Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid



Message


Kirasen -> Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/20/2014 11:36:40 PM)

I've gone nuts...

My friend and i were friends with this transgender girl, f to m, and she was an ass to everyone and she did horrible things to people we knew. She started to do horrible things to us, like she disrespected and tried to inappropriately touch my body, but she did worst to my friend. She snuck into her house and got into bed with her and did stuff until she woke up. One morning recently, she called me up to hangout, and i said i was busy. She made a remark, about something and hung up. I told my friend that she wanted to hangout and that it would just be better to just cut away from her, burn the bridge... My friend called her up and asked if she threatened me, which the girl didnt, btw my friend missunderstood what i told her. The girl quickly called me up and yelled at me and I lost control cause i dont ever like to be called a liar or to be told that i did something when i have not done it! I told her to fuck off, and I hung up... I started to get texts from my friend saying she's telling the girl off for everything she has done to her. Then after about thirty minutes the girl texted me, and started to blame me, everything suddenly now became my fault. Everyone always makes everything to be my fault. I ruined everything! Yea im sick of that.... I told her the truths of what i saw in her, i hate myself for what i said , i wish i could Take all of it back. I told her about how she was a bad friend to me, the normal stuff, and the she broke the barrier, sort of speech, i cannot say what she said to me that burned my world away but i just lost my mind and I told her she is not the boy she pretends to be and that she is a GIRL until she has 'that' operation. I told her that i think the only reason why she says shes a boy, is cause she wants to be a d'bag to everyone. She says that everytime she does something rude or mean to someone. So thats why I dont believe shes even what she says. If i did believe her i would respect her, but I don't. She hurt me and my friend... I wanted her to feel pain for causing us soo much pain. I called her a girl over and over again in texts that would make anyone want to scream murder, and she said that we have school soon and that she doesnt want any drama. and i told her not to talk to me online, on the phone or in person.

All of this is childish shit, and go right ahead and say that, my question that I WANT to know is, am i wrong to have called her a girl? and is this all my fault? I feel really bad now, i feel like im choking thinking about what happened. I just want to go to her and apologize for this. I get attached to people and my friend, she doesn't want me to try to reform a friendship with her.

So yea you know what i am asking to know run with it whatever... Go head and say whatever it is your thinking just gonna say this though. I know full well that this whole thing is childish and right now i dont care. I just needed to express this somewhere where I know she wont see it niether of them can know.




myotherself -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/20/2014 11:45:56 PM)

You all behaved like silly little children - seriously, this is the kind of thing I expect to see from school children, not supposed adults.

I did trawl through the bitchy whine-fest you posted, and although your ex-friend was bang out of order with her behaviour, and your other so-called friend should have kept their stupid, ill-informed nose out of the drama, you were just as much to blame with your vicious comments.

The three of you deserve each other. [:'(]




ThePrincessKali -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/20/2014 11:57:21 PM)

So I'm assuming the original post was written by a 13 year old?




Kirasen -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 12:08:45 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

So I'm assuming the original post was written by a 13 year old?

Ha ha very funny...




stef -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 12:28:15 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

So I'm assuming the original post was written by a 13 year old?

I wonder if anyone involved was over the age of 13. They all sounds like whiny little children.




AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 12:41:50 AM)

Let's break this down into component parts:

- Were you wrong to have called her a girl?
Yes. You deliberately chose to do something you knew would hurt him.

-Is it all your fault?
No, the parts that you did were your fault - getting involved in the drama, calling him a girl, etc. Your friend was at fault for stirring things up by getting in the middle of the argument. The transgender guy was at fault for the non-consensual sexual contact with your friend.

-She doesn't want me to try and reform a friendship with her
Not even sure which party you are talking about here due to your refusal to use the pronoun 'he' in your rant, but the short answer to this is 'don't'. If one of them doesn't want to be your friend, then leave them the hell alone. I too would want out of this 'friendship'

- I feel really bad now.
Oh well. Learn from this drama and move on. If one or both of these people don't want you to contact them, you need to respect that, even if you wish you could apologise.

- I don't believe she's even what she says
You don't get to decide whether he identifies as a man or a woman or something else entirely. You get zero vote on that. It matters not whether you believe or respect his choices. If you think he is a 'dbag' then don't associate with him.

-Everyone always makes things my fault!
Then distance yourself from all of these people, take some time to work out why you are blamed for everything (and figure out which things you ARE to blame for) and then make new, sane friends. Do not engage in gossiping or stupid drama arguments with the new friends.

Goodness me, you are 21! People your age are serving in the army, buying their own homes, raising children and holding down professional jobs. You still all sound stuck in the 14 year old drama stage.




Kirasen -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 1:31:21 AM)

Ahh, thats all very true, and leaves me with one thing that I can do. Thanks for honesty and all I needed a lil bit of real honesty. Everyone i know would just pussy-foot around my stupid feelings. Sorry for putting shit crybaby thread here. i was considern not putting it, but ya'll actually helped. So yea thanks.




DarkSteven -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 4:12:09 AM)

What the hell, dude?

1. He calls himself male. You insist on calling him female. Why?

2. Good Lord, you need to learn how to communicate. I can't understand half of what you wrote, and half your post complains that people misunderstood you.

3. If I understand the post correctly, he broke into a house uninvited and raped someone. And assaulted you sexually. And you're wondering if you should be friends or not?





Greta75 -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 4:28:19 AM)


quote:


3. If I understand the post correctly, he broke into a house uninvited and raped someone. And assaulted you sexually. And you're wondering if you should be friends or not?

Yes!!! This is the part that bothers me most! Why is she still friends with this dyke or whatever he or she is suppose to be!
I wouldn't be friends with anybody who touch me sexually without my permission! Male or Female, that's just unacceptable!




angelikaJ -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 5:28:38 AM)


This may help you communicate better:
http://www.cnvc.org/learn/nvc-foundations
(other sections link from there, but it begins here:
http://www.cnvc.org/Training/the-nvc-model )

It seems as though that both you and the people you hang out with have poorly defined personal boundaries.

Figure out what is and is not okay regarding your personal boundaries.
Figure out what your boundaries are.
Let people know.

You are responsible for maintaining your personal boundaries.
No one should be touching you without your permission, but if you don't speak up people aren't going to necessarily know.

edit: typo




ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 5:46:33 AM)

FR

All this sounds childish b/c it is. I assume they are all college age, yet they sound like young teens. Reasons to teach your kids about life and relationships and not let them learn all about that from TV.

BTW: Using the term dyke is unnecessarily inflammatory, this group doesn't need help on that score.

There was never mention of rape, it was "she did worst to my friend. She snuck into her house and got into bed with her and did stuff until she woke up."

Your school should have counseling services available. Do the world a favor and take advantage of them.




Rawni -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 9:16:49 AM)

Climbing into someone's bed, uninvited and touching them is... sexual assault.

And at my house, constitutes my right to really fuck someone up, if I chose to.

The childish games... well, what can one say, but... grow up and pick better friends, be a better friend and walk away from drama.




needlesandpins -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 11:25:38 AM)

firstly, yes you are wrong to call someone the opposite of what they identify as.

secondly, you all sound like children.

lastly, if this person snuck in to a house, and did things to someone without their permission while they were asleep this is sexual assault. it is at worst rape, and I'm wondering why no-one has reported him for it?

needles




tiggerspoohbear -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 12:41:28 PM)

What this friend did can in no way be condoned. If I found someone in MY bed assaulting me, all Hell would break loose.

As to you two, now in Canada, it would be considered cyber-bullying and if the police were to get involved, serious charges could be included. You might also do well to think of all the pressure the TG is under. Is there a support system, psychiatric help, family, friends, etc? They are at a much higher risk for suicide when they have no one to turn to.




DesFIP -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 1:04:42 PM)

If you want to be taken seriously by the police when you and your friend file charges of sexual assault, use the male pronoun. You can tell them that he identifies as a FTM pre-op.

But there is no reason to be friendly with someone who commits criminal acts. There is every reason to press charges, so he does not do this to others in the future.




MalcolmNathaniel -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 1:15:16 PM)

Is this an episode of iCarly or Hannah Montana?




Kitsuneboi -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 1:58:59 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel

Is this an episode of iCarly or Hannah Montana?

I'd say ABC Family anti bully campaign...




shiftyw -> RE: Sometimes people are just emo lol (Rant of childish behavior) (1/21/2014 6:01:48 PM)

Well...to be fair- you were all warned. It clearly says in the title "rant OF childish behavior".




Page: [1]

Valid CSS!




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy
0.03125