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LorraineCA -> Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women? (1/17/2014 8:06:51 PM)

Everyone know that 50% of the marriages end in divorce. But what about the remaining marriages? I've googled this question and have read different blogs on them.

Who's Happier: Single Or Married Women?

What is your opinion?

Also, do you think that the remaining marriages are happy? I've heard a lot of marriages stay together because of financial reasons. I've heard people say, "My marriage is okay, but it isn't great, that's for sure."



Rawni -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women? (1/17/2014 8:24:44 PM)

It depends on who you're married to. lol

I've been happily married, though I am very happy single. I can take it or leave it, most days. It would be nice in some ways to have a partner and in others... well, I kind of like doing my own thing without any hassle whatsoever. I had someone tempt me with it not too long ago and soon after realized all the reasons that would have been a huge mistake. I think I am too old, opinionated and set in my ways when it comes to stubborn men that want to try to tell this ol broad what to do or how to live.

I doubt I will ever marry again, but if I am with someone, it will be happy or we won't be together. No way am I doing unhappy marital time again. lol

I believe marriage is what you can make of it and with the right partner, it would be very wonderful, but when its not... whoa. No thanks. It's just safer not going there in my opinion. I don't even like that name change always being for women. Guess I will enjoy my feminist lifestyle... mostly alone. [:D]



tj444 -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women? (1/17/2014 8:35:42 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LorraineCA

Who's Happier: Single Or Married Women?

What is your opinion?


my opinion is that it depends on who you are married to/living with..

I married the wrong dude.. I am much more selective now.. because I do want to have a great guy in my life (living together, not marriage) but I sure as hell do not want the wrong guy in my life.. Until I find that guy (or he finds me), I will remain single, not happily and not unhappily.. there are both benefits & negatives to being single and to being married/living with someone.. If/when I find that special guy, I think I will be much happier then living with him tho.. cuz I like cuddling and sex and that doesn't work as well when you diy.. and being single, not interested in casual sex.. looking for only serious living together material.. [;)]



FieryOpal -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women? (1/17/2014 8:58:55 PM)

The grass is always greener on the other side. A lot of single women wish they were married, or partnered up at the very least. Many married women wish they were single or else married to someone else, not the inconsiderate, boorish slob they're stuck with. Whether female or male, there are some people who are not good or suited to be pair-bonded and really shouldn't get married. They just make lousy spouses, choose the wrong kinds of partners, get married for the wrong reasons, or can't honor their commitments. There are Peter-Pan types who never grow up.

By the way, I don't exactly buy that 50% divorce statistic that's been making the rounds for decades. I do believe, however, the studies which indicate it is men who benefit the most from marriage overall and that being married contributes to their psychological well-being, health and longevity. Hear that, all you users who habitually cyber-cheat on your wives daily? This goes for vanilla dating sites as well, which are bloated with your photoless sock-puppet profiles.



littlewonder -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women? (1/17/2014 9:02:53 PM)

I loved being married and most likely still would be if he hadn't died. I would love to get married again someday.



Blonderfluff -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women?ua (1/17/2014 9:05:29 PM)

I've been happy married, and happy single. I've also been utterly miserable married, and equally miserable single.

Life changes. All the time.



OsideGirl -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women?ua (1/17/2014 9:06:03 PM)

I'm married to the love of my life and I love being married to him.



sexyred1 -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women?ua (1/17/2014 11:01:36 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff

I've been happy married, and happy single. I've also been utterly miserable married, and equally miserable single.

Life changes. All the time.


This. It depends on what is going on in your life at the time.



needlesandpins -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women?ua (1/18/2014 2:24:57 AM)

I didn't marry my ex, but we were as good as, what with a family and all that. I have never wanted to get married at all, but I wanted certain things from a relationship. I figured the only way to get what I wanted was to be in a full on, in your pocket relationship.

i'll tell you what I've learnt; it hurts far more to be lonely when you are in a relationship than it does when you are on your own. I was happy a lot of the time in my relationship, but I was also depressed, and very unsatisfied, but making a lot of excuses up to justify the way things were. my ex wasn't a complete arsehole, and to start with made a lot of effort. later it all stopped, and there was always one excuse to justify all the ways in which he was failing to be a decent partner, and father. I got sick of it all, and it meant that what I was in the relationship for was greatly missing.

it's a bit of a bugger when your playmate, who isn't (as my son put it) your real boyfriend, is more thoughtful, and inadvertently romantic than my ex ever was.

I've been told that I'm 'settling' by having what I do with my playmate instead of a 'real' relationship with someone else. the fact is I've known since I was 17 that I never really wanted a full time relationship, so for me being with my ex was settling. I settled for a relationship I didn't really want, just to get the little but I did want. I shan't be doing that again.

needles



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women?ua (1/18/2014 4:42:27 AM)

This:

quote:

ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff

I've been happy married, and happy single. I've also been utterly miserable married, and equally miserable single.

Life changes. All the time.


and this:

quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

I'm married to the love of my life and I love being married to him.



Married women with children have so many responsibilities most of them are beyond exhausted and don't have much time for their husband. It makes me sick that in this day and age we don't have affordable day care for working women/couples.




ShaharThorne -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women?ua (1/18/2014 5:29:48 AM)

Been married twice, fucked up the first one, kicked out the second one, had a relationship that created Lizard and another one that had me going places. Content to being single now...no fuss, no muss. If I want sex, I just go to Lizard's dad with a bottle of French wine and a smile...



LadyPact -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women?ua (1/18/2014 7:32:12 AM)

I don't think you can hang your happy on your marital status.

I've been married to MP for coming up on twelve years now. Not the first marriage for either of us, so we do know what it's like to be unhappy and married at the same time from those prior relationships. However, in the time frame that we met, I was happily single/divorced. I've never been the type of person who has said that I need to be in a relationship to be happy. To be honest, it's always been My opinion that people who know how to be happy on their own tend to attract more potential partners. Happiness is a very good quality in a person.

Granted, MP is pretty much stuck with Me. If he wanted to divorce Me, I'd probably kick his ass. [8D]



theshytype -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women? (1/18/2014 7:55:38 AM)


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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

The grass is always greener on the other side. A lot of single women wish they were married, or partnered up at the very least. Many married women wish they were single or else married to someone else, not the inconsiderate, boorish slob they're stuck with. Whether female or male, there are some people who are not good or suited to be pair-bonded and really shouldn't get married. They just make lousy spouses, choose the wrong kinds of partners, get married for the wrong reasons, or can't honor their commitments. There are Peter-Pan types who never grow up.

By the way, I don't exactly buy that 50% divorce statistic that's been making the rounds for decades. I do believe, however, the studies which indicate it is men who benefit the most from marriage overall and that being married contributes to their psychological well-being, health and longevity. Hear that, all you users who habitually cyber-cheat on your wives daily? This goes for vanilla dating sites as well, which are bloated with your photoless sock-puppet profiles.


I agree with this.

I have single friends and married ones. They envy each other. They see what they don't have instead of appreciating what they do have. As for myself, I'm married. Can't say either one would be better because I do realize the perks of each.



MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women? (1/18/2014 8:09:20 AM)

I think happiness is based mostly on where you are in life, not so much whom you are with. You can be with the best mate, but if you are lacking other things that make you happy you can still be miserable.


quote:

ORIGINAL: LorraineCA

Everyone know that 50% of the marriages end in divorce. But what about the remaining marriages? I've googled this question and have read different blogs on them.

Who's Happier: Single Or Married Women?

What is your opinion?

Also, do you think that the remaining marriages are happy? I've heard a lot of marriages stay together because of financial reasons. I've heard people say, "My marriage is okay, but it isn't great, that's for sure."





Missokyst -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women? (1/18/2014 9:13:57 AM)

I believe the last study showed that married women do not live as long as single ones. And that married men live longer than their single brothers.

I can say I was not happier when I was married.



LorraineCA -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women? (1/18/2014 10:15:35 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: FieryOpal
I do believe, however, the studies which indicate it is men who benefit the most from marriage overall and that being married contributes to their psychological well-being, health and longevity. Hear that, all you users who habitually cyber-cheat on your wives daily? This goes for vanilla dating sites as well, which are bloated with your photoless sock-puppet profiles.


I've heard the reason men are better off being married than women is because traditionally the woman takes care of the man. She does all the domestic chores. Plus, men aren't good at having a social life with other people. So being married helps their loneliness. I've read that women are better at being single then men. But then again, these are just internet articles I've read. They aren't scientific studies.



MsMJAY -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women? (1/18/2014 11:57:51 AM)

I cannot say it is true for everyone but I personally love being single. I was married once and it was a very unpleasant experience for me. Longterm relationship I can do. Marriage? no thanks.



DesFIP -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women? (1/18/2014 12:44:49 PM)

It also depends when you ask them.
People usually don't start a conversation to exclaim how ecstatic their relationship is. We're more likely to bring up something that annoyed us the previous night.

So if you judge by the one time a week they have something to carp about, then you would assume that most of the time it is much better. However, mostly we judge someone else's partner on the occasional complaints we hear.

Overall, nothing is great 100% of the time and assuming it should be is foolish. If it's better for the person than not being married, then that's all that counts.

People with young children are more stressed and less happy in general. Wait 20 years and people without children are less happy than those with grown children. And I fully expect that marriages after the children are grown are far happier to those with young children.



jlf1961 -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women? (1/18/2014 12:58:25 PM)

Happiness is relative, it cannot be quantified, and is based on experience. When I was in law enforcement, I met women who said they were happy in their relationships where they were routinely beaten.

I have also met women who said they were not happy in a relationship where they were treated like royalty.

Add to that you can do twenty surveys of women and get twenty different results.

The real question should be who is more satisfied.



windchymes -> RE: Are Single Women Happier Than Married Women? (1/18/2014 1:45:10 PM)

Marriage is what the two parties make it. I will quote Dr. Laura again: Choose wisely and treat kindly. CHOOSE WISELY. And then treat kindly.



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