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Toysinbabeland -> RE: The most novice-novice.... (3/6/2014 5:53:36 AM)

Op:

Let's just shift for a moment and stop talking about the dominant and start focusing on you.

You asked:
Is the "reward" worth the "price"?
Imho, there really is no price.
You should be doing this because this is what you want to do, which should include the things that you do not want to do, based solely on the fact that you wish to please him.

If you feel like there is a cost in this, by all means step back and assess yourself.
you don't want to pay emotionally later, because you did things that you wouldn't normally do.

It seems like a catch 22 but in the end you find that you always have to be comfortable with the level that you are at. If he cannot take you there himself without you feeling "right", you have already answered your own question.

Among the suggested things for you to read, look up ssc & rack.

Now let us focus on him. As a brand "spanking" new submissive, is he kind and patient with you? Does he lead you, and focus on things that will help you to better yourself, or is he just selfish, dealing with his own personal gain?

Once in a while, and this is no secret, a dominant is just a guy.

Once in a while they are more.

It's just like real life.
Forget about the mask of labels.

Think on your own for yourself first,
otherwise you really won't have much to submit.

I wish you peace of mind.



Eta:
Yay! I finally didn't have to edit anything......ooooops.




MissMarieCA -> RE: The most novice-novice.... (3/6/2014 6:11:59 AM)

My friend is fully aware that no decisions will be made without moving into the face to face stage. He is in full agreement on that. Cyber relationships that move into the live relationship can be successful if both sides have been honest with each other. I have experienced both good and bad scenerios myself. I will most definitely look into FetLife and ASubmissivesJourney. At the same time, I am keeping communication clear with my friend regarding what I see as the pros and cons for me. We discuss our options, and his understanding and willingness to compromise as I experiment comforts me. So does the fact that he is not rushing me, and is encouraging me to gain understanding and knowledge. As always, I appreciate everyone's input! Thank you.




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