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RE: is it me? - 2/18/2014 3:47:03 PM

RareByrd

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Reading just the current version of the profile (didn't see the original), it comes off as quite bland, to me. I am surprised this is a rewrite. :-|

I get only a slight sense of who you are, and barely any at all of what you are looking for. Combine that with one blah picture, no journal entries or forum presence, and the fact that you are religious and a bit outside my age range, and... well I would forget about your profile seconds after closing it and moving on to the next.

I think you should expand on who you are (for example, great that you are a musician, but what type of music? Can you tell us an anecdote from your time as a musician?) Add something about what type of person you're looking for. Give your target audience a sense of what life would be like if they were with you. Reveal something vulnerable or show a sense of humor or something, anything, that will differentiate you from all the many, many other men most women hear from on here.

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RE: is it me? - 2/18/2014 8:04:54 PM

Greta75

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Quiet and Intense

I like the updated profile.

If we lived in the same country, I would start a conversation with you.

Good job! All the ladies who helped!

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RE: is it me? - 2/19/2014 12:01:53 PM

Domnotlooking

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Noguardthe4:

If you're Joe Blow chubby-average (like I can throw stones) living out in trailer-land, and you're pulling in long term slaves (married no less) than we should be asking YOU for advice.

If you're having a dry spell at the moment, it will certainly pass. If you are happy to consider terminally ill people for relationships, no one can say you're not casting your net far and wide.

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RE: is it me? - 2/19/2014 12:31:59 PM

sexyred1

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Wow, you have certainly been nasty to this poor guy. Who are you to mention his looks or his hat or his departed slave. Jeez.

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RE: is it me? - 2/20/2014 11:44:03 AM

nogardthe4

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Thank you.
This is more like the sort of input that I was seeking.
It gives me a few things to think about & to work on.
I must say that I found it a bit frustrating,
trying to condense all that I would like to say & to try
making it fit into that tiny box & it's word limit.

Music: ran from classic rock to band member written origionals.
Unfortunately, after my head & spinal injuries/disability...
even practice sound levels would trigger off my chronic migraines.

As for tales of performances past:
Once, they used to be something to fondly remember & chuckle about.
These days...stuff posted on-line, lives on forever to bite people in the butt!
That sweet young thang, that once shook her all--till her all popped out.
She may now be a teacher or liberarian, who could find herself fired...
IF that incident now became public!

As for my forum presence:
I tend to be a bit like Mr.ED...
I tend to never speak, unless I have something to say!

It seems odd that no one seems to see the hatless pics.

Another odd thing is that the advice posted so far seems
to point back to a type of profile that I had once started
off with so long ago.
However it seems that any small detail; once given,
can thence lead to several diverse assumptions & misunderstandings.
That more than ever, I am hoping to somehow avoid.

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RE: is it me? - 2/20/2014 3:17:49 PM

nogardthe4

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I did not 'pull' missy in,
she chose to come to me!
That in itself was somewhat of a shock at the time,
as she was always an 'empowered' 'woman's lib' type!

For well over a decade,
she would try to talk my slaves into leaving
the lifestyle because she was taught to believe
that it was abusive to women.
They would smile at her, & patiently explain
to her that it was not, & I was not.

Thus when she showed up at my door,
it was a bit unexpected.
I was amazed when she asked for my collar.
What a turn-around that was for her!

So you see....
The slaves that come to me...
come due to either knowing me,
or knowing of, and/or about me.
Usually due to friends, ex g/fs or slaves,
that have talked to them about me & my ways.

My problem when I am bettween slaves,
is getting that first intro/meeting with a slave.

Thus...IF 'I pulled them in',
I would not be worrying about a profile here...would i?

So that means that once I have one slave,
they talk...
and that apparently attracts more to me!
Thus that is how I have ended up in some
poly situations, that I had not been looking for!

As for 'casting my net far & wide':
As I said before...all i ask is that a slave try
to do her best, within her limitations.

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RE: is it me? - 2/23/2014 8:08:41 AM

nogardthe4

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Who is he?
Obviously just himself.

Why he is as he is,
is a harder question that
only he can truly search out.
I can only hope that he
is more self observant,
than he was on such things
as my hat & hair! ;-)

Hopefully in the future he
might not be quite so quick
to assume things, nor to
make leaps of judgement.
The landing can be rocky
when a person is wrong.

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RE: is it me? - 2/24/2014 2:23:47 AM

sunshinemiss