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Questions on Tribute? - 1/18/2014 3:23:08 PM   
Alex8897


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Status: offline 		Is it typical for Mistresses to ask for tribute? and how much is the average they ask for? Could this be a scam? How do I make sure it isn't?
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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/18/2014 3:34:05 PM   
LafayetteLady


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Status: offline 		You say in your profile that yoou aren't interested in findommes. You also say that you want a bedroom only D/s relationship. So I would say steer clear of the doms looking for tribute, as they are more findomme.

Sadly, because of your age, you will have to sift through a LOT off young girls who say they are findommes, but really just view this as a way to make money. As you search, best bet is to hide each person that doesn't seem to be looking for a relationship.

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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/18/2014 3:34:52 PM   
MsMJAY


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Alex8897

Is it typical for Mistresses to ask for tribute?

No, not typical; but it does happen.


and how much is the average they ask for?

However much they can get you to send.

Could this be a scam?

Yes. It most definitely could be.

How do I make sure it isn't?

DO NOT SEND MONEY TO OTHER USERS FOR ANY REASON![/i]
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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/18/2014 4:11:12 PM   
AlphaFemsRule


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Status: offline 		I was just writing (ranting?) about this in another thread.

I don't doubt there are some people out there who really have fin-dom as their kink, but I'd imagine the percentage is extremely small compared to the rest who are scammers or looking to exploit others. All those fake profiles with pictures of half-naked 19 year old girls who want "ATM piggies" is maddening. Why this site doesn't filter out such obvious bullshit confuses me. It's like letting SPAM run completely roughshod over the legit profiles which, I thought, was the intended purpose of this site (to have legit people form a community to meet one another).

Why do they let that communication get congested and strangled with spammers? At the very least, make a separate section for the so-called fin-dommes? I dunno.

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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/18/2014 4:20:16 PM   
ReMakeYou


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Status: offline 		Unfortunately there's nothing you can really do about spammy profiles. Ditto grossly exhibitionist ones. If their profile gets deleted, they can spin off new ones faster than mods can reasonably shut them down.

All you can do personally is hide them to unclog your searches (I have more blocked profiles on here than I do on all the vanilla sites combined, and findommes rarely show on my searches), and remind other people the high likelihood of scam. If trying to bilk strangers over the internet isn't worth the time investment, you'll have fewer people doing it.

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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/18/2014 5:23:55 PM   
Delilya


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Status: offline 		I have asked tribute from my collared subs. Not money, that's too easy. I ask for things like an interesting rock, a nice colored leaf, an unusual piece of gum, etc. Something that shows they gave thought to what would make me happy. I won't accept anything (except the gum) that is store bought. That isn't the point with me.

I do know others that ask for a monetary tribute. Too each their own. If that is the agreement between them and whoever, then that is fine by me. But, I would warn you to not send money to anyone asking before they met you and you have established some sort of relationship. Unless you have plenty to give away. And in that case I might make an exception. (smiles)

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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/18/2014 6:45:32 PM   
LorraineCA


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Alex8897

Is it typical for Mistresses to ask for tribute? and how much is the average they ask for? Could this be a scam? How do I make sure it isn't?


I find that it is typical for male submissives to offer tributes. They tell me anywhere from $50 to $200 and then they give me a list of things they want done. I always refer them to a Pro-Dom because I'm not interested in that. I always wondered if the male submissive who offers a tribute is a scam. For example, offering tribute with the intention of never paying anything and try to get freebies.

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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/18/2014 6:59:35 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		At the top of every email are big red letters that say "DO NOT SEND MONEY TO OTHER USERS FOR ANY REASON!"

What part of that is unclear?

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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/18/2014 9:52:58 PM   
Alex8897


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Status: offline 		Thanks for all the replies I figured as much. And ya being this age does pose many disadvantages which I was not expecting.

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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/18/2014 10:22:58 PM   
GoddessManko


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Status: offline 		Lorraine, same here.
AlphaFemsRule and I both were chatting about it earlier. Pretty much, Dommes, subs, men, women...we are not completely unafflicted by the findom types but to each his own and even they have their place and purpose.

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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/18/2014 11:49:55 PM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		Is it typical for a woman to want something out of a relationship? I would be willing to bet you know the answer to that question already. It is never really a very good idea to just send a stranger money...period. If I could give you a little advice though about your age. Do a web search, or go over to fetlife.com and look, for TNG (TheNextGeneration) groups near you. At your age it often works better to meet people in person. A little advice about your profile as well. I have no idea what kind of life you have lived but at the tender age of 20 it is highly unlike that you are an "expert" at as many things as you have listed. I am only commenting about it because for many women when they see a man your age claiming to be an expert they might get the impression that he thinks a little to highly of himself. Try to stay casual and light. Good luck.

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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/19/2014 2:08:54 AM   
FieryOpal


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

Is it typical for a woman to want something out of a relationship?

How much relationship currency are you willing to invest? The bulk of guys your age aren't willing to invest as much or more than what you think you can get from a woman in return. Many men are dating-impaired, including older, usually newly separated men re-entering the singles market who wouldn't know how to wine & dine a woman if their lives depended on it.

To address your question, you have to differentiate between (1) Dommes who require tribute up front, and (2) a Domme who has become your RT or LD Mistress to whom you are officially collared.

In the first case, DON'T DO IT. Would you buy a birthday or Valentine's Day gift for a lady you had never met and not started to date?

In the second case, ask yourself what would you be willing to do for a lady you were dating or for your girlfriend under similar circumstances, vis-à-vis the equivalent level of intimacy?

Also, sometimes if a Domme is not all that interested in a (pushy) sub, she might demand tribute to discourage him. I don't do this because I consider this to be a passive-aggressive tactical move, but I know of a few Dommes who do occasionally.

FYI, one of the main reasons I don't ask for or accept tribute is because there isn't enough tribute or any other kind of extrinsic substitute for a bona fide intimate relationship. The relationship currency of which I spoke to start.

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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/19/2014 10:40:48 AM   
kalikshama


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quote:

Do a web search, or go over to fetlife.com and look, for TNG (TheNextGeneration) groups near you. At your age it often works better to meet people in person. A little advice about your profile as well. I have no idea what kind of life you have lived but at the tender age of 20 it is highly unlike that you are an "expert" at as many things as you have listed. I am only commenting about it because for many women when they see a man your age claiming to be an expert they might get the impression that he thinks a little to highly of himself. Try to stay casual and light. Good luck.



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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/19/2014 7:31:51 PM   
TNDommeK


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Status: offline 		Asking for tribute is NOT a scam.. So long as the said Mistress does just vanish after.
Look, we FDs get a gabillion bs messages all day, so if a few ask you for tribute to show you aren't just full of shit,
I see nothing wrong with that. Now... Having said that, I'd make sure she was someone I wanted to invest time in, someone
I knew of had a good feeling about.
I will say that different FDs work differently, so there are some who will invest time in you to see of you're worth their time.

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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/19/2014 8:23:32 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Alex8897

Is it typical for Mistresses to ask for tribute? Yes. How much is the average they ask for? $17.49 per visit (ranges run between nothing and $375.00). Could this be a scam? Not if I were making the offer but...I don't have tits. How do I make sure it isn't? "Don't" would be my first suggestion, unless all you're looking for is a night on the town.


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RE: Questions on Tribute? - 1/20/2014 2:21:14 AM   
ThePrincessKali


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Status: offline 		Yes many fin dommes are clueless or scammers. So are a lot of fin subs. In fact so are a lot of subs in general. Have you ever been on a vanilla dating site? I have. I'd bet a good bulk of the men are just looking to get laid even on sites dedicated to relationships. My point is there are fakes and liars everywhere. I'm sure you exercise judgement in your day to day life. Do the same online.

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