FieryOpal
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ORIGINAL: Rawni
With the user nick I had before... I had an extra bit of men calling upon me to play the chastity game. I think I have heard and read just about all I wish to.
So many have tried to convince me that chastity was a way to get total submission from a man. Funny, especially at my age, that they think I haven't had submission from a man and that they know better how I can get it.  I've covered the topic... a lot. Part of what I wrote recently includes... domina's doing it wrong in some submissive minds of men on the prowl.
I wrote: One way or another, many submissive's think there is a certain way that a dominant woman is supposed to be. They think we should train them in kinky ways... change their behaviors by giving them pleasure of a kink nature and they swear it works!
Another part of the piece: Kink is kink, you don't use it to train other than in kinky play. If a submissive's behavior is that bad and a punishment dynamic is expected... you won't be getting kinky punishment. You will not like that punishment... you will avoid it.
I will add now: If submission improves because of the state of a man's cock, I wouldn't be interested in that submission. A cock centered relationship is more about him than it is about the people involved and I will be damned if a cock is dictating anything in my life. Chastity can be fun... but if that is where the submission starts.. that is where it will end. I would have no respect for the foundation.
If I wish to have some cock and am cock centered in his submission... I cannot get what I want... so all the way around, the whole idea is distasteful to me and far from impressive to me.
Just like female supremacy... I have read all sorts of things... trying to say how it is natural, scientific, etc. and I put as much into that science as I do the caveman stance that men rule women. If we haven't evolved just a bit and cannot control what we do because of urges without tempering... it is just too Neanderthal to me. We can live better without being led by urges. I will not be subject to urges however they are explained and will guide my life according to what I want and think is worthwhile.
Sexual things can get out of proportion in my view of things and when we fixate on certain things, we limit ourselves. Anyone in my mind, confusing fixation and stimulation with submission... is confused and may be justifying something by calling it something it really isn't. Like a fetish or a desire being called submission when it is clearly not about finding someone you wish to submit to because of who and what they are, rather than what they can do to you.
This is worth quoting in its entirety (with special emphasis on bolded parts). It's also why I don't have any desire to have my sub caged. If he doesn't have sufficient self-control to curb his own masturbatory urges, and effectively makes our D/s dynamic cock-centric, then it really becomes all about him and the state of his dick. He may fool himself into believing that women must be as genitally-fixated as he is.
What I posed to the OP still stands. Without One to submit to, your feelings of submissiveness are blowing in the wind. You have subjugated yourself to yourself, practicing a reverse form of onanism. Good luck with that.
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