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New/Shy Sub - 2/5/2014 7:53:23 AM

evilbunnie66

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--What I had Already Written, I'm almost certain that came out all ass backwards and perhaps wasn't the way I wanted to

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RE: New/Shy Sub - 2/5/2014 7:54:45 AM

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talk to master

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RE: New/Shy Sub - 2/5/2014 8:03:24 AM

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This doesn't sound like a Dom/sub issue, it sounds like a stressed new Mom with a husband who us not helping or listening enough.

You are getting into physical fights with 2 babies around!

I think you both need to sit down and talk this out, calmly. Take the D/s out of it for the moment.

It seems me that being good parents and partners is the priority right now.

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RE: New/Shy Sub - 2/5/2014 8:16:17 AM

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I'm not good at talking- everything is all ass backwards or come out meaning one thing when I had another intention on the meaning- I start choking up or stuttering.
and I always somehow seem to make things worse and his short temper/over thinking doesn't normally end up going the way I would like outcomes to be.

I can try to talk but ACTIONS speak louder than words- I don't have a penis- nothing I say Matters- goes in one ear and out the other

maybe any tips or creative things to try?? maybe any tips on a new directional advise to help me change to be better or what is it in him that I need to full fill to cause him to act in a new direction

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RE: New/Shy Sub - 2/5/2014 8:19:18 AM

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oh and by the way---- WE DONT fight where they are around- we take it outside. ---- and we have Prgressed and gotten WAY better in that dept. we haven't fought in 2 months- I know I prolly have stated that earlier... told u,, I'm bad at communication---- =/

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RE: New/Shy Sub - 2/5/2014 8:50:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

This doesn't sound like a Dom/sub issue, it sounds like a stressed new Mom with a husband who us not helping or listening enough.

You are getting into physical fights with 2 babies around!

I think you both need to sit down and talk this out, calmly. Take the D/s out of it for the moment.

It seems me that being good parents and partners is the priority right now.

I agree with this. And I would also suggest couples counseling. You have too much at stake to not be on the same page together. Good luck to you.

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RE: New/Shy Sub - 2/5/2014 10:29:17 AM

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I also have problems vocalizing my thoughts and feelings especially in a confrontational setting.... It does not even have to BE an argument...I get really nervous and anxious. I am probably more phobic" than just reluctant.... That being said, I have found two ways that work for me- when my marriage was disintegrating and I never felt my husband heard me, understood me... A neutral third party/referee can be of great help...someone that does not let you back down or just "agree" to get out of the situation or be bullied by the other person... Also, I find that writing all my concerns/arguments down works great. I will write everything down...put it in order and make sure I fully explain what I need to say and will either give it to my Dom (we are pretty casual and more "dating" then the relationships others have with more defined lines and protocol) who lives 4 hrs away or, if we are together, I will use the written "script" to keep myself on target and focused.

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RE: New/Shy Sub - 2/5/2014 11:16:47 AM

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