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introductions - 2/20/2014 3:40:48 PM

walkerb234

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when first messaging a female domme or mistress, should one start off talking casually like they just met at a party, or do you prefer them to be more forward and get to the point?

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RE: introductions - 2/20/2014 3:52:45 PM

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My first thought is to read their profile fully. Some are very specific on how they want to be contacted.

If not, I would stick with the casual. It's harder to lose when you keep it simple.

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RE: introductions - 2/20/2014 5:30:42 PM

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Check out the FAQs at the top of the "Ask a Mistress" forum. There's a lot of good advice there, and it includes links to other CM posts about how to attract and approach a mistress.

Good luck!

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RE: introductions - 2/20/2014 5:53:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: walkerb234

when first messaging a female domme or mistress, should one start off talking casually like they just met at a party, or do you prefer them to be more forward and get to the point?

What point?

You've just read her profile. That's it. You can't profess undying love, ask her to move in, or demand that she beat you until you get to know her and have some clue whether the two of you could stand each other first. Get to know her, and then see if the two of you want to meet.

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RE: introductions - 2/20/2014 7:09:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: walkerb234

when first messaging a female domme or mistress, should one start off talking casually like they just met at a party, or do you prefer them to be more forward and get to the point?

They're chics.

Treat them like chics.

Open doors.

Buy a drink.

Say thank you.

Be a gentleman.

They're chics.

(Who also happen to have a certain predilection).

(They're still chics.....treat them accordingly).

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RE: introductions - 2/20/2014 10:54:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

What point?

You've just read her profile. That's it. You can't profess undying love, ask her to move in, or demand that she beat you until you get to know her and have some clue whether the two of you could stand each other first. Get to know her, and then see if the two of you want to meet.

What he said. If the point you are getting to is that you are interested in getting together, she can probably infer that from the fact you are contacting her via a dating site. If the point is that you want to engage in a specific kink or sex act with her, she really doesn't want to hear it until she decides if you're interesting as a person.

So yeh, casual, but remember it's a text format and 'hi, how r u?' will likely get ignored. A nice friendly message asking about one of her (non kinky) interests or photos and pointing out something you have in common is usually a good start.

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RE: introductions - 2/22/2014 6:25:14 AM

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As this thread duplicates two recent threads, it has been locked.

What's the best way of getting the attention of a Mistress? has also been locked.

You may continue the conversation here: How to approach

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