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I got james to finally stop fighting the help he needs ... - 2/2/2014 11:43:19 AM   
LittleGirlHeart


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Status: offline 		you all wanted honesty about what;s going on about me breaking and wanted me to get the help i needed. well i did. I broke up with James. I told him he can stay here but i can not and will not ruin my good health and limited energy on you any more.
He is so messed up in his head that he hears what he wants to in regards to me and kept traumatizing me and re injuiring me emotionally, and it was understandable it was out of love. but love can not excuse doing real harm top eople



I was in a bad spot when going to the ER I willingly admited it to the dr and because i admited i had a problem i was treated as a pych patient who is going crazy and not a person with a medical complaint. who also admits she needs help and will get help.

I was going to the SSI office tomorow to tell them James moved in an everything. But now after both of us having a pychatric melt down I convinced him to stop hurting alone stronger we are together and i will not loose my daddy to his idiocy i can;'t im bnot strong enough to loose you to the bull shit, but i will loose you to getting the help you need. I AM STRONG ENOUGH TO DO THAT.

IF YOUL OVE SOMEONE YOU DO NOT BE AFRAID TO LET GO OF THEM.

So I am at a loss of what to do. i don't want him here, but he has no place to go. he and his mom might get a place to move in together.


I am honestly hoping that he will be commited for an involuntary hold because he needs an institution. and frankly so do i. But I am scared that if I make my bones about going into the ER For actual real trauma and they treat me like a pych patient when i am not, that i will now prove that i made their case if i, go back for mental issues so soon after i said i wasn;t mentaL, but i know i will not get the help i need if i am not honest.

But I was honest and it was a huge tramatic experience. and I am terrified from it and shell shocked and gun shy from it. this is it i am admitting i am broke. I am putting because i've tried really hard and i have nobody here to advocate for me , and i keep following leads an they keep inssisting no we don't do that. I am putting down my armour and my boots and i am standing before those who knew something bad was coming and tell them you're right. i need help and i don;t know how to get it.




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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/2/2014 12:30:27 PM   
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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/2/2014 12:43:44 PM   
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Step away from the web browser and sort your stuff out LGH.





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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/2/2014 12:46:27 PM   
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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/2/2014 12:52:34 PM   
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I don't know how. the web browswer is my only resiorce to soret things out.
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Step away from the web browser and sort your stuff out LGH.





Kana sez, no it's not. The state has lots of resources. It's on you to use them
I ain't gonna give advice (In most states they refer to that as practicing medicine w/o a license and its a felony), but I can say from personal experience that when I was homeless and on the streets, strung out and crazy as hell, I reached out and all sorts of doors started opening. But first I had to reach out. Once that happened, all sorts of things began to unfold, but it began with a call to the local pysch ward, admitting that I was outta my gourd and at a loss for what to do.
Sure as shit, I didn't get the help I wanted (Two cops showed up at my door and took me to the ER for detox/evaluation), but I got the help I desperately needed.
Many many years later I can look back and say that day, what I thought was the worst in my life, actually was the best. Those cops saved my life that night and I'm forever grateful to them for that.
For me, and this may only be for me, I had to lose everything before becoming willing to change.
But if you are, there's lots of help out there. You just need to avail yourself of it.

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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/2/2014 1:36:18 PM   
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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/2/2014 2:03:40 PM   
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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/2/2014 5:29:37 PM   
LittleGirlHeart


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Status: offline 		Don't you think i have reached out. every one sees i have been reaching out and have been ignored. I WANTED to talk to the pych dr as well as my medical injury. Why do you think I am in crisis now. I have been reaching out. all my poasts are all about how i been reaching out.
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I reached out and all sorts of doors started opening. But first I had to reach out. Once that happened, all sorts of things began to unfold, but it began with a call to the local pysch ward, admitting that I was outta my gourd and at a loss for what to do.



Sure as shit, I didn't get the help I wanted (Two cops showed up at my door and took me to the ER for detox/evaluation), but I got the help I desperately needed.
Many many years later I can look back and say that day, what I thought was the worst in my life, actually was the best. Those cops saved my life that night and I'm forever grateful to them for that.
For me, and this may only be for me, I had to lose everything before becoming willing to change.
But if you are, there's lots of help out there. You just need to avail yourself of it.



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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/2/2014 5:33:59 PM   
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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/2/2014 7:45:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		I hope it works out...I am confused though. Everything you have always posted about him indicates that you two were very close and together for a long time.


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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/4/2014 10:01:57 PM   
LittleGirlHeart


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Status: offline 		i replied to you privately but i will reply here too.

We were. still probably can be, but this needed to happen. two stressed people are no good for each other when the stress is so bad it hurts everything going on

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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/5/2014 4:51:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		Now you should concentrate on getting the help that you need.

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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/5/2014 12:29:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		You know, that is the first time that I have seen you post something compassionate and nice towards LGH. Thank you!

And you are right, too. She absolutely needs to concentrate on her own health now.

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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/5/2014 12:44:40 PM   
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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/5/2014 8:16:27 PM   
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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/5/2014 8:58:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		LGH I hope this all works out for you especially because I can tell it's weighing on you so deeply that you felt like you needed to wear your heart on your sleeve even on this forum.
We have ALL been there when we cared deeply for someone who was on a self destructive path and reluctantly taking the ones around them along for the ride.
I applaud the way you have been handling things yourself in trying to find the best answers for your relationship.
My very best advice is to never sacrifice your own happiness in order to save someone from themselves, especially when the chances of that person's recovery are slim to none.
Sometimes just being close to someone with a mental illness is contagious so be mindful of oneself and one's health always xoxoxox :)


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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/5/2014 9:06:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you so much. yes. he was taking me and my family down with him. and it sucked. i feel a huge weight has lifted off me. I'd be super happy and capable if i was ready to be alone and disabled.

I looked him dead in the eye and I calmy said" If you EVER Cause me another panic attack like you did today we are done . I love you but i will not be pushed into a psychiatric episode and get put in pych again because of you. and he just couldn't listen and , ultimately was cuasing me more stress than joy.
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LGH I hope this all works out for you especially because I can tell it's weighing on you so deeply that you felt like you needed to wear your heart on your sleeve even on this forum.
We have ALL been there when we cared deeply for someone who was on a self destructive path and reluctantly taking the ones around them along for the ride.
I applaud the way you have been handling things yourself in trying to find the best answers for your relationship.
My very best advice is to never sacrifice your own happiness in order to save someone from themselves, especially when the chances of that person's recovery are slim to none.
Sometimes just being close to someone with a mental illness is contagious so be mindful of oneself and one's health always xoxoxox :)




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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/5/2014 9:07:33 PM   
LittleGirlHeart


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Status: offline 		As my dad would say Oh yee of little faith. It's been nothing but dr visit after dr visit to see them and to get the help i need. want to read about the progress check my journal. Chi has asked me to journal and not update since it causes up roars.
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She won't listen to anyone here regardless .



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RE: I got james to finally stop fighting the help he ne... - 2/6/2014 9:16:29 AM   
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Call 211 tomorrow.
Ask for help.


Alas, 211 and 311 service are only available in very limited areas. The local municipality has to pay for the service to be piggy backed onto their federally mandated 911 service and few local governments have actually bought into this and hired people to man the phones to support it. You have to spend hours on the phone being bounced from one bureaucrat to another trying to find someone, anyone, that has enough give a shit to direct you to whom you need to talk to.

Also, if you have ip based telephone service such as AT&T Uverse, Vonage, etc. it renders the 311 and 211 service unable to determine where you need to be referred to and will trigger the computer message "call cannot be completed as dialed".

I'm still getting call backs from the fellow troubleshooting after I reported that my city's 311 service would not work from my home. But, it works from my cellphone. (I have Uverse)

End of sidebar, didn't really intend to hijack the thread but the 211 mention pushed a button.

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