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WickedOne9 -> Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 2:04:25 PM)

tell them you are no longer interested in continuing the communication?

Let me clarify. I am a submissive female looking for a dominant male. I have gotten a ton of replies, as I am sure every female
on this site does. As I go through the process of talking to the men who have written me there have been a few that I have told that I
don't wish to continue conversing. We have not met, we have not spoken to each other, hell, we haven't even exchanged names, yet they get all pissy and insulting. Like little babies. My first thought is if this is the quality of dom's on this site am I looking in the wrong place? I would understand if I played them but I have been nothing but honest. One guy was mad because I wanted to clarify something he had said in an earlier message & told me that I obviously hadn't invested the same amount of time in our emails. What the fuck does that mean? I admit I am a high maintenance submissive and I have made it crystal clear what I am seeking. I just don't understand why they so upset???



mnottertail -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 2:06:43 PM)

I guess maybe you have an aurora about you. dunno.



kdsub -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 2:36:11 PM)

WickedOne... there is nothing more fragile then a male Dominants ego... it comes with the territory.

Butch



smileforme50 -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 2:40:58 PM)

I've said this before.....I'm amazed at how they get upset if you don't respond to them too. Then they also get upset if you send them a message that says "Sorry not interested". So many times when I say "Sorry not interested" you can bet I'm going to get "Why not?". Can't they just take the "not interested" and leave it at that?



Rawni -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 2:42:08 PM)

They call it hormones when a woman does it... I suspect it could be hornymonal.



DesFIP -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 2:55:56 PM)

If you don't feel obligated to call up credit card companies and tell them no thanks, then you don't need to respond to spam from guys you aren't interested in.

Beyond that, if you have spoken a couple of times, just wish them good luck in their search and then hit the block button.

Nobody likes rejection and it's easy to lash out online when someone tells you that you aren't good enough.



shiftyw -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 2:59:12 PM)

"Like little babies"

Agreed.
I don't really like to bitch about the otherside over here, but I have more men come at me without reading my profile, then cry like children when I tell them the answer to what ever dumb question they asked is in my profile, which they should have read before mailing me.
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LadyConstanze -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 3:18:01 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: shiftyw

"Like little babies"

Agreed.
I don't really like to bitch about the otherside over here, but I have more men come at me without reading my profile, then cry like children when I tell them the answer to what ever dumb question they asked is in my profile, which they should have read before mailing me.
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Funny, I had a blog rant about that yesterday...

Yes, I had a few Cmailing me and telling me that after carefully reading my profile, they know they're my ideal partner/sub/slave

Now my profile states VERY VERY clearly, that I'm not looking, that I have a partner, I'm there for the forums and discussions. Sure if I got the time, I'll happily talk to somebody, but it really depends how somebody approaches me. If you approach me claiming to have read my profile and you clearly haven't, well, that's a bit of a bad start, isn't it? I mean you start out with telling me a big lie and then you wonder why I don't want to talk to you?
Basically you're telling me that you couldn't even take the time to find out ANYTHING about me, you might have looked at my picture and because you're a bit desperate, the little head started to do all the thinking. Additionally you just assume I'm so stupid that I won't spot your lie, you expect me to be flattered? I mean really? Might work in an alternative reality, unfortunately we're still on planet Earth.

And nope, after I told you 3 times that I am not looking and my profile clearly says so, really no need to send me another message with "Let me know if you change your mind!" Buttercup, don't hold your breath!


Though the crown goes to "wud b interested in being ur friend Im vy kinky n wud like 2 discuss this with u., btw u luk GORGEOUS!" - that might work if you're texting a 14 year old, just reading that I could feel my IQ dropping to single digits...



Rule -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 4:36:07 PM)

Delete, block, hide and forget.



xTightlylacedx -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 4:43:12 PM)

I actually had a guy lecture me about how I wasn't a real sub because I refused to give him my phone number after just a few messages. I ended up blocking him, and he actually created another profile for the soul purpose of lecturing me more. Sometimes I don't want to live on this planet anymore.



DarkSteven -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 5:13:25 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: kdsub

WickedOne... there is nothing more fragile then a male Dominants ego... it comes with the territory.

Butch


Uh, no. A Dominant has self control. Just because they self-describe as Dominants, doesn't mean they are.

WickedOne, you live in the Denver area. You'd do far better to get out into the community and meet people at munches and parties, than to keep looking online.

Here's some of the local scene:


The Denver Bound Fet group: https://fetlife.com/groups/1249

The Colorado Spankos Fet group: https://fetlife.com/groups/3561

The Skales Fet group: https://fetlife.com/groups/3313

The Longmont munch Fet group: https://fetlife.com/groups/9368

The Denver munch: https://fetlife.com/groups/2938

The Sanctuary Fet group: https://fetlife.com/groups/1191

The Sanctuary website: http://www.denversanctuary.com/

The Boulder munch: https://fetlife.com/groups/16332



windchymes -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 6:15:11 PM)

I guess everyone has things they get upset about. They get upset because you don't want to talk to them anymore, you get upset because they get upset and complain.



LookieNoNookie -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 7:47:53 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: WickedOne9

tell them you are no longer interested in continuing the communication?

Let me clarify. I am a submissive female looking for a dominant male. I have gotten a ton of replies, as I am sure every female
on this site does. As I go through the process of talking to the men who have written me there have been a few that I have told that I
don't wish to continue conversing. We have not met, we have not spoken to each other, hell, we haven't even exchanged names, yet they get all pissy and insulting. Like little babies. My first thought is if this is the quality of dom's on this site am I looking in the wrong place? I would understand if I played them but I have been nothing but honest. One guy was mad because I wanted to clarify something he had said in an earlier message & told me that I obviously hadn't invested the same amount of time in our emails. What the fuck does that mean? I admit I am a high maintenance submissive and I have made it crystal clear what I am seeking. I just don't understand why they so upset???


It's funny, I haven't even read the responses but I'm sure they're largely in concurrence.

Reverse it...a guy saying what you said....all hell would break loose.



MrRodgers -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 9:40:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: kdsub

WickedOne... there is nothing more fragile then a male Dominants ego... it comes with the territory.

Butch

Hell, anytime anywhere any woman tells me anything, not interested, not my 'type', we are not a match...I thank them for letting me know rather than string along indecisive about it. A while back, I had one all giddy about meeting, wanted to move our meet up. Then said I needed to send her $500.

Free websites, all websites have their fakes and frauds and even some...that aren't your type. One must parse profiles and responses very carefully.



WickedOne9 -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/4/2014 10:48:57 PM)

Thank you ALL for your support - I admit I was nervous posting this because I didn't want to get "beaten up", not knowing the climate here, yet. And this was my first post. I appreciate knowing I am not alone and I feel confident I have done the right thing :) You guys are the best. . . xoxoxo



ThePrincessKali -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/5/2014 12:54:00 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: smileforme50

I've said this before.....I'm amazed at how they get upset if you don't respond to them too. Then they also get upset if you send them a message that says "Sorry not interested". So many times when I say "Sorry not interested" you can bet I'm going to get "Why not?". Can't they just take the "not interested" and leave it at that?


It isn't just this site. I've been on vanilla dating sites and been bombarded with messages. I have had guys send me really nasty messages because I didn't message them back just to decline. I've received nasty messages after politely declining. Hell, it even happens in person. I was walking down the street with a girl friend yesterday. Two guys were sitting on a bench outside of a restaurant. They yelled at us to come talk to them as we passed by. We politely replied that we were in a rush and kept walking. Once we were about a half a block away one of them yelled, "Your attitude sucks! Stuck up bitches!" I think some guys just can't handle rejection whether it be online, real life, kinky, vanilla.



DNSerror -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/5/2014 1:10:22 AM)

You could say they're doing you a favor: confirming that you were right in the first place that they're not the type of guys you want to talk with.

I'm not saying it's fun to deal with upset or rude people. I'm sorry, that can really be a drag. But at least you know you're doing the right thing.



MissKittyDeVine -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/5/2014 4:33:46 AM)

A sub contacted me offering to play if I was bored one afternoon, and hoping I could drop the professional side for once. I deleted it unread, as I clearly state that I ONLY do paid sessions and am not looking for a personal sub. I then commented in a blog post that there were no exceptions, which then elicited another message from him hoping that he could be the 'one in a million'. You just can't get through to some people. I'm really not interested in giving freebies to bored married guys. At least he wasn't rude though.



smileforme50 -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/5/2014 4:54:42 AM)

It's sad but that's the impression I get from a lot of "Doms". They think that just because I have labeled myself as "submissive" that obviously that means I will give them a NSA blowjob. I mean..... If I refuse him then obviously I'm not very submissive.



needlesandpins -> RE: Why do they get all emotional when you (3/5/2014 10:02:03 AM)

welcome to the world of do-me guys. it doesn't matter whether it's a self proclaimed dom who expects every female to get on her knees and suck his cock, or the 'sub/slave' who tells you in great detail what he wants his Domme to do to him every second of the day. non of them want to hear the word no, because they are that special little snow flake that makes them stand out from the crowd. the trouble with tons of special little snow flakes is that they add up to loads of slush that you wish would piss off, and melt away already so the sun can come out to play.

needles



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