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Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known commo... - 2/17/2014 8:44:04 AM

Ionium

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My (too?) simple perversion is that I enjoy ownership objectification, on both sides of the switch equation.
Is that a common kink?
Is it too simple to be considered a fetish?

I don't see this specific perversion in any other profiles, so, allow me to explain the gist of the desire.

One key point is that it doesn't matter if I'm the one being objectified or if I'm objectifying my partner (that's the switch part). This is a very simple concept and isn't any more complicated than that statement. I would hope to find a partner where this is 50:50, so that's the only key requirement (otherwise it's not switching).

The slightly more complicated ownership-objectifying part doesn't require sex or even touching (although passionate touching is nice).
All it needs is one partner to stand before the other, meekly, and willingly allowing the other to "own" the chattel's body and actions.

That second part is harder to describe but essentially, the objectification part is free form.

An example could be that one partner (the bottom-of-the-day) stands clothed before the other, bound or just meekly submissive, and the Top-of-the-day has free rein (or reign, as the case may be) over the other's actions in that room. Specifics don't matter here, but an example would be "lift your skirt" or "open your mouth" or "kneel before me" or "crawl like a puppy" or "wiggle your cock" or "shake those tits" or (the more evil) "open wide". :)

I realize I sound confused (and I am), but what I'm asking is why I don't see more of this 50:50 switching ownership back-and-forth objectification more often in the profiles?

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/17/2014 10:45:37 AM

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Why don't you see more of it? That, I don't know. In my totally uneducated opinion, it does seem slightly more common for people to prefer one side of the kneel than the other, and a lot of those who do switch prefer to take different roles with different people.

Part of the reason might be that a lot of people here are looking for power-exchange relationships, where the control extends beyond play time or the bedroom. Generally that doesn't work with day-by-day switching.

Now that said, there's nothing weird about what you like, and I imagine there are plenty of other people out there. It seems like a reasonable kink (whether you'd call it a fetish depends on your preferred definition of that word) and I wonder if you wouldn't have some success finding play partners out in your local community.

If I hadn't opted for a 24/7 power exchange, I could happily be in a relationship where we share our kink and swap out roles.

Edit: I'm frightened to ask but... what the hell is that in your picture?

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/17/2014 10:59:57 AM

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For most people, seeing the partner in the other role is a big (and often permanent) turnoff. If I crawled like a puppy, my wife would be mega-bummed. She didn't even want to stick a finger up my ass since she felt that only one ass should be up for penetration in the relationship.

So much of what turns us on is the strong differentiation of roles. If that flips every other day, we'd need to develop amnesia to get aroused.

I'm not getting how your objectification orientation differs from a regular switch orientation.

Switch people are a small minority within a small minority. They have my sympathy since their partner pool is so small. Keep clarifying what you want and constructing positive plans to get it.

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/19/2014 4:29:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

Edit: I'm frightened to ask but... what the hell is that in your picture?

Admittedly, I'm afraid to find out, too.

Some things are better left unknown.

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/19/2014 7:00:24 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

Edit: I'm frightened to ask but... what the hell is that in your picture?

Admittedly, I'm afraid to find out, too.

Some things are better left unknown.

Ditto

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/19/2014 2:52:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal
Some things are better left unknown.

Well, it "is" a picture of me, and it's not retouched; but I'll leave it at that.

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/19/2014 3:08:28 PM

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Okay, I'm gunna regret this.... Forever I'm sure.

Colonoscopy?

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/19/2014 3:31:30 PM

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Oh for the love of all things pure and sacred ET.

You made me upchuck a little in my mouth.

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/19/2014 4:24:33 PM

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Of the day? No. But the roles in my relationship do fluctuate dramatically. Generally we limit it to what others might call "play" but that can happen at any time. Any time one tends to take control. In the kitchen. On the road. While watching TV.

Personally we're not big on giving submission/willing bottoming. We find it demeans our dominant natures a lot. So we generally fight for control, someone ending up losing. We get our bottoming/subbing needs met when we lose it. We keep it limited to certain "sessions" so we don't fight constantly.

This works for us, but I'm sure something else will work for you and a partner. But believe me, switching does work for switches. However you want to structure it, that's great.

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/19/2014 7:26:25 PM

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It's also very mild, just standing there saying "You're mine, now lift up your shirt".

I think it's great something like that gives you such a thrill. Most of us prefer a lot more hands on in our play.

And pg4g; I'm envious you get the occasional control of the tv. Me? I have to wait till he isn't in the room!

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/19/2014 7:31:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: Ionium
I realize I sound confused (and I am), but what I'm asking is why I don't see more of this 50:50 switching ownership back-and-forth objectification more often in the profiles?

I don't think I've ever dated a woman under 30 who would be unwilling to try what you're asking for. What age group are you looking for? There's a real cutoff, between women who are less experimental and more experimental, and I think it's because women under a certain age grew up with free access to internet porn.

So date vanilla, and ask for kink. Look at it this way: they've seen Two Girls One Cup. That's gross. What you're asking for is not gross.

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/19/2014 10:00:49 PM

Ionium

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What age group are you looking for? There's a real cutoff, between women who are less experimental and more experimental, and I think it's because women under a certain age grew up with free access to internet porn.

Mostly women in their fifties.
Maybe that's too far above the cutoff date?

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they've seen Two Girls One Cup. That's gross. What you're asking for is not gross.

I had to google for "two girls, one cup".

Uggg.

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/19/2014 10:47:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Ionium

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

What age group are you looking for? There's a real cutoff, between women who are less experimental and more experimental, and I think it's because women under a certain age grew up with free access to internet porn.

Mostly women in their fifties.
Maybe that's too far above the cutoff date?

That's actually the perfect dating pool, middle-aged women (42-55) rediscovering their sexuality. By this time, their kids have grown up or are old enough for them to feel more liberated in finding a sexual partner to explore with, someone exciting unlike the selfish, unimaginative and left-brained ex-husband they're divorced from.

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/20/2014 8:03:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: Ionium

Well, it "is" a picture of me, and it's not retouched; but I'll leave it at that.

My best guess is the palm of your hand, cupped over the lens. What did I win?

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RE: Is my simple perversion switch-of-the-day a known c... - 2/21/2014 10:25:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: Miyani
What did I win?

You guessed correctly!
You win good karma!

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