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RE: Lies In A Profile - 12/23/2004 9:27:43 PM

mergingdreams

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I think I have had the pleasure to talk with MasterLon on AOL. I have found his thoughts on D/s to be quite well thought out and educated there. I also have had the pleasure to in that time see that he is not only intelligent but a true gentleman. Something this day and age is lacking quite often. I do not judge ones writing skills to be a great picture of intelligence, since many who write well have nothing but the ability to conjure words to page.
I will say that I too have found on occasion both here and alas in real life that many are not perhaps lying but not looking as deeply at who they are and what they want. If one is not honest with themselves tis hard to be so with others. So please, Master Lon keep your thoughts positve from what I have seen from you thus far I am sure you will find eventually the match you seek. Good things come to all who are willing to work for them, and I believe you are. Good luck on what you seek, and welcome to the site.

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RE: Lies In A Profile - 1/1/2005 11:18:50 AM

ehlovindom

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All I can add to the POSITIVE posts is that lying is an equal gender opportunist and those who persist in lying, well, time wounds all heels!

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RE: Lies In A Profile - 1/2/2005 12:18:57 AM

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Honestly a lie is a lie,from what I see all lie in life...in general but what matters is the size,I notice that online there is no reason to lie. Some do if they aren't secure enough with who they are within....I mean there are always lies...out there,but it matters within the person. Maybe I am just being bitter since I gout out of a relationship recently.

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RE: Lies In A Profile - 1/2/2005 12:49:00 AM

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I think some people lie because they assume everyone else is also doing it and therefore it's no biggie. I don't know whether these folks are 'pathological' or simply incapable of understanding honesty is its own reward. Either way, I would say you're much better served by discovering a person is dishonest before beginning a relationship than you would be once you had invested very much time, energy and emotion.
Good luck in your search
Timothy

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RE: Lies In A Profile - 1/2/2005 8:15:27 AM

RealityFix

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Hmmmm..........people tend to want what they want.

Let's face it everyone has criteria and a lot of times I think they figure it's better to just not reply to someone they consider a poor match than to say anything at all.

Being out of shape is often equated to being out of control in this lifestyle. Like it or not in this arena,looks VERY MUCH matter. And I think many don't mention things like this for fear of getting harassing emails from people who feel rejected by being filtered out.

I think this is due in part to many having a strong objectification fetish, and basically *attraction=worth*.

I know that's certainly how I feel, and I am in good enough condition to want someone who equals me in physicality. I don't lie about that in my profile or try to be pc.. I say quite blunty that obesity is unnattractive to me.........and I still get grossly overweight subs writing me. And I did NOT put that in there to be ignored-so I wonder,are they lying to themselves when they say they read my profile and still contact me?

Or lying to me by omission, hoping I'll overlook something that's IMPORTANT to me?

This is never an easy thing to find partners in,and the more negatives you have going against you,the lesser your chances are going to be.

But whatever those may be, change the ones you CAN and be honest about the rest. Unless you plan to live your life online,lies only harm the liar,ultimately.

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RE: Lies In A Profile - 1/7/2005 6:41:56 PM

DameDarkness

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Most people who lie do it because they dont want to admit to themselves who they are let a lone anyone else. Dont take it personal.... just they are afraid of themselves and afraid of what other will think of them so they lie to make themselves seem better.

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RE: Lies In A Profile - 1/7/2005 7:42:12 PM

Paulnz

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Interesting quote in this mornings newspaper:-

Americans detest all lies except lies spoken in public or printed lies - Edgar Watson Howe

Personally I don't want to know the whole truth. Lies are fine if it'll make me feel better.

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RE: Lies In A Profile - 1/16/2005 2:20:02 PM

ShadowKnight

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Greetings,

Lies in a profile seems to be a pervasive problem when dealing with internet online ads or personal descriptions. Personally I am proud of the fact that I am a 45 yo Dominant single parent of two (3 & 5) graduate student. Does that scare off most of the girls who are here and even the ones who aren't lying in their profiles? You betcha.

I have been studying and research Gor for the last 28 years...that scares more of them away. I am a Warrior and as such follow a Warriors code of Honor and Chivalry...there goes a few more. Then on top of that I am in a medieval re-creation society and fight in armor and weapons at camping events...well there goes the last few who may have been left. haven't even gotten to the clincher yet...I have had 3 heart attacks already.

Do I honestly expect any girl would be interested in possibly having a relationship with Me? No. The few that claim they did that I have met in other venues were liars on just about everything about their physical appearance...let alone about how they were mentally or emotionally. Should I honestly expect any different here? No.

Where does that leave Us? Just being the best that I can be and not really having much in the way of expectations for many of the so called girls here. I think most of the ones who are honest here are already in collars somewhere. I could be wrong and at some point in the future a girl may prove Me wrong. But to do that she'll have to be here and at My feet.

Just My two tarn bits,

ShadowKnight

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RE: Lies In A Profile - 1/16/2005 8:24:50 PM

slavedesires

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ORIGINAL: Suleiman

Hey - I lie in my profile all the time. If people actually knew that I was a single, attractive, uneducated, independantly wealthy, slender, athletic, incredibly hot woman, I'd be inundated with offers!

shy

who is walking out the door......

you so funny

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RE: Lies In A Profile - 1/16/2005 8:33:38 PM

Shayna

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I have met 2 Doms on line that outright lied (not on this site). But mostly I meet others that have stretched the truth one way or another. When I've discussed this with them, they've claimed that I'm wrong; so perhaps truth is subjective to some extent. I think weight is a good example: what is "fit"? What is "average sized"? What are a "few pounds overweight"? Personally I couldn't care less, but men have not always identified themselves in the same way I would. And as for myself, I have no clue how to describe myself physcially; I'd rather just meet someone in person and see if we click. Much easier!

I have met one person on collar.me that is much hotter than his pic. Sometimes there are really pleasant surprises :)

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