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dear abby - 2/10/2014 6:24:31 PM

kittysbell

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ive been looking for the elusive boyfriend in every fraction of society,the straight cis hetro world,the dark an impulsive bdsm world,the grung street reality,the upper crust artsy world,heaven an hell (an ther opposit of what you think). why is it so hard for a preop woman overcoming the debilitating condition of transex to find somone who cares about her? wether thats a signifigant other,a mother type figure,or even a friend who just wants to be friends unconcerned with how the ignorant percieve it. why must we be alone :(

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RE: dear abby - 2/10/2014 6:33:16 PM

Fairdos

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:( closed minds suck and not in a good way, I maybe new but I hope you're able to find all that you seek and soon

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RE: dear abby - 2/10/2014 6:38:08 PM

DarkSteven

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Hi there, cute girl!

It does happen. I know several pre-ops, and one post-op in relationships with men.

If I could make some suggestions:

1. Your profile complains about the housing market and how hard it is to find a job. Why?
2. You imply you really don't belong in the kink world.
3. You say how hard it is to find a man.
4. Your list consists entirely of Tolerates and Is Curious About, with one exception.

It's not impossible to get a man, but getting past your own depression will be a definite first step.

Welcome to the site!

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RE: dear abby - 2/10/2014 6:39:39 PM

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Try not to despair, Gentle Reader. There are people in the world who have no problem with the fact that you are trans-identified. All you can do is focus on being the best you that you can be and, eventually, the right person will find you. My girlfriend is trans, so I know this from experience.

Until then, welcome to the discussion forums. Hang out and join in if any strike your fancy. The threads in Off Topic and Polls and Random are particularly good for engaging in casual, lighthearted conversations and getting to know people. Quite a few people have made friends here and some have even found long-term partners.

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RE: dear abby - 2/11/2014 9:06:19 AM

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Hello and welcome.

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RE: dear abby - 2/11/2014 5:11:19 PM

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I am sympathetic...truly I am...but do you know how hard it is for those of us who were born as and live as women to find someone who cares about us? I guess I am trying to point out that it is not unique to the transsexual community...my ex used to call that belief "terminal uniqueness" ...all humans suffer similar problems.

I had a rough day...rough week. I hope you find what you are seeking...I hope we all do at some point...until then the best we can do is get by...

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