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ARIES83 -> RE: How have you been tested by your Dom/Master? (2/6/2014 11:49:43 AM)
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ORIGINAL: smileforme50
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ORIGINAL: ARIES83
If I subject my partner to discomfort and she endures it. Isn't that a test...
A test of devotion, endurance, of her limits? Of her acceptance of my control and the surrendering of herself to my will?
You all seem to have jumped to the worse case scenario of what constitutes a "test"...
Why should it be motivated by a lack of trust? Do high school tests signify a lack of trust by the education system in its students?
"Of her acceptance of my control and the surrendering of herself to my will? "
But I think that's what everyone else was talking about..,,. Isn't the fact that she has accepted your collar and obeys you enough? I think if the D feels the need to test it shows a lack of trust on the D's part.
I don't have a collar for anyone to accept. A collar doesn't have a universal meaning and from what I've seen, runs the gamut from 'symbol of ownership' to 'kinky bedroom attire'.
That aside, Yes I'm sure they were saying something along those lines.
I am trying to show there can be other less negative reasons and that all tests do not ultimately boil down to trust or insecurity issues, I think all that's required from anyone reading this is to accept that is to have an open mind and broaden their definition of what may constitute a test.
I don't think it too unreasonable to say that dominance exists in the provence of action not words, so is it so unreasonable to say the same for submission.
Tests can be the measure of your skills or knowledge. Evaluative or even diagnostic.
Tests can be the method by which you are able to gauge yourself. The method to identify where you excel and where you come up short.
Not to mention pleasure and affirmation as a motivation as I think... I saw recently...
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Resident Sadist:
It touches my heart and slakes my sadistic lust when she truly suffers. I mean, jaw jittering with knees knocking in fear, lip quivering, raccoon eyes shedding mascara stained tears that are rolling down her cheeks from the physical pain and emotional turmoil it took to muster up the courage to do this. Then finally she screams a primal scream and burst out crying. It is that deep emotional crying that encompasses all the emotions at once. She is crying from fearful terror, pain, love, faith and joy all at once because they were released when she crossed the thresholds to come to me.
Those truly selfless 'sacrifices' for my pleasure, that journey down a hard painful road to come be with me in my place, to be with my violent animal nature, those are the measure of sacrifice for me. Because it was for my pleasure, not her orgasm. That is a tangible measure that can be weighed in blood sweat and tears. Something you can put on a scale and say, "this proof is a measure of love, devotion and and trust in me."
So if you ever see me look fondly at a puddle of piss on the floor under a torture device or see me smile if when someone shits themselves in fear or pain, I am smiling because it warms my heart to see a tangible measures of dedication.
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