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SatanicDevil -> Proving Devotion (2/6/2014 1:21:14 AM)
Hello, I have just met a Domme online (not a pro domme) and we have been chatting for a while and we seem interested in each other although she lives in a diffrent country. We had agreed to meet in sometime but for now she has asked me to prove my devotion to her. Can I get some help on ideas to prove my devotion? Im stuck, one idea i came up with was to send a gift. Its abit hard since she is far away and online chatting only for now. [:(] Appreciate your feedback. [;)]

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/6/2014 1:47:01 AM)
Non snarky question - are you really devoted to her? Because devotion to someone you have not yet met seems a little unwise. Since she's in a different country, you might never meet, or meet but not be able to make a relationship work, or meet but have zero chemistry. And what is she doing to prove her commitment to you? I know 'prove your devotion' sounds very domly indeed, but I'm of the belief that you should both be figuring out whether the other person is compatible and worth your time, rather than the sub having to jump through all the hoops. The hoop-jumping comes later, once you've met and decided to commit. Anyway, boring sensible shit aside: What matters to her? Anyone can buy a gift. Find out her interests and passions and do something relating to those OR something that only you could offer. If you have musical talent, you could write her a song. If you know she's passionate about animal welfare, you could do a sponsored run in aid of an animal charity. If she speaks another language, you could study until you can recite a speech about what she means to you in that language. Track down a rare first edition of her favourite childhood book. If she's interested in researching local history, read up about where she comes from so you can hold a conversation with her. Paint her portrait. Any of those things would mean more to me than a gift and all can be done long distance. Show her that you are interested in what makes her unique and you are invested in sharing her interests. If you want to demonstrate devotion, it needs to be extremely personal and show some serious effort. Otherwise it's just a token gesture.

evesgrden -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/6/2014 1:56:33 AM)
You "just met".. or rather became online pen pals You "seem" interested in each other. You live far away from each other. 1. How the hell can you be devoted to someone you don't know? 2. She's not a pro? Then why the hell does she need "proof". 3. or.... if you say you are devoted to her and she says she needs proof, then for all intents and purposes she's calling you a liar since clearly your word is not good enough. Devotion? that's something you can define in hindsight. If she were ill, would drop everything today to do be with her and take care of her? Leave your home, your job? Or arrange for her to be with you if that would better provide for her care? That's devotion. Or... just tell her to mail you one of her boots and you'll lick it for her on cam. If she needs some material or financial proof, then she's a findomme and she's lied to you. Move on.

Miyani -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/6/2014 5:21:27 AM)
If she does need financial proof, I suggest you ask her which causes she is passionate about, because you'd love to prove your devotion to her by making a contribution to a charity that supports them, in her name. You'll find out pretty quick whether she just wants the cash.

FieryOpal -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/6/2014 11:00:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Miyani If she does need financial proof, I suggest you ask her which causes she is passionate about, because you'd love to prove your devotion to her by making a contribution to a charity that supports them, in her name. You'll find out pretty quick whether she just wants the cash. Funny you and AthenaSurrenders brought up this subject because I know a Domme who does this with any of her prospective subs. She weeds out about 98% of the contenders, which she figures is about right, that only 1 in 50 are worth considering to start. The other 49 make a hasty exit. Then for the foot fetishists, she makes them pay for her pedicures and some other incidentals, including her shoe-shopping trips. For every style he wants her to wear that she agrees to, she picks what suits herself. To the OP, if you know what kind of music she likes, send her a music playlist you compiled. If you're not sure, go with either a selection of upbeat tempos (a medley of British bands) or relaxing trance mixes. A sub did this for me as a surprise and I ended up purchasing the full CDs to listen to in the car, and I thought it was sweet of him to introduce me to music he enjoyed listening to. If you do end up buying your "Mistress" a wearable gift, make sure she models it for you. My suggestion before you go that route, though, is to write her a short poem. Any woman who can't appreciate a romantic piece of poetry or a song/tune for which she was the inspiration isn't a woman worth your devotion, in my book.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/6/2014 11:11:15 AM)
^^ No kidding. Someone wrote me a song once - not even someone I was romantic with - and it still gives me warm fuzzies to think of it ten years later.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/6/2014 3:12:42 PM)
The whole "prove your devotion," and the other thread about "testing" your sub always remind me of of high school boys and the "if you loved me, you would....." Personally, I dont like either and for someone in another country who you haven't even met? If you want to play along, go ahead and write a poem, make a mix tape. I would advise you do not spend any money on someone you have yet to meet in person.

evesgrden -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/6/2014 3:17:41 PM)
"If you loved me you would ....." Emotional blackmail to a T.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/6/2014 4:23:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SatanicDevil Hello, I have just met a Domme online (not a pro domme) and we have been chatting for a while and we seem interested in each other although she lives in a diffrent country. We had agreed to meet in sometime but for now she has asked me to prove my devotion to her. Can I get some help on ideas to prove my devotion? Im stuck, one idea i came up with was to send a gift. Its abit hard since she is far away and online chatting only for now. [:(] Appreciate your feedback. [;)] I say give her $100.00 every week.

MsMJAY -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/6/2014 5:41:55 PM)
Write her a poem Make her a really nice greeting card with your own hands Give her a devotion time. Tell her everyday at (whatever) time you will stop everything you are doing and do nothing but think about her for the next 5 minutes. Honor her with a "lint sacrifice"- Give up something you love but can live without in honor of her. Rescue a dog Make a donation to your local BDSM community in her honor Find out what she likes and what is important to her and prove your devotion by becoming devoted to what is important to her. If you find a way to prove your devotion without money it will not only prove your devotion- but her devotion as well.

Arturas -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/6/2014 5:58:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie quote: ORIGINAL: SatanicDevil Hello, I have just met a Domme online (not a pro domme) and we have been chatting for a while and we seem interested in each other although she lives in a diffrent country. We had agreed to meet in sometime but for now she has asked me to prove my devotion to her. Can I get some help on ideas to prove my devotion? Im stuck, one idea i came up with was to send a gift. Its abit hard since she is far away and online chatting only for now. [:(] Appreciate your feedback. [;)] I say give her $100.00 every week. Really? I used to charge my girls $50 a week. Does that mean I'm cheap or just good to them?

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/7/2014 2:09:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arturas quote: ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie quote: ORIGINAL: SatanicDevil Hello, I have just met a Domme online (not a pro domme) and we have been chatting for a while and we seem interested in each other although she lives in a diffrent country. We had agreed to meet in sometime but for now she has asked me to prove my devotion to her. Can I get some help on ideas to prove my devotion? Im stuck, one idea i came up with was to send a gift. Its abit hard since she is far away and online chatting only for now. [:(] Appreciate your feedback. [;)] I say give her $100.00 every week. Really? I used to charge my girls $50 a week. Does that mean I'm cheap or just good to them? As a professional sub, I have an ongoing gratuity that, if put on MasterCard or VISA is only $15.95 per week, but if by check, $23.95 (higher associated accounting costs). But, one of you has tits....that's worth a premium. I'd say you're correctly priced.

GoddessBlueKura -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/14/2014 6:10:53 AM)
It's been a week now what happened?

LadyConstanze -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/14/2014 7:25:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Miyani If she does need financial proof, I suggest you ask her which causes she is passionate about, because you'd love to prove your devotion to her by making a contribution to a charity that supports them, in her name. You'll find out pretty quick whether she just wants the cash. That's a fantastic idea! Though whenever the self-declared pay piggies approached me and I gave them a charity, it was no fun for them, they always wanted my address to send me a present (and I checked, I do not have stupid tattooed on my forehead)

MistressDarkArt -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/14/2014 12:16:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze quote: ORIGINAL: Miyani If she does need financial proof, I suggest you ask her which causes she is passionate about, because you'd love to prove your devotion to her by making a contribution to a charity that supports them, in her name. You'll find out pretty quick whether she just wants the cash. That's a fantastic idea! Though whenever the self-declared pay piggies approached me and I gave them a charity, it was no fun for them, they always wanted my address to send me a present (and I checked, I do not have stupid tattooed on my forehead) The few times somebody approached me to findomme, I told them to get a receipt from their local food bank, homeless or animal shelter for $25 or more. Not one followed through. They really DON'T want to please us, do they?

LadyConstanze -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/14/2014 12:32:06 PM)
I was really snowed under today with guys wanting to buy me something for Valentine's Day, whenever I checked my CMail there were at least 2 or 3 guys with asking if I have a good Valentine and if they could get me something, so I always gave them the name of an animal charity nearby that's lost the stables through the storms and all the feed and straw got wet, they need to rent stables and replace everything, they're an approved charity, they don't pay anybody wages, all volunteer work most of them put their own money from their real jobs in, so I really really support them where I can. Today I called them up and said if they got any VD donations, guess what, they did get £25, but that was hubby as I told him rather than flowers I'd have him spend the money on animals that need food, he sent them the money via PP with a message "C's VD flowers", those money slaves tend to be full of shit, and I guess they just want to please us with their bodies...

PeonForHer -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/14/2014 2:02:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Today I called them up and said if they got any VD donations, guess what, they did get £25, but that was hubby as I told him rather than flowers I'd have him spend the money on animals that need food, he sent them the money via PP with a message "C's VD flowers", those money slaves tend to be full of shit, and I guess they just want to please us with their bodies... Jeez, Lady C, please tell me that he didn't really abbreviate Valentine's Day to "VD". That would not be appropriate - most especially on Valentine's Day.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/14/2014 2:38:09 PM)
Peon, you know H, would he let a chance like that slip? Of course he did use VD

AAkasha -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/14/2014 6:00:53 PM)
LC are you able to give the name of the charity? It might get some attention from subs lurking!

LadyConstanze -> RE: Proving Devotion (2/15/2014 2:50:59 AM)
Aakasha, I PM it to you, I'll be up there tomorrow with 2 real life subs to help them clear the land. I have a lot of respect for them and promised them to help them sort out their site, done a bit of that already (like putting their contact info in, PP, bank, all that - they wondered why there were no contributions), they're very non-tech people, hearts of gold but not even computers (they use their smartphones for social media, which is a bit limiting). Due to the recent storms in the UK, they lost their stables (a tree was blown over and damaged the roof and the structure) so they had to rent stables from a local farmer, the rain then basically drenched hay, straw and feed, and to make matters worse, the farmer insists they only buy from him (for quite inflated prices), so I'm spending most of my spare time calling around to try and find different stables for them. But yes, any help you can give them, much appreciated.

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