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im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 7:11:07 AM

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online mistresses normally ask for a one time submission fee. What do i get from that? do i have to pay more after that?

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 7:15:28 AM

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I'm not an online Domme but from what I've heard, most ask for a per-session payment, not a single 1-off.

There are some good people on here that can give you better answers.

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 7:16:12 AM

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All I am going to say is, please be extremely careful of who you send money too. If you are looking for a pro-Domme, find a real one... one that you know you will get what you paid for. Online is fishy to say the least. CM says it very explicitly about sending money to people. Not all have any scruples or morals.

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 7:16:18 AM

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lol if you have to pay to get a mistress.. doesn't that make you a "W"

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 7:23:23 AM

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well she said this after i asked what i will get after i paid.
"Then you will be my slave officially, will train you make you an obidient slave.. make all your desires like a dream come true..
And if you want we can have our first online session after that"
sounds like a scam to me though lol

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 7:27:25 AM

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If it quacks like a duck, and walks like a duck.....

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 7:33:44 AM

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If it sounds like a scam, it probably is.

Some people have a pay-for-play arrangement - one session, one payment.
Some people play without payment, just for the joy of it (though I'll be honest, not many women are interested in doing that online)
Others only play with those they are in an established relationship with.

You'd really have to ask the individual to find out their exact conditions, but I am dubious you'll get everything you want for a one-off payment. If she requires money, then it's a business transaction, and you should do your homework accordingly. Do your research and find someone with a good reputation, if you want to pay. Make sure you are getting value for your money.

If she was doing it just for fun, she wouldn't need money to be her 'official slave'. In fact, she'd need MORE than money - like getting to know you and making sure you are reliable and compatible, even just as a play partner. So she's in it as a business, and it would be bad business for her to just take on payment and give you all the sessions you wanted - she could be using that time to get new paying customers in.

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 7:36:27 AM

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remember the golden rule never send money to anyone

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 7:39:24 AM

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Of course it is a scam. There are a few reputable pro mistresses here that do online, but very few. There, are, however, many scammers who are just looking to soak you for money.

If all your submission fantasies can actually come true on line, there are plenty that cyber just for the fun of it because it is all fantasy online.

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 8:28:35 AM

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thanks guys saved my cash woohoo $_$

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 8:34:34 AM

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They forgot to mention the advice fee.

Save your money, hang out around here and you may find a few other tidbits that might assist you.

Have fun!

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 9:07:19 AM

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so my first webcam session came before i was going to pay ( eventhough i wasnt really going to). just wanted to see if she was who she was.
turns out its a faker on the other end totally opposite from her profile pic hahahaha
dont know whether to laugh or cry lol

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 9:29:10 AM

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quote:

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so my first webcam session came before i was going to pay ( eventhough i wasnt really going to). just wanted to see if she was who she was.
turns out its a faker on the other end totally opposite from her profile pic hahahaha
dont know whether to laugh or cry lol

Sorry, but I think you just lost my sympathy vote, if you don't want to pay, say so, lying about it is shifty and untrustworthy! Furthermore, if you advertise on the other side that you are looking for a "Princess", you shouldn't be surprised that you get contacted by women who want your money.

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 9:40:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subbjohnn

so my first webcam session came before i was going to pay ( eventhough i wasnt really going to). just wanted to see if she was who she was.
turns out its a faker on the other end totally opposite from her profile pic hahahaha
dont know whether to laugh or cry lol

Bizarre...and according to this, I wouldn't trust your word on who's fake or real. She MIGHT not have integrity but you DEFINITELY lack it.
Good luck finding some other cam girl to scratch that itch. *smh*

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 9:43:24 AM

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Neither. Move on, and chalk this up to experience.

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 9:59:31 AM

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remember the golden rule never send money to anyone

I've always followed that rule. My insurance company gets pretty angry at me about that. Something about "we don't give insurance to you if you don't actually freaking send us a check!"

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 11:22:13 AM

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Nothing wrong with sending money IF she is the real thing.
There are plenty of ways of finding these things out.

But if she is an online Domme, yes ...you'll have to pay for sessions or her time.
Truthfully were I a sub or slave and a dominant woman said all MY dreams come true, I'd run. It should be about her dreams coming true.

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 4:03:29 PM

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so my first webcam session came before i was going to pay ( eventhough i wasnt really going to). just wanted to see if she was who she was.
turns out its a faker on the other end totally opposite from her profile pic hahahaha
dont know whether to laugh or cry lol

Wait. You advertise for a princess and then you whine about sending her money, questioning her reality and ethics. Then you get session out of her and don't pay her as agreed? YOU'RE pretty unethical and dishonest YOURSELF. I feel NO sympathy for you!

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 5:01:05 PM

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Hi subbjohnn,

Pro-Dommes are sex workers and you are nothing but a paycheck. They are selling you a sexual fantasy, especially online ones. Does it really matter if they are a man, a woman, or a monkey trained to use a keyboard? You are inherently paying them for a fiction (that they care about you, care about your submission, etc) and for them to deliver that fiction in a convincing online manner. If a guy is good enough to fool you into thinking he's some 18 year old master Dominatrix then who cares?

In answer to your original question; because there are a lot of guys who aren't really looking for anything more than a quick fix for their desires and have no intention of paying (which you basically admit to being), some Pro-Dommes demand an upfront fee to protect their time. Others are just looking for an effortless way to get money without delivering services. As TNDommeK noted, the nice thing about Pro-Domming as sex work is that the sex worker can get paid to have someone do what the Pro-Domme wants, which is a turn around from most other areas of sex work. Hell, it's a turn around from most areas of life. I wish I could find someone willing to pay me for the privilege of cleaning my apartment even if I did have to put up with them wearing a latex maid outfit while they did it.

Also, according to your profile you live in Singapore. Just go to the four floors if you want a paid sexual release. I'm sure you can find someone willing to do whatever gets your kinky rocks off there and they won't make bones about being a prostitute. If you are going to stick to online only then don't worry about if they are fake or real, you're paying someone to deliver a fantasy anyway. Ultimately all paid sex work is fake unless you can really make yourself believe an employee has power over you. Why you are looking for online play when you live in a country with legal prostitution is beyond me.

However, if you do care about fake, then only work with a Domme who is willing to meet your requirements for confirmation of their "realness". They are selling a service and you are the customer. Only pay if you feel like you are going to get what you are paying for. Refusing to pay once services have been provided is also trashy (though if they fail to deliver promised services then don't pay). Really, the Pro-Domme is the one assuming most of the risk if they don't demand money up front so you have a responsibility to meet your promised obligations.

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RE: im a slave with online mistress questions - 2/24/2014 7:14:52 PM

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online mistresses normally ask for a one time submission fee. What do i get from that? do i have to pay more after that?

Well....that is a rather unique (but somewhat ridiculous) question.

What do you get from it: Whatever you're seeking I'd presume (depending on the offer as well as the price agreed to).

Do I have to pay more later?: In some cases, yes.

Is there anything else I can assist with?

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