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do all dommes demand money? - 1/25/2014 3:19:04 PM   
bmb95


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Status: offline 		I've been wondering do all dommes require money and tributes?
im kinda new to this femdom stuff but really get a thrill from it and im 18 and i go to college so i don't have money, but every dome ive spoke to requests money and when i tell them my money problems the just shut me out.

i may not have money but what i lack in money i make up for obedience, loyalty, submissiveness and the fact i live to serve

so i dont get why nobody give me a chance to show them
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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/25/2014 3:26:11 PM   
MissKittyDeVine


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Status: offline 		No, all dommes do not require money. Are you dealing with online dommes? Perhaps you would do better to attend a local event aimed at people of your age.

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/25/2014 4:15:15 PM   
AlphaFemsRule


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Also: never send money to anyone online, ever.

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/25/2014 4:17:48 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		The answer to the question you asked is no, all Dommes do not require tribute.

That said, no non-tribute Domme will spend time with a sub with a blank profile. Fill it in.

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/25/2014 4:19:13 PM   
DominantWoman65


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Status: offline 		I looked at your profile and it's essentially blank. Perhaps if you write a little about yourself and your vanilla interests you will give yourself more of an opportunity to meet some like minded women.

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/25/2014 4:25:22 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		I was just having this conversation with another dominant, about how we come into our own as dominants and with age, we perfect how we are as a dominant woman. Though I always had a dominant streak... I called it other things and needed to come into my own, to see the value of it and to make my mistakes.

Younger women have learned that entitlement often gets them what they want, but have yet to learn how that will change their lives and unfortunately bmb, you are right in the middle of them. I have met some younger people that are truly amazing, get it and are not entitled, but they are few and far between.

You may be better off watching the women around you and seeing which are down to earth, yet very strong women. Independent, know what they want, goal oriented, etc. You may find a budding dominant right at the next desk over.

Be respectful, see her as a person and not an experience and good luck to you!

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/25/2014 6:27:56 PM   
TieMeInKnottss


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Status: offline 		Since you say you are kind of new to the FinDomme stuff but then say you don't have the money...why pursue findommes? Stick with "relationship Dommes" (those that want to enter into a Fem led relationship). You may be giving mixed signals if you are contacting them and then bringing up that you have no money. Only contact those that do not do that kink.

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/25/2014 6:42:04 PM   
asanaambitions


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Status: offline 		Actually, he says he's new to FemDom stuff, not FinDom.

To the OP, there are many women who either think the financial fetish is a great way to get tonnes of cash without having to do much or have gotten so sick of the hordes of do-me subs that they've decided to make some money off of catering to the guy's fantasies. This does not mean that all dominant women are going to want money, but if you don't want to pay in cash then you'll be paying in time and effort (aka, building a relationship). There are lots of good tips on how to write a good profile and how to approach women in the FAQ's so that's probably the best place to start. Welcome to CM!

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/25/2014 6:52:09 PM   
RedMagic1


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the fact i live to serve

I have no idea what this means. Have you been doing volunteer work your whole life? Did you have younger brothers and sisters and you basically had to be their second parent because your own parents were working all the time? How do you know that you live to do anything?

These aren't rhetorical questions, and maybe you have a solid answer to them. If you do, lead with that answer. It will set you apart from almost all other men your age.

Most women want a mature man. This often means a man who is a little bit older than they are, but it doesn't have to mean that. If you can demonstrate that you are cute and sweet, but also mature, ladies will think you are a great catch.

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/26/2014 5:50:39 PM   
bmb95


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Status: offline 		thanks for the advice everyone i'll take it all on board

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/27/2014 6:14:36 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bmb95

I've been wondering do all dommes require money and tributes?
im kinda new to this femdom stuff but really get a thrill from it and im 18 and i go to college so i don't have money, but every dome ive spoke to requests money and when i tell them my money problems the just shut me out.

i may not have money but what i lack in money i make up for obedience, loyalty, submissiveness and the fact i live to serve

so i dont get why nobody give me a chance to show them


Domme....Vanilla....you're gonna pay.

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/27/2014 6:22:56 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		I recall an 18 year old that found an older mentor in all things sexual... the stories that man could tell later on... and how he shared them with a young woman that thanked god for that woman every night of her time with him, for years. She taught him well and we both benefited.

There are still women out there that will take a young man on... few and far between and younger women that will get together with a young man and though they may be budding dominants to his submissve budding... I think it is wrong that we discourage the younger male so often.

Let's take old people for a moment. Sagging, bodies rearranging... brains that work, some life skills too... and yet... once again the answer is... you better have money. Money to attract them or money to pay them off.

What the hell are we saying?

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/27/2014 6:23:49 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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Status: offline 		No, not "all" Dommes require money and tributes. Some do, some don't. But you will encounter a larger chance of it if your profile is blank and, also, if all you want is kink fulfillment. I see you did do some filling out of your profile, which is a good thing. If you're looking for a kink-delivery system, you can just about bet on it.

One thing you can do, also, is approach Dommes as women who happen to be Dominant rather as Dominants first and then women as an afterthought. We are all women and most like to be approached as such. Oh so I'e heard.

NBMG

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/27/2014 9:44:06 PM   
MistressEsmeUK


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Status: offline 		Ok you're from the Uk like me which has a huge scene. You're better off finding someone that way instead of on here. Reality is there are more subs than Mistresses to go round.

In answer to your original question the answer is NO. This site however is full of scammers who will contact newbies in the hope you're dumb enough to fall for it. Also you're new so don't expect to find somebody over night as that just isn't a realistic goal.

If you're still lost and require some guidance in relation to UK events, give me a shout.

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/27/2014 9:53:58 PM   
MAINEiacMISTRESS


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Status: offline 		No, I demand you pay Tribute in sweat and blistered hands. Now, stop diddlybopping on the computer and get some WORK done. Start by doing My dishes, then mop My kitchen floor. When you are finished with that go split some firewood for My woodstove. Mind the floors when you bring it in, and remove your boots before re-entering the house.


quote:

ORIGINAL: bmb95

I've been wondering do all dommes require money and tributes?
im kinda new to this femdom stuff but really get a thrill from it and im 18 and i go to college so i don't have money, but every dome ive spoke to requests money and when i tell them my money problems the just shut me out.

i may not have money but what i lack in money i make up for obedience, loyalty, submissiveness and the fact i live to serve

so i dont get why nobody give me a chance to show them


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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/28/2014 6:39:02 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS

No, I demand you pay Tribute in sweat and blistered hands. Now, stop diddlybopping on the computer and get some WORK done. Start by doing My dishes, then mop My kitchen floor. When you are finished with that go split some firewood for My woodstove. Mind the floors when you bring it in, and remove your boots before re-entering the house.


quote:

ORIGINAL: bmb95

I've been wondering do all dommes require money and tributes?
im kinda new to this femdom stuff but really get a thrill from it and im 18 and i go to college so i don't have money, but every dome ive spoke to requests money and when i tell them my money problems the just shut me out.

i may not have money but what i lack in money i make up for obedience, loyalty, submissiveness and the fact i live to serve

so i dont get why nobody give me a chance to show them




I don't think diddlybopping is an actual woid.

I demand a court correction!!!

WOID!!!!

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/29/2014 1:42:18 PM   
Arturas


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so i dont get why nobody give me a chance to show them




We call this "fishing".

Any nibbles? Any on the hook?


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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/30/2014 12:50:53 AM   
Darkersided


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Status: offline 		Men have tried to demand from me,not money but services....I've offered n
o service so demand no money

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 1/30/2014 6:10:06 AM   
thishereboi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bmb95

I've been wondering do all dommes require money and tributes?



No they don't. In fact I have found that when you are talking about real life events and parties the majority of them don't. Now if you are only talking about online and you figure in the "princess profiles" the number jumps way up but those are pretty easy to spot and ignore. Not sure about the UK but over here we have groups specifically for younger people. Maybe there is something like that near you.

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RE: do all dommes demand money? - 2/3/2014 5:01:02 AM   
Realsoft666


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Status: offline 		Strange question.If you have no money, or you do not like to pay tributte-download some bdsm films and stay at home.When you go for romantic eeting with women you also asking why did you must give her flower, invite to the restorant? Dominant women -she also women, but she will never acsept flowers or romantic dinner with sab guys. in last 15-20 years, guys be ome so cheap greedy and cunning. So simple, show respect by tributtes! your nude fat ass is not intrested

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