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Real Doms - 2/1/2014 5:26:07 AM   
twong


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Status: offline 		Anyone have a suggestion on how to find a real/true dom ? All that I have contacted are here only for the money. I am looking to be trained and serve on a truly sincere basis, NO PAY. I need to find a dom who can accept mutual satisfaction. Is this even possible??
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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 5:36:50 AM   
myotherself


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From: The cold bit of the UK
Status: offline 		It certainly is possible, there are many on these boards who have found their dominant partner and are very happy.

But there are also a lot of male subs who are still single, for a variety of reasons. My advice would be twofold:

1. For looking online, go to the 'ask a mistress' forum and look at the stickies at the top. You will gain invaluable advice on how to have an attractive online presence that will attract the kind of person you're looking for.

2. Go into your local community and meet people. Go to munches, clubs and make friends. Go to private parties, get the reputation for being a good guy and hopefully that will help you to meet the one for you.

As for a 'true dom' - there's no such thing. My idea of a dom may be diametrically opposed to your idea of a dom, but that doesn't make them fake, just not YOUR kind of dom.

Edited to add:

I just looked at your profile and the red flags were flying all over it! You just list the kinks you're into and you hint strongly that you're cheating on someone (not looking for LTR, part-time only). Just an FYI - this is going to put off a LOT of lifestyle dominants.



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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 5:52:03 AM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: myotherself
I just looked at your profile and the red flags were flying all over it! You just list the kinks you're into and you hint strongly that you're cheating on someone (not looking for LTR, part-time only). Just an FYI - this is going to put off a LOT of lifestyle dominants.

Seriously? Come on, OP. You're a liar, and you're cheap, but you want a woman who cares about you for you? How much porn have you been watching, if you think that strategy is likely to work?

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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 5:52:44 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Your profile says you Like your local BDSM community. If you're already involved with them, you're using your best path to finding someone.

Your profile says you're looking for both males and females. You say that the Doms that you've contacted are all pros, which makes me think that you've only contacted women. You'd stand a far better chance if you contacted men as well. (Note - only contact gay and bi men, okay?)

You've been a member for about three weeks now. Develop some patience. The bunny above spent several years looking before she found her prey, er, Master.

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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 5:54:42 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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From: The t'aint of the Midwest -- Indiana
Status: offline 		You are in CA, one of the kinkiest states in the country. Turn the PC off and get out into your local community.

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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 6:29:07 AM   
ResidentSadist


Posts: 12580
Joined: 2/11/2007
From: a mean old Daddy, but I like you - Joni Mitchell
Status: offline 		Face it, you don't "need CBT", you want cbt.
You don't "need to be properly punished."
You don't "need bottom training."
. . . and "Chastity training with sounds" is really not required.

Saying you need it makes you look like a brat. What's in it for the Domme you seek? You offer nothing but an untrained needy 52 yo cockcentric, self absorbed male brat who is "not looking for LTR" and just seeking a hook up. What you really need is to offer something that actually implies you are truly interested "mutual satisfaction" so you don't look like a brainwashed porn addict. Otherwise the only thing you have that would attract someone to a needy profile like that is your money.

So why pretend to change your personality? Why not just convert some of your porn budget to pay for a real life encounter?

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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 8:43:32 AM   
OsideGirl


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From: United States
Status: offline 		Your profile reads like you want a service top. So, you're getting what you're advertising for.

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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 11:03:19 AM   
MissKittyDeVine


Posts: 1054
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Status: offline 		"Needy cockcentric, self absorbed male brat", lol that describes so many who've seen porn and think they can just order up a Domme to do exactly what they want.

OP, if you were prepared to pay a pro there are plenty who LOVE CBT.

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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 12:02:38 PM   
TNDommeK


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Status: offline 		Because fin or pro aren't real Dommes.

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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 1:55:36 PM   
TieMeInKnottss


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Face it, you don't "need CBT", you want cbt.
You don't "need to be properly punished."
You don't "need bottom training."
. . . and "Chastity training with sounds" is really not required.

Saying you need it makes you look like a brat. What's in it for the Domme you seek? You offer nothing but an untrained needy 52 yo cockcentric, self absorbed male brat who is "not looking for LTR" and just seeking a hook up. What you really need is to offer something that actually implies you are truly interested "mutual satisfaction" so you don't look like a brainwashed porn addict. Otherwise the only thing you have that would attract someone to a needy profile like that is your money.

So why pretend to change your personality? Why not just convert some of your porn budget to pay for a real life encounter?


Wait a minute! if I say I "need" to be punished, I "need" a cock to suck, I "need" to be tied up and fucked and that I am "not looking for LTR and just seeking to hook up" I am not going to get any responses.... Are you telling me there MIGHT be a double standard?

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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 2:12:31 PM   
myotherself


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From: The cold bit of the UK
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

You've been a member for about three weeks now. Develop some patience. The bunny above spent several years looking before she found her prey, er, Master.


OK, that made me spit coffee...and now I need to find a new avatar

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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 2:38:38 PM   
CreativeDominant


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss


quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Face it, you don't "need CBT", you want cbt.
You don't "need to be properly punished."
You don't "need bottom training."
. . . and "Chastity training with sounds" is really not required.

Saying you need it makes you look like a brat. What's in it for the Domme you seek? You offer nothing but an untrained needy 52 yo cockcentric, self absorbed male brat who is "not looking for LTR" and just seeking a hook up. What you really need is to offer something that actually implies you are truly interested "mutual satisfaction" so you don't look like a brainwashed porn addict. Otherwise the only thing you have that would attract someone to a needy profile like that is your money.

So why pretend to change your personality? Why not just convert some of your porn budget to pay for a real life encounter?


Wait a minute! if I say I "need" to be punished, I "need" a cock to suck, I "need" to be tied up and fucked and that I am "not looking for LTR and just seeking to hook up" I am not going to get any responses.... Are you telling me there MIGHT be a double standard?


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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 6:57:01 PM   
Esinn


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Joined: 6/23/2009
Status: offline 		No, it is not possible. All female DOMS just want cash. None are real

(heh)

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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 10:31:05 PM   
FieryOpal


Posts: 2821
Joined: 12/8/2013
From: Maryland
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Esinn

No, it is not possible. All female DOMS just want cash. None are real

(heh)

You were just messing with his head, weren't you?

Exhibit A: "(heh)" in closing.

Otherwise, you just might be in for a (free) lecture, mon ami....

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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 11:40:29 PM   
sunshinemiss


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quote:

ORIGINAL: twong

Anyone have a suggestion on how to find a real/true dom ? All that I have contacted are here only for the money. I am looking to be trained and serve on a truly sincere basis, NO PAY. I need to find a dom who can accept mutual satisfaction. Is this even possible??


No.

Of course out of nearly ... what?... 7 billion people in the world, there is surely SOMEONE. Realistically? What do you have to offer? " I will let her do things to my body until I have an orgasm." You and nearly every other man. Women, generally speaking, don't care to be used.

So... again... What are you offering? You are offering, more or less, a piece of stale, moldy bread that you pulled out of your pocket. And the women have free access to every five star rated restaurant in the world... AND. a private jet to fly them to those places. Sorry, dude. Your stale, moldy bread just generally doesn't appeal.

good luck,
sunshine

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RE: Real Doms - 2/1/2014 11:59:44 PM   
DaddySatyr


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From: Pittston, Pennsyltucky
Status: offline 		Ever heard of a "divining rod"?





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RE: Real Doms - 2/2/2014 7:50:09 AM   
Kana


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

Because fin or pro aren't real Dommes.

Finally, at last,one admits the truth!

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RE: Real Doms - 2/2/2014 11:34:39 PM   
Esinn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: FieryOpal


quote:

ORIGINAL: Esinn

No, it is not possible. All female DOMS just want cash. None are real

(heh)

You were just messing with his head, weren't you?

Exhibit A: "(heh)" in closing.

Otherwise, you just might be in for a (free) lecture, mon ami....


I might want a lecture. What will you be wearing? I actually have some outfits here.


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RE: Real Doms - 2/3/2014 12:33:45 AM   
FieryOpal


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Joined: 12/8/2013
From: Maryland
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Esinn


quote:

ORIGINAL: FieryOpal


quote:

ORIGINAL: Esinn

No, it is not possible. All female DOMS just want cash. None are real

(heh)

You were just messing with his head, weren't you?

Exhibit A: "(heh)" in closing.

Otherwise, you just might be in for a (free) lecture, mon ami....


I might want a lecture. What will you be wearing? I actually have some outfits here.


Oh, you want Real Time? That might not be so practical, you know. No, I don't Skype either.

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RE: Real Doms - 2/3/2014 2:17:59 AM   
ThatEnigmaticGuy


Posts: 8
Joined: 2/2/2014
From: I remember a tornado and a lil dog too
Status: offline 		Real Doms/Dommes? I laugh every time I hear someone say that. Is there a definition of a real Dom/Domme? if so I think it was left out of the handbook. I am a gay bottom who was at one point owned for 10 years. I was lucky enough to find a man that seen something in me and guided me to where i needed to me. Sadly he has passed, but i am not any less grateful for the experiences he gave me. It makes me the Dom i am today. Am i a "Real Dom"? Most will say no, but just because I am not the right one for them, or not the typical Dom, that doesnt make me any less real. Being a Dom/Dommes I am going to quote from another thread:

quote:

ORIGINAL: pg4g
Dominant suggests you take control, not that you secretly enjoy losing it with some attitude. Learning about who has control in the encounter would be the true meaning of "Dominant and Submissive" - not just your attitude.


Reading your profile, its sad to say, but it sounds that you are just a guy into kink.

A submissive that had demands(and that is what 99% percent of what your profile reads OP, wants to be in control, not lose it)

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