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OvidInDallas -> RE: fakes (2/20/2014 6:59:24 PM)
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ORIGINAL: walkerb234
is there a good way to find out if someone on here is fake or real, without disrespecting them? how would a mistress prefer to confirm things? i only ask because i've had a few that have gone a long ways in an attempt to scam me.
and just a side question, what do mistresses generally look for on a sub/slaves profile? everyone has specific preferences of course
Hello walkerb234,
I can't give you much advice about how to avoid fakes due to being pretty new to this online dating thing myself but I will note that most of the fakes are fairly obvious if you pay attention. If the profile seems like it was designed to fulfill a male fantasy then it is probably fake or pro-Domme. I suggest reading the profiles of some of the regular posters in Ask a Mistress to get an idea of what the profile looks like when it is written by an actual woman who isn't looking for professional kink employment.
For writing a good profile, I found this thread in the Ask a Mistress FAQ to be very helpful when I was reviewing my profile: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057123/tm.htm
If I can give you some advice; your profile spends almost half it's written length describing what you want from a woman but you don't have much about you other than that you are a college student and have some experience doing yard work and house cleaning from when you were in high school. You have also only filled out the checkboxes for sexual activities. It looks like you aren't so much looking for a relationship with a Domme as you are looking for someone to fulfill your fantasies. Also, you list your weight as 330lbs but have a picture of someone well under 200 (perhaps a younger you?). That is a warning sign that you might not be being honest about other things.
I remember what it was like to be 19, horny, and submissive. I strongly suggest that you look to go to some local munches and meet some locals who are into kink. Seeing how people make their D/s relationships work in reality can really help ground some of your beliefs about how these things work. You also should be looking for a vanilla relationship as well as kink relationships at your age. Believe me, knowing how to have a healthy relationship with someone is important before you even add kink into the mix. Finally, think about what women might want instead of just what you want them to do to you. You say you want to be a "lifestyle slave". I hope you are able to find someone to make that a reality for you but you need to have something to offer the woman you want a relationship with. Get your degree, and make sure it is a degree that employers want. Get a job. Learning piano is a good start, continue to develop skills and hobbies that make you interesting to be around. Most people are not going to be able to or want to live the lifestyle 24/7. You need to be someone a Domme would want to be around when you aren't engaged in play if you want to get any attention.
I'm sure I sound horribly condescending but, believe me, I wish someone had told me this at your age. Good luck finding your special someone.
Helpfully,
Ovid
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