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LadyConstanze -> RE: Slavery and Profit... (2/13/2014 3:09:06 AM)
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The thing that I don't get, and it never ceases to puzzle me, is why a lot of people stop to think when it comes to BDSM? The absolutely worst of them seem to be women who first discover their submissive tendencies a in their late 30's or 40's, it's almost like they are in a "sub feeding frenzy", where common sense just goes out of the window, a maso flying high on endorphins and begging to give him more, despite that it might damage him, seems to have nothing on those women. And they aren't stupid in their normal life, it's just like all of a sudden a switch was flipped over and they stop all rational thinking when it comes to their kink.
I fully understand the power exchange money involves, and somebody being dependent on the dominant for access to money is pretty powerful stuff, I've done it a few times with guys who were seriously irresponsible and almost bankrupted themselves with spending money on real pro-dommes, domme hotlines, online domination and all that stuff, the only way to stop them is to put them on a tight budget and if they need more money, they have to explain why and what for. Fairly simple procedure, they hand over the cards, the login for the bank accounts, they open a new account where they get their "allowance" and there are standing orders for rent/mortgage, insurances and all that stuff that you NEED to pay. Somebody who's on a pretty good income but drowning in debt, it's a problem and it's almost like an addiction. Of course they could have sorted themselves out, only it was a bit easier when we camouflaged it as a power exchange, and I guess they liked the humiliation of coming and begging that I allocate them an additional 50, because they're meeting with friends who have no clue what goes on, or need to buy flower's for mom's birthday, even better if they had to beg for money to take me out for a drink, all that stuff.
I have to admit I liked the control factor as much as seeing them get back on their feet financially, so yeah, it's pretty heady stuff for the dominant too, but there usually was a relationship BEFORE, and it wasn't one sided.
Somebody who just thinks slaves are there to finance their life-style, that not really a dominant, that's a lazy bastard or bitch. Even if it is D/s, it's still a relationship and dominant has a certain obligation to care for submissives, on the other hand, the submissives also have the obligation to look out for themselves, because which selfrespecting dominant would want somebody who's too stupid to do that?
The idea that it's enough to put up an add with "Become my slave, work for me, I get all your money, treat you like I want to and you get nothing", well, those people do need a bit of a reality check. Sounds like a wanker fantasy to me, and possibly attracts other wankers who like to play online games.
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