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Jewishprincess22 -> The Hypocrisy (2/22/2014 7:55:58 AM)
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So, I've been talking to this man online for about a month now. Everything was going fine until we talked about deeper things and more personal things.
So, for starters, I try to eat healthy. I am on my last ten pounds and the only sweet thing I can eat is sugarfree jello. He tells me that he thinks I shouldn't be eating that because it's empty calories and not healthy and gives me no nutritional value. Well, all I do is eat protein and the good kind of carbs, like veggies. It won't kill me to have 10 calorie sugarfree jello. Anyway, the next second I find him saying that he is eating beef jerky. I tell him that's not very healthy and he goes "yeah, how???" I was like it's loaded with sodium so much it's not healthy at all. He's like, "yeah, but it's protein." Yeah, okay, barely. You're way better off actually eating lean beef if you want to be healthy. I get the whole he is dominant and he can do what he wants, but really? At least be intelligent about it.
Then, we are talking about being poly, both of us aren't. I know there is research out stating that some people are wired to just be poly. We both believe that means you aren't getting what you want from your primary, it has nothing to do with wiring. I, personally, need to see more research. He said, "where have we heard that before?" He starts talking about gay people. I am totally pro gay! I think these people are wired to be gay or not.
He says he is not anti-gay people, but he believes that since he was a philosophy major that if everyone did something that made it not sustainable (like everyone becoming gay there would be no children), that it becomes immoral. I said that is a flawed point of view if you ask me because not everyone is gay, it just seems silly to me. So, gay sex to him is immoral because it's not sustainable.
Then, before, he's talked about how psychology isn't a discipline he respects, yet he majored in philosophy and is telling me that it is grounded by science. I said well, good psychology is too. He tells me how philosophy is something he has used in his day-to-day life, i said psychology has done the same for me. I mean, are we just forgetting some insanely important psychology research here!?!?! For example, Milgram's Experiments, the Stanford Experiment, I mean these studies are so important and foundational. It just seems ignorant to me and frankly, hypocritical--yet again!
So, here he is, criticizing the discipline of psychology, and gay sex. Yet, when I criticize people who are teachers and how they are okay with a pay that will leave them basically living in poverty... that's not okay to criticize people he tells me. He says he will never allow that.
Did I mention that most of the people in his family are teachers?
So, basically, he can criticize what he wants, but I can't?
There are a lot of parts of him that I like, though. He is Jewish for one, and very caring. He'd definitely be there for me, and is serious about a relationship and his views about how a dominant should be with his submissive are exactly like mine...So, I frankly, don't know what to do. He has paid a lot of money to come out and visit me, and at this point though, I'm so turned off by him because I question his intelligence.
Thoughts? Opinions? Advice?
Thank you in advance.
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