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asanaambitions -> Contributions needed (2/12/2014 10:13:58 AM)
Hello ladies! I'm starting this thread because of something brought up elsewhere, namely the lack of reality-based resources that are out there for submissive men who are wanting to be in F/m relationships. We all know that they get much of their information from porn and "informational" sites which are really just more fantasy wrapped up in enough technical jargon to seem plausible enough to get the guys to open up their wallets. This has frustrated me for a very long time because I can't help but get the sense that if these guys were just given better information we could help curb the porn contamination that's so prevalant in the F/m community. So what I have done is start a Tumblr blog which I want to focus solely on what it is that real dominant women want and require out of their relationships. I don't want this to become a money making thing, just a way to provide real information to those who are basically starved of any sort of realistic portrayal of female led dynamics. Having said all that, I'm a huge admirer of many of the ladies here and I think you're all seriously smart and amazing. I'm hoping that some of you might be willing to occasionally contribute your own thoughts to this blog (or let me know your Tumblr, so I can re-blog things that aren't porn-centric) so that it's not just me speaking into the void. I feel that having multiple contributors will help hammer home the point that it's not just me and my opinions, but that dominant ladies really are quite different to how we're often portrayed in the media (whether that be TV shows, movies or the already mentioned FemDom porn). I've now shared the Tumblr in my sig line (right now it only has one post up, still very much in it's infancy). I'd be happy to share both new material as well as stuff that's already been written with of course credit given where it's due and links to the original content (if you're sharing something from your own website or blog perhaps). Let me know your thoughts, thanks!

Rawni -> RE: Contributions needed (2/12/2014 10:18:31 AM)
You can actually post a link on the forum if you go down to scene related links. [;)]

VideoAdminChi -> RE: Contributions needed (2/12/2014 10:23:41 AM)
You can put a link to your tumblr in your signature line. Also check out ChatteParfait and AAKasha's sites and see if they give links. (URLs are in their sig lines.)

asanaambitions -> RE: Contributions needed (2/12/2014 10:29:40 AM)
Thanks ladies! I'll go stick it in my sig line now :)

AAkasha -> RE: Contributions needed (2/12/2014 1:49:32 PM)
Feel free to link to my "good girls guide to domination" which is free on my site. The link is in my sig line. :) Akasha

Pyramus -> RE: Contributions needed (2/12/2014 2:01:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: asanaambitions Hello ladies! I'm starting this thread because of something brought up elsewhere, namely the lack of reality-based resources that are out there for submissive men who are wanting to be in F/m relationships. I think the OP's idea is a great one! We men have only our sex-centric perspective to start with, and then, since it has been bred into our genes, we search like crazy to figure stuff out such as what women want out of a F/m relationship. That search-like-hell approach has served us well, in the past, for example, when we need to fix our cars, or repair the pool equipment, but it doesn't work when it comes to understanding the way women work, think, and act. So we go to the next avenue, which is (oh, I had to say it), filled with basic run-of-the-mill-kinky porn. To be sure, there's fetish porn aplenty out there, as we all know (I'd wager it's half the Internet), and it's all neatly alphabetized there for us, from Anal to Zebra (don't ask) Typical resources for typical male trying to figure out kink! :) http://extremetube.com http://moviemo.com http://ok-porn.com http://pornhub.com http://redtube.com http://tube8.com http://www.tubeshere.com http://xhamster.com http://xvideos.com Specifically, the keywords we use are something like "femdom", or "service submissive", or "female domination", etc., but the results are, as the OP is well aware, not at all what the real world of F/m relationships are all about. Given that lost approach is all too commonly used as the ONLY approach by we men, I heartily approve of the OP's goal of providing a worthy alternative to the lost art of explaining *what women really* want in a typical F/m relationship!**

seekingreality -> RE: Contributions needed (2/12/2014 8:15:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: asanaambitions Hello ladies! I'm starting this thread because of something brought up elsewhere, namely the lack of reality-based resources that are out there for submissive men who are wanting to be in F/m relationships. We all know that they get much of their information from porn and "informational" sites which are really just more fantasy wrapped up in enough technical jargon to seem plausible enough to get the guys to open up their wallets. This has frustrated me for a very long time because I can't help but get the sense that if these guys were just given better information we could help curb the porn contamination that's so prevalant in the F/m community. So what I have done is start a Tumblr blog which I want to focus solely on what it is that real dominant women want and require out of their relationships. I don't want this to become a money making thing, just a way to provide real information to those who are basically starved of any sort of realistic portrayal of female led dynamics. Having said all that, I'm a huge admirer of many of the ladies here and I think you're all seriously smart and amazing. I'm hoping that some of you might be willing to occasionally contribute your own thoughts to this blog (or let me know your Tumblr, so I can re-blog things that aren't porn-centric) so that it's not just me speaking into the void. I feel that having multiple contributors will help hammer home the point that it's not just me and my opinions, but that dominant ladies really are quite different to how we're often portrayed in the media (whether that be TV shows, movies or the already mentioned FemDom porn). I've now shared the Tumblr in my sig line (right now it only has one post up, still very much in it's infancy). I'd be happy to share both new material as well as stuff that's already been written with of course credit given where it's due and links to the original content (if you're sharing something from your own website or blog perhaps). Let me know your thoughts, thanks! I disagree with you -- there is no end of reality-based information available for subs for free if they wish to spend a small amount of time to find it. The issue isn't the dearth of resources -- the issue is that a lot of people prefer porn over reality.

ComeSitAndRelax -> RE: Contributions needed (2/13/2014 6:39:28 AM)
As an inexperienced submissive male, I've found it best to take a non-sex-centric approach to the F/m dynamic. It's just like any other Leader/subordinate dynamic to me. I've learned how to fit into a group dynamic by my past experiences with teachers and coaches. Most subs have spent most their lives being submissive in the real world. They just need to apply that experience to their D/s relationship.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Contributions needed (2/13/2014 8:06:38 AM)
For some humorous examples of what not to do, I give you 50 Shades of Nope. Feel free to link to that thread. [:D]

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Contributions needed (2/13/2014 8:20:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Pyramus Given that lost approach is all too commonly used as the ONLY approach by we men, I heartily approve of the OP's goal of providing a worthy alternative to the lost art of explaining *what women really* want in a typical F/m relationship!** And we've had polls and various threads on that very subject. And for exactly the same reason that porn-contaminated males can't find a lot of decent "reality" info - they just can't be assed to look properly!! They find the porn stuff at the top of the list and that's as far as they look. Lazy fuckers! Seen plenty of newbies coming on here that can't be assed to use the search. Fuck 'em. Let them learn the hard way if they can't be bothered. Noble idea but unfortunately 99% of the very people you are trying to help won't be clicking sensible links. Sad but true.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Contributions needed (2/13/2014 8:45:51 AM)
I don't know how many blog articles I have made about how to meet a woman, how to approach a domme, how to tell your partner that you're kinky without scaring her to hell and all that, feel free to have a shift around and use what you need: http://exdomme.blogspot.co.uk

asanaambitions -> RE: Contributions needed (2/13/2014 1:57:56 PM)
FR I admit that I've done some digging and can't find a whole heck of a lot of realistic information out there. Since apparently there's a huge pile of info that I'm missing, can anyone point me in it's direction? And thanks to those of you who've shared some of your writings, looking forward to reading them.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Contributions needed (2/13/2014 4:34:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: asanaambitions Hello ladies! I'm starting this thread because of something brought up elsewhere, namely the lack of reality-based resources that are out there for submissive men who are wanting to be in F/m relationships. We all know that they get much of their information from porn and "informational" sites which are really just more fantasy wrapped up in enough technical jargon to seem plausible enough to get the guys to open up their wallets. This has frustrated me for a very long time because I can't help but get the sense that if these guys were just given better information we could help curb the porn contamination that's so prevalant in the F/m community. So what I have done is start a Tumblr blog which I want to focus solely on what it is that real dominant women want and require out of their relationships. I don't want this to become a money making thing, just a way to provide real information to those who are basically starved of any sort of realistic portrayal of female led dynamics. Having said all that, I'm a huge admirer of many of the ladies here and I think you're all seriously smart and amazing. I'm hoping that some of you might be willing to occasionally contribute your own thoughts to this blog (or let me know your Tumblr, so I can re-blog things that aren't porn-centric) so that it's not just me speaking into the void. I feel that having multiple contributors will help hammer home the point that it's not just me and my opinions, but that dominant ladies really are quite different to how we're often portrayed in the media (whether that be TV shows, movies or the already mentioned FemDom porn). I've now shared the Tumblr in my sig line (right now it only has one post up, still very much in it's infancy). I'd be happy to share both new material as well as stuff that's already been written with of course credit given where it's due and links to the original content (if you're sharing something from your own website or blog perhaps). Let me know your thoughts, thanks! I just want really meaningless cheesy porn.

MistressDarkArt -> RE: Contributions needed (2/13/2014 10:30:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ComeSitAndRelax As an inexperienced submissive male, I've found it best to take a non-sex-centric approach to the F/m dynamic. It's just like any other Leader/subordinate dynamic to me. I've learned how to fit into a group dynamic by my past experiences with teachers and coaches. Most subs have spent most their lives being submissive in the real world. They just need to apply that experience to their D/s relationship. Excellent attitude! (But so un-porny, so please get out there and educate your fellow mates!) [8D] Welcome to the boards, CSAR. Looking forward to reading more from you.

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