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juliaoceania -> RE: Social issues (7/6/2006 2:05:58 PM)
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I am not surprised that male subs would be treated by society the way you are when you go out with your mistress.
That being said female subs get looked at weirdly too at times. I can imagine that if a sub followed a man at a few paces and opened doors for him she would be gawked at. My Daddy opens doors for me in public and I am to walk in before him and we still get stares for this! The waitress asks me what I want in a restaurant before my Dom because waitresses are taught that it is good manners to ask the female first.... They look at me strange sometimes when Daddy orders for me. We have not been out but about a dozen times, but they sometimes do react slightly.
Women these days are taught to do it for themselves, so the outward sign that they are not doing this makes them stand out. Most chivalry is dead, so people react when they see it on a nonverbal level, and not always positively. We are culturally taught women can go it alone, do not need a man, and that if they do they are weak. It is silliness to me, but that is the message we have given to women. Women are not necessarily off the hook when out with their Dom when he shows dominance over them by the "little things" that he does.. and believe me, it is the smallest of things that people unconsciously pick up when you interact in front of them.
On the postive side, some people react well to seeing slight cues of male dominance... perhaps in that way it is different gender wise.
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