so agitated and upset over my physical requirement if they do not meet the criteria It goes beyond that. A friend of mine listed geographical and age restrictions on her profile....and guys that KNEW they didn't meet the criteria sent hateful, hateful messages when she said, "no, thank you".

sexyred1 -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 3:16:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sloguy02246 quote: ORIGINAL: hlen5 quote: ORIGINAL: sloguy02246 quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven If I walk up to a woman and ask her for a date, and she says no, then she's personally turning me down. But a ride that says, "You must be at least 48 inches to ride" - that's not personal. True enough, but, what if the woman you're asking for a date is wearing a T-shirt with a line across the chest and beneath that line are the words, "You must be at least this tall to get on this ride." [8D] Has that happened to you??[;)] Yes, it actually has - well, minus the T-shirt. [:D] On the first date (a Saturday in Crystal Lake) we met for lunch and ended up sitting there talking for over 3 hours, so naturally when we left I was feeling very good about the prospects for another date. Next morning she sent an email telling me she was "shocked" at my height (I am 5" 9" as was she) because she was "not ready to start a relationship with a man unless he was someone she could actually look up at" (seriously - that was what she wrote). I admit I was stunned and then related the sorry tale to my co-worker on Monday morning. Being the type of person he is, he promptly looked up a photo on the internet which depicted a female wearing just such a T-shirt, which of course made me laugh out loud. I realize she may not have had the same reaction I had to our first date, but I always thought there were better ways for her to tell me that "I don't think this relationship isn't going to work for me." Did she not know your height prior to meeting? If so, that is ridiculous to have gone knowing she felt that way. I also think she lacked class by what she said about looking up to a man. I actually like shorter men as long as they can handle me. My last guy was 5'7 like me and I can assure you, I looked up at him all the time.

sloguy02246 -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 3:20:19 PM)
Height was never mentioned at all until the email after the date. And yes, I did state my height in the profile. I think she enjoyed the date and the conversation, but just wasn't interested in pursuing a relationship.

dcnovice -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/17/2014 7:11:34 PM)
quote: I just think it's silly and immature for any doms to get so agitated and upset over my physical requirement if they do not meet the criteria. Probably. Then again, it seems a bit silly to spend irreplaceable moments fussing about Internet messages from total strangers. [:)]

needlesandpins -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/18/2014 3:01:23 AM)
we all have preferences. the person walking up to us in a bar will instantly be appraised, and either be a yes, or a no purely on the physical (and dependent on beer goggles this may change in the morning of course). however, when working along side people, or in a group of friends a person's personality gets a chance to impress us too. online we tend to base everything on the facts and figures to wheedle out the world. what will always happen is that someone will get all offended because we didn't think them god's gift wrapped up in gold leaf, when in reality they are the forever the unwanted, passed on gift still in the last decades paper. I like my men tall, over 5'10, slim to athletic ( I don't like heavy overweight, and I don't like the super ripped, or uber muscular), I like pretty eyes on a man, and I most definitely like a man I can talk to. intelligence is a big turn on. the thing with height is that over a certain age it's something that will never change while ever we can stand. to that end I have my preference. when it comes to weight it's slightly different. my preference is slim, but if I loved a guy, and he put weight on I'm not going to stop loving him. I'm not going to start dating an over weight guy though in the hope he'll lose weight. I used to be very slim, though still had curves. these days my weight fluctuates, but I wouldn't expect a guy with a preference for someone slim to fancy me at the weight I am. I do wonder about the people that get so abusive about such things as weight. all the fat threads we have on here make me think that these people really need more in their shallow lives to get passionate about. needles

GoddessManko -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/18/2014 4:13:04 AM)
I honestly never understood the body type requirements people place on subs, or subs on Doms ( My last sub couldn't get over the fact that he was far less attractive than myself in his mind based on age and body type, had a MAJOR complex about it which ended the relationship). Over the years I have had subs of all ages, races, sizes, relationship statuses, sexes etc. I have never been a pro though I judge the findom types not, I have always just so loved the lifestyle itself. I think subs themselves are among the most fascinating of creatures, w[sm=agree.gif]hy care about the outer appearance when they all have the same sparkle in their eyes? But then we're all individuals ergo will vary. I have had trolls pretending to be Doms email me silliness like calling me fake (though I have met people from the site before, go figure) but usually they make me laugh rather than irate. You have to understand how empty a person'e life must be to berate someone who they don't know and probably will never meet's inbox, haha.[sm=ballchain.gif][sm=bowdown.gif][sm=brush.gif][sm=domme.gif][sm=discipline.gif][sm=doghouse.gif][sm=lastthing.gif][sm=mistress.gif][sm=mistress.gif][sm=mistress.gif][sm=yesmistress.gif]

ShaharThorne -> RE: Physical Requirement (1/18/2014 5:24:12 AM)
So I am not the only one who enjoys her men to be over 200 lbs. Height really does not matter as long as I don't have to wear platform shoes to kiss them (last time I worn platforms was when I was 13, budding out and had several boys on a string even with my pixie hair cut). I like men with a bit of meat on their bones and if they like women who are BBW (276 again, thyroid acting up), definitely worth a party (just don't ask me to drink).

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