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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Sure, I should wear a tee shirt that explains my physical disability, so potential muggers will know ahead of time that I'm a good victim.

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

LMAO.... another keyboard ruining by ill-timed CM perusal.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Sure, I should wear a tee shirt that explains my physical disability, so potential muggers will know ahead of time that I'm a good victim.

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ORIGINAL: Rawni

I used to wear what I called attitude shirts. 'PMS'ing, do you dare?' 'I'll be nicer when you are smarter' My fav. However, I would not wear a shirt that said anything about my illness or disability. That might seem to assist some that don't get it... but if you talk to someone that cannot hear you, you will either think they can't hear you or are ignoring you. I can't see any of my friends that were deaf, wearing one. They carry a tactful card if something was needed.

To advertise what society may see as a weakness can make you prey to the not so wonderful that are out there. I wouldn't advise it. Haven't you heard of people in wheel chairs being tossed out of them and their chairs stolen? How about the statistics on the disabled being victims. That can be an eye opener.

Don't point it out if you are vulnerable in public.

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ORIGINAL: servantforuse

LGH, What would you put on your shirt ?

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ORIGINAL: LittleGirlHeart

I don't know who you're replying to, but what does that have to do with a way to handle the issue that comes up when people are, say deaf, and people do not realize and do not know to get their attention first?


It's kind of a cute idea.

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

How about seriously working on having effective communication skills so you can appropriately let people know you are having a hard time?

http://www.cnvc.org/Training/the-nvc-model

I am not surprised you don't know how, given your background.
But here's the thing: you are an adult and can choose to learn.
It may take you longer to learn but I do believe you are capable if you have the willingness.
That too, is a choice.
You can choose to be willing.
You can choose to keep putting one foot in front of the other.
You can choose not to live by default (not to allow yourself to live by other people's choices because you won't make your own).

You may not have had choices when you were younger, but you do have choices now.

You don't need gimmicks.
You need tools.
And the willingness to ask for them... and use them.

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ORIGINAL: ShaharThorne

Its bad enough that I suffer from several disorders, both mentally and physically. I don't want to wear a label just like what Hitler did to the Jews in Europe. If people ask me what is wrong, I will tell them but until then it is none of their business. I even had an aunt wondering if I had diabetes because I am overweight until I corrected her.

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ORIGINAL: LittleGirlHeart

a custom embroidered t shirt, stating something like say for example I am deaf, get my attention before talking to me.

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

Most people with disabilties don't care to announce them to the world. They make it known when necessary.

I have a physical disability although it isn't visably noticable. I wouldn't wear a shirt announcing it.

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie





I'm actually surprised how often, watching people avoid people in wheelchairs, using arm crutches due to Cerebral Palsy, have vision problems, etc., that when I go out of my way to say hello and ask them "what happened?", they're thrilled that someone actually took an interest in them.

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie



I'm actually surprised how often, watching people avoid people in wheelchairs, using arm crutches due to Cerebral Palsy, have vision problems, etc., that when I go out of my way to say hello and ask them "what happened?", they're thrilled that someone actually took an interest in them.

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie



I'm actually surprised how often, watching people avoid people in wheelchairs, using arm crutches due to Cerebral Palsy, have vision problems, etc., that when I go out of my way to say hello and ask them "what happened?", they're thrilled that someone actually took an interest in them.

Really, Lookie? You'd walk up to a stranger in a wheel chair and ask what happened? If I were that stranger, I'd say 'not your f*ckin' business, chump'.

I've been going to the dances in a sling for the last 7 months. I am sick to DEATH of people asking, 'what happened?' because there are 250 dancers and I run into every single one of them in a contra line before the night is over. I'm not there to explain 250 times how my body is old and giving out and there's not a fook of a lot I can do about it. I'm there to dance as well as I can without an available arm, enjoy the music, and try to maintain some semblance of normal life while in excruciating pain. I do NOT want to dwell on it 250 times in an evening.

So why not just leave it at 'hello', which most people would consider completely acceptable?

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie



I'm actually surprised how often, watching people avoid people in wheelchairs, using arm crutches due to Cerebral Palsy, have vision problems, etc., that when I go out of my way to say hello and ask them "what happened?", they're thrilled that someone actually took an interest in them.

Really, Lookie? You'd walk up to a stranger in a wheel chair and ask what happened? If I were that stranger, I'd say 'not your f*ckin' business, chump'.

I've been going to the dances in a sling for the last 7 months. I am sick to DEATH of people asking, 'what happened?' because there are 250 dancers and I run into every single one of them in a contra line before the night is over. I'm not there to explain 250 times how my body is old and giving out and there's not a fook of a lot I can do about it. I'm there to dance as well as I can without an available arm, enjoy the music, and try to maintain some semblance of normal life while in excruciating pain. I do NOT want to dwell on it 250 times in an evening.

So why not just leave it at 'hello', which most people would consider completely acceptable?

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

The difference between someone temporarily having a broken arm and someone permanently in a wheelchair is that the disabled are looked past. People don't make eye contact with them.

Part of it is our own squeamishness, then there's the natural uncomfortableness of not knowing what to say, similar to speaking to a newly bereaved.

As a result, they are marginalized. When someone who is totally ignored, when even sales clerks turn to the accompanying friend to ask what size and don't acknowledge a request by a chair bound person, then to have someone like Lookie come up and talk and ask their help improving the accessibility advice is empowering.