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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 2/22/2014 3:49:16 PM   
FieryOpal


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The shy ones I find most attractive. They are also (for me) the most challenging and harder to hunt.

Join the club (or else I'll join yours). The ones who don't act overly shy, but who get romantically shy. It's cute and endearing. Unfortunately, they wait for you to notice them, view your profile a half dozen times and/or add you to their favorites, but don't leave a message....

I don't like making the first move, but with these types you have to. *sigh*

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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 2/22/2014 4:35:25 PM   
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In my most erotic moments, I don't feel like a weak 'sub' being taken by a strong woman, I feel like a badass who's consolidating his greatest qualities onto his tongue and giving them to a goddess.


That probably works especially well if you happen to look like Bruce Springsteen, AFR ;-)


You mean really really short and trying to rock the urban cowboy look? ;)


No I do not, Lady C. You are *very* cruel and I am saddened this day. :-(

All sarcasm aside: the man is good-looking. He should own it. Submales who are good-looking rarely appreciate that, in my experience. Even if they do appreciate it, they don't know what to do with their looks. Things are much more topsy-turvy in the submale world than I think most people, even most kinksters, realise.




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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 2/22/2014 4:41:18 PM   
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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 2/22/2014 9:09:59 PM   
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Submales who are good-looking rarely appreciate that, in my experience. Even if they do appreciate it, they don't know what to do with their looks. Things are much more topsy-turvy in the submale world than I think most people, even most kinksters, realise.


I've certainly seen that in several sub male partners. Of course I think they're funny, kind, intelligent, and ranging from cute-as-a-button to smokin' hot, but they don't see it. If their self-esteem is fine otherwise, it can be adorable. But sadly many of them have bought into the locker-room fantasy ideal of genetic roulettes of physique, height or cock size, and when I compliment them on a physical attribute they look shy, curious or suspicious. Of course, polite disbelief then dawning belief is arousing, and arrogant vanity about one's physical appearance as the antithesis.
People talk about how mean girls can be about others' appearances; after hearing what my good men have had directed at them, locker-room boys and men are just as mean with the additional servings of aggression and directness.

So if someone's kink is verbal humiliation, walk on by, bro.

And it's always a breakthrough when a good man can field a compliment, swallow his automatic self-deprecating comment, and come out with a 'Thank You, M.' with only a slight delay and/or reciprocity.
Success!



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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 2/22/2014 10:48:09 PM   
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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 2/23/2014 5:05:13 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal


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The shy ones I find most attractive. They are also (for me) the most challenging and harder to hunt.

Join the club (or else I'll join yours). The ones who don't act overly shy, but who get romantically shy. It's cute and endearing. Unfortunately, they wait for you to notice them, view your profile a half dozen times and/or add you to their favorites, but don't leave a message....

I don't like making the first move, but with these types you have to. *sigh*


I'm sure there's a club somewhere that has already been created! It's probably shy and is waiting to be noticed. I didn't think that the ones who look at my profile were too shy to leave a message. I always assumed they were just having a nose. But that's a good point. I think if the shy guy has an interesting enough profile, but doesn't leave a message, then I'd certainly make first contact - or at least, I probably will now when I get a chance.

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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 2/23/2014 10:48:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MsGypsey

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

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ORIGINAL: MsGypsey

The shy ones I find most attractive. They are also (for me) the most challenging and harder to hunt.

Join the club (or else I'll join yours). The ones who don't act overly shy, but who get romantically shy. It's cute and endearing. Unfortunately, they wait for you to notice them, view your profile a half dozen times and/or add you to their favorites, but don't leave a message....

I don't like making the first move, but with these types you have to. *sigh*


I'm sure there's a club somewhere that has already been created! It's probably shy and is waiting to be noticed. I didn't think that the ones who look at my profile were too shy to leave a message. I always assumed they were just having a nose. But that's a good point. I think if the shy guy has an interesting enough profile, but doesn't leave a message, then I'd certainly make first contact - or at least, I probably will now when I get a chance.

If they're just plain shy or not very verbal forget it. I don't have time to fool with that. They have to be able to express themselves well. As for timid, don't care for that one bit; then there's false timidity or humility as in "Mistress, permission to speak?" No, you may not because you left out profile key words which shows me you either didn't bother to read my entire profile or you can't follow a set of simple instructions, neither of which makes for a good first impression.

It's the ones who try to hide their shyness or who have learned to cloak it, those are the ones who are fun to flirt with if I have any interest in them as a person and we've started communicating.

Yeah, one or two views don't mean anything, and the combination of their stats/username/avatar will reveal whether I delete them off my Viewing list. (Wish I knew a way to delete off Admirers list.)

I've only contacted two such multiple viewers to ask why they have a blank profile or whatnot if they're not newly joined. Three, actually, once to inquire about his interesting profile pic that was a work of art as to who the artist was.

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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 2/23/2014 1:57:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

Much like Procrastinators Anonymous, those invited wouldn't show up in attendance!
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ORIGINAL: MsGypsey

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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal

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ORIGINAL: MsGypsey

The shy ones I find most attractive. They are also (for me) the most challenging and harder to hunt.

Join the club (or else I'll join yours). The ones who don't act overly shy, but who get romantically shy. It's cute and endearing. Unfortunately, they wait for you to notice them, view your profile a half dozen times and/or add you to their favorites, but don't leave a message....

I don't like making the first move, but with these types you have to. *sigh*


I'm sure there's a club somewhere that has already been created! It's probably shy and is waiting to be noticed. I didn't think that the ones who look at my profile were too shy to leave a message. I always assumed they were just having a nose. But that's a good point. I think if the shy guy has an interesting enough profile, but doesn't leave a message, then I'd certainly make first contact - or at least, I probably will now when I get a chance.

If they're just plain shy or not very verbal forget it. I don't have time to fool with that. They have to be able to express themselves well. As for timid, don't care for that one bit; then there's false timidity or humility as in "Mistress, permission to speak?" No, you may not because you left out profile key words which shows me you either didn't bother to read my entire profile or you can't follow a set of simple instructions, neither of which makes for a good first impression.

It's the ones who try to hide their shyness or who have learned to cloak it, those are the ones who are fun to flirt with if I have any interest in them as a person and we've started communicating.

Yeah, one or two views don't mean anything, and the combination of their stats/username/avatar will reveal whether I delete them off my Viewing list. (Wish I knew a way to delete off Admirers list.)

I've only contacted two such multiple viewers to ask why they have a blank profile or whatnot if they're not newly joined. Three, actually, once to inquire about his interesting profile pic that was a work of art as to who the artist was.


It's the repeat viewers that I get curious about. I wish I could delete admirers as well as I think that's a pretty useless feature. I think I should be typing this in the 'Things that annoy Dommes" or something.

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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 2/25/2014 8:56:16 AM   
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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 2/25/2014 9:38:44 AM   
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I find many of the slaves here pathetic, but you dont have to be pathetic to be a slave.

Honey, that's because they call themselves slaves or subs when they're only bottoms looking for somebody to Top them.
The ones who are fit to be a submissive aren't slaves to porn, slaves to their fetish, or slaves to their kinks.

That's why they're so hard to find.

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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 4/15/2014 12:50:48 PM   
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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 4/20/2014 2:59:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		Submissive fantasies don't go over we'll with women. And Dominate Women are a vast minority. This is reality. Women are built to submit in the bedroom. won't stop some of us from entertaining fantasies. And obviously D/s porn is very far from reality, and hard for a real Women to compete with.

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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 4/20/2014 5:47:51 PM   
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Submissive fantasies don't go over we'll with women. And Dominate Women are a vast minority. This is reality. Women are built to submit in the bedroom. won't stop some of us from entertaining fantasies. And obviously D/s porn is very far from reality, and hard for a real Women to compete with.


Women are women all over the world. Some are vanilla in the bedroom, others are submissive or Dominant. And all flavours in between. Sweeping generalisations cannot be made.

Women also shouldn't have to compete with porn. If an adult male cannot distinguish between the two, he should walk away from the computer, or whatever form of adult entertainment, and walk away for awhile. There is no "fake" or "real" when it comes to women or men. There are people, plain ole human beings who inhabit the same planet.

Vast minority is redundant. There's either a vast majority or a minority. And just an FYI, dominate is a verb, therefore they are DOMINANT women.


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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 4/30/2014 8:59:39 AM   
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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 4/30/2014 5:28:04 PM   
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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 5/2/2014 8:59:35 AM   
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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 5/2/2014 2:42:36 PM   
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In my most erotic moments, I don't feel like a weak 'sub' being taken by a strong woman, I feel like a badass who's consolidating his greatest qualities onto his tongue and giving them to a goddess.


That probably works especially well if you happen to look like Bruce Springsteen, AFR ;-)


You mean really really short and trying to rock the urban cowboy look? ;)

Wow. That just put a picture of him in my mind wearing assless chaps & a cowboy hat, bent over & waiting for Pinky(my silicone Tantus). lol

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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 5/2/2014 3:03:29 PM   
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If you approach it as "rule this pathetic maggot's life", yeah there will be a good majority of women, dominants included, who that would be a turn off.

If you approach it as " I am still me, but when you want something, i will of course abide by your wishes" you may have a better result. "MAY" being the key word.

Very few ladies want a doormat. Especially one who is a doormat to everyone. Be her friend, lover, massuese and her fiercest protector.

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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 5/2/2014 7:31:53 PM   
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I always hold eye contact when I'm feeling My Inner Domme, even at the most INAPPROPRIATE times (AT WORK!)... I love it when I have direct eye contact and he drops gaze first... it always makes Me wonder "hhhmmmm". ;)


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RE: Do you see subs as pathetic or attractive - 5/2/2014 8:47:00 PM   
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