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MistressTheaZ -> RE: Switching and Social Death (7/5/2006 2:37:20 PM)
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JMO...please don't take offense where none is intended.
I avoided switch males because I found they often weren't switches at all. I disliked how, the majority of the time, their motivations were mostly to push sexual contact within scene outside of any mutual respect or shared connection with the female partner. I often thought that these types called themselves 'switches' to avoid an immediate delete by approaching as a Dom or a similarly rapid dismissal by approaching poorly disguised as a sub. Switch gave them the room to express their desires while pretending to listen to yours - the foot in the door. Beyond the fact that submission does not come easily to Me anyhow, I found it distasteful at best to think about playing with those with such transparent alterior motives. [:'(]
That said, years pass, people grow, and there are always exceptions to the rule. I found a place within where I have evolved from a Sadistic Dominant to a primarily Dominant female with sadomasochist roots. My current and favorite play partner is a switch, and I knew this about him from the jump. However, drawing from similar sadomasochistic leanings and interests, coupled with trust and openness to share ideas....it works, and works nicely. Now, the likelihood of Me bending a knee to someone else? Slim to none. [:D]
Best,
~Thea
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