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need advice - 2/21/2014 1:57:26 AM   
Sweetheartbreak


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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 4:24:33 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		It's difficult to give you an answer when we don't really know the circumstances of your relationship.

For example:

* do you live close to each other and meet in real time, or is it cyber, or long distance?

* is this a purely play relationship or is it more of a dating thing with the prospect of something long-term, or something in between?

* are you/he/both in other relationships at the same time?

* have you been together long, or is this a new thing?

* has your contact time changed recently, or has it always been like this?

A little more information and hopefully we can give you some constructive advice

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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 4:39:29 AM   
thishereboi


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Status: offline 		You could show him your profile here. According to it you are searching for a dom to punish you when your bad. If my submissive did that it would get my attention. Although now that I think of it, it wouldn't be positive. Although I am pretty positive that I would dump her. good luck with that.

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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 4:41:37 AM   
GoddessManko


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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

You could show him your profile here. According to it you are searching for a dom to punish you when your bad. If my submissive did that it would get my attention. Although now that I think of it, it wouldn't be positive. Although I am pretty positive that I would dump her. good luck with that.


Considering he is neglectful and she's quite a dish, can you really blame her though? Like I said, some people I wouldn't let babysit a pet rock but I agree with myotherself as far as having more details on the why and how before really understanding her conundrum.

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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 4:44:01 AM   
kalikshama


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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 5:02:50 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko




Considering he is neglectful and she's quite a dish, can you really blame her though?


I can. Just because she's quite a dish doesn't mean she should be able to get away with having zero integrity.

BTW: Welcome to the discussion side Sweethheartbreak.



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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 5:20:50 AM   
GoddessManko


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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt


quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessManko




Considering he is neglectful and she's quite a dish, can you really blame her though?


I can. Just because she's quite a dish doesn't mean she should be able to get away with having zero integrity.

BTW: Welcome to the discussion side Sweethheartbreak.




I was never suggesting such a thing, and I thought the compliment was worth giving. I said IF he is neglectful. I wouldn't expect a sub who may have zero contact with me for several months, for example to maintain some sort of blind loyalty. At some point one has to question if the object of your affection has your best intentions at heart.


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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 7:14:53 AM   
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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 8:29:07 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Tell him.

Tell him you need more contact, more play, more attention. That right now you're unhappy and rethinking whether or not you should be in a relationship where there is no possibility of your needs being met.

But I'm not going to pick on the profile. Because people frequently don't update it to reflect a new partner.

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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 8:42:31 AM   
OsideGirl


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Considering he is neglectful and she's quite a dish


You're making the assumption that photo is her and it's not. http://asset-5.soup.io/asset/4043/7499_5ebc.jpeg


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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 10:14:48 AM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko


Considering he is neglectful and she's quite a dish


You're making the assumption that photo is her and it's not. http://asset-5.soup.io/asset/4043/7499_5ebc.jpeg



That is a different picture than the OP is using

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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 10:21:20 AM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze


quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko


Considering he is neglectful and she's quite a dish


You're making the assumption that photo is her and it's not. http://asset-5.soup.io/asset/4043/7499_5ebc.jpeg



That is a different picture than the OP is using



Not on my computer:



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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 10:23:36 AM   
stef


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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko

Considering he is neglectful and she's quite a dish, can you really blame her though?

How do you know she's a dish? Her profile photos is "borrowed"

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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 10:24:51 AM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		On mine it is, on mine it comes up as a very tasteful b/w erotic picture - without a head, the OPs profile is a picture of part of her face, in colour

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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 10:33:55 AM   
OsideGirl


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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 10:35:42 AM   
GoddessManko


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ORIGINAL: stef


quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessManko

Considering he is neglectful and she's quite a dish, can you really blame her though?

How do you know she's a dish? Her profile photos is "borrowed"


Well let's assume she may or may not be. She asked for advice on a message board and I'm not up for reverse searching every single image that someone may be using. Just not a big deal to me, but thanks for pointing that out.
Just an FYI though,I will say that I have used stock photos of a body smilar before (Kind of easing myself into the permanence of posting things online, including photos of myself that cannot be undone).
So for all we know, she could be a bombshell or a typing cat, however I was referring to her thread avatar and not the one on her profile. (And I like women, A LOT, so yea, it was suggestive. I was flirting, sue me.) :)

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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 10:38:40 AM   
LadyConstanze


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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 12:41:34 PM   
Sweetheartbreak


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Status: offline 		I'm new to this, we live in nearby cities we meet occasionally, we kindof recently started the relationship and its pure play.
@desfip ill let him kno thanks :)
And yes that is me in the color picture, the other is just to easing myself into the permanence of posting things online, including photos of myself that cannot be undone just as
@goddessmanko said. Thanks for the complement btw ;)

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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 12:48:44 PM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: Sweetheartbreak

I'm new to this, we live in nearby cities we meet occasionally, we kindof recently started the relationship and its pure play.


If it is just play and it doesn't meet your needs (emotionally and otherwise), you should tell him and maybe he's able to move forward, if not, you have to figure out if you want to stick around and block yourself for something that might be more fulfilling, that would include the risk of being alone for a while...

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RE: need advice - 2/21/2014 1:01:06 PM   
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