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Bishiboi -> How do find a true Master ? (3/4/2014 6:33:26 PM)
So far been finding a lot of wannabes. Is there something, i need to put in my profile that will attract a sane experienced Master who's interested in LTR. Or, is there something in my profile, that is scaring them away ?

Silvver -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/4/2014 6:37:34 PM)
The problem is, you're online and most if not all, with real experience are offline because they easily find partners. There's only a few exceptions. You need to find offline venues to meet people.

OsideGirl -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/4/2014 6:38:45 PM)
1) I dare you to define the words "true Master". Because what is true to me, may not be true to you. 2) Get rid of the picture showing your tits. You're showing yourself as a sex object rather than a human being. 3) Lastly, (and this part sucks) being trans-sexual means that you're coming up against societal biases and people that view you as a fetish object. Unfortunately, there's not much you can do about that part, except be patient.

LadyConstanze -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/4/2014 6:44:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl 1) I dare you to define the words "true Master". Because what is true to me, may not be true to you. 2) Get rid of the picture showing your tits. You're showing yourself as a sex object rather than a human being. 3) Lastly, (and this part sucks) being trans-sexual means that you're coming up against societal biases and people that view you as a fetish object. Unfortunately, there's not much you can do about that part, except be patient. This and especially point 2, I just clicked through your profile and in every picture you do present yourself as an object, if you show less (especially not the cock sucking pic) you might get less replies, but the ones you get might be better quality. Also your profile, you have a bit to offer, mention that, after all sex and D/s is a relatively small part of the 24 hours of each day, what's happening in the other 23 hours?

KnightofMists -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/5/2014 6:06:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl 1) I dare you to define the words "true Master". Because what is true to me, may not be true to you. 2) Get rid of the picture showing your tits. You're showing yourself as a sex object rather than a human being. 3) Lastly, (and this part sucks) being trans-sexual means that you're coming up against societal biases and people that view you as a fetish object. Unfortunately, there's not much you can do about that part, except be patient. I agree with this in general.... But the first two points will not be a huge issue. But point 3 is what makes the pool of masters that would be interested in very small indeed. The reality there is a lot of Masters out there but there is only a very few that will be suited for you. It's like trying to find a specific needle in a haystack of needles that is also mixed with a pile of hay. It just not easy and the more particular our situation the more particular our potential partner is going to be.

SexySubmissive69 -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/9/2014 4:06:54 PM)
I have been looking for a real master for over three years on this site and so far all I have since is posters and liers and now it is getting hard to trust anyone anymore, because really you never know......

ResidentSadist -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/10/2014 9:27:50 AM)
I think it is 90% attitude, 10% luck. Like marketing, don't over complicate it. Sell one thing, one perspective. You post a lot of duality in your profile. I mean, instead of saying what you are, you say what you aren't explaining how you are now isn't how you used to be. You used dress girly but, now you dress like a dyke. You aren't going to have srs because of your age. You haven't changed your name but use your middle name. That much complexity weeds out a lot of people. If you don't know who you are, how are we suppose to? We are all complex, but let that develop with the relationship not act as a filter or deterrent to starting one. You could just say "My name is X and I am a t-girl, I like casual dress and am fond of the equipment I was born with". All that confusion is a red flag. Just sayin'

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/11/2014 4:28:46 PM)
Welcome to the Forums, Bishiboi!! [:D] NBMG

smileforme50 -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/11/2014 6:47:52 PM)
(Ok...I just finally got to reading this thread and I only have one comment....) quote: (from LadyConstanze) "after all sex and D/s is a relatively small part of the 24 hours of each day, what's happening in the other 23 hours?" BRAVO....that is a question that not nearly enough people ask.

FieryOpal -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/12/2014 12:10:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: smileforme50 quote: (from LadyConstanze) "after all sex and D/s is a relatively small part of the 24 hours of each day, what's happening in the other 23 hours?" BRAVO....that is a question that not nearly enough people ask. I do get the spirit of what is meant, and in that spirit, mundane life's priorities have to be taken into consideration. Not to be a literalist, though, D/s IS a 24/7 proposition to me in terms of mindset, as opposed to engaging in BDSM kink. Not even minus 8 hours of sleep, because I better be present in my sub's dreamscape in addition to being continuously on his awakened mind. [;)]

DaddySatyr -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/12/2014 12:24:48 AM)
quote: (from LadyConstanze) "after all sex and D/s is a relatively small part of the 24 hours of each day, what's happening in the other 23 hours?" This may be true of some people but it isn't true of all. My relationship(s) is (are) always D/s. The good Lord knows, I *wish* I was having sex 24 hours a day but I can assure you that the dynamic in my relationship is 24/7. I think (as is frequently the case) Oside hit it out of the park; What works for one probably doesn't work for a lot of people. It is well worth the time and energy to find the few people with whom you *really* can connect. Further, semi-off-topic advice to the OP: Judging people as "real" and "not real" around here can get you put into a category in which you don't want to reside.

Arturas -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/14/2014 1:35:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SexySubmissive69 I have been looking for a real master for over three years on this site and so far all I have since is posters and liers and now it is getting hard to trust anyone anymore, because really you never know...... The good news is you are getting experience at figuring out who is true and not, something that really must be learned this way, I suppose. The other good news is there are success stories here and there is no reason you cannot be in one also.

Arturas -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/14/2014 1:44:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bishiboi So far been finding a lot of wannabes. Is there something, i need to put in my profile that will attract a sane experienced Master who's interested in LTR. Or, is there something in my profile, that is scaring them away ? Echoing what someone said well already, let me welcome you to "this side" of CM. Secondly let me say I think your profile and pictures amazing and Sir Sean Connery looks like me so old good looking 007 type pervs think you did real good, if that means anything, seriously. Finally, don't change things and give it time. You are doing good. Maybe all you need is encouragement and thinking positive about what you want and consistantly thinking it day in and day out and it will happen. It will.

Ravensnake -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/15/2014 2:50:57 AM)
To the OP, I've had 3 Masters and it didn't work out so far with any. One was kind but not very dominant and I found I had to lead. Another just wanted to please me. I don't expect to find anyone as I've a lot against me, not least of which is my being post op trans, but you never know. My profile reflects what I am and what I seek. Edit your profile along the lines of the advice offered. Good luck.

frunandsins -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/20/2014 10:29:43 PM)
Re: OP I think establishing a screening protocol might be a good step. Figure out what questions you need to know the answers for to decide if someone fits the criteria of being a real master to you. I learned it the hard way through trials and errors as a Dom, and I now have a very protracted screening process. Since I've adopted it, I have been able to weed out the people with unrealistic fantasies much faster, and I can also detect compatibility faster. One point to raise though is to re-evaluate and re-assess your standards for a master. Are your expectations appropriate for an on-line site? When you say you kept running into wannabes, I wonder if you are working off of a reasonable set of expectations, or not. I've talked to a slave applicant who, within the first 20 messages, wanted me to go kidnap him from his house and imprison him at my house. Seriously? Finally, regarding the trans* issue, I actually have talked to a few ftm men, whom I find very desirable physically as subs. But none had worked out yet due to either incompatible interests or logistics for actual meetings. ButI think you're doing the right thing in presenting the information front and center. I wish you the best.

Kana -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/22/2014 7:33:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bishiboi So far been finding a lot of wannabes. Is there something, i need to put in my profile that will attract a sane experienced Master who's interested in LTR. Or, is there something in my profile, that is scaring them away ? Offer cash

amaidiamond -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/27/2014 9:12:19 AM)
What is it YOU view as a "True" Master? What traits is it you value in a person. Once you know what it is you are seeking you can start working on finding it.

SailingBum -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (3/27/2014 1:38:30 PM)
Your profile seems ok to me. But like others have said, Get out into the real world. BadOne

FrankensteinLoon -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (4/9/2014 1:02:01 PM)
there are no such things as true Masters - that is merely a stereotype, or mythology or ideal - if you prefer it worded that way. coso artefact i always choose as an apt analogy 1. your profile is okish, better than most on here, and you have pictures which is a rarity i presume of you too :) 2. your profile says you are not sure who and what you are 3. you are presuming everyone on here is who and what they claim 4. you haven't said what you are looking for, or what your idea of a master is if one does not know oneself, one will never know which one seeks personally i found the real world of kink - just the same as online one can argue it would be staying the course and hope crossing the paths with the right person at the right moment in time occurs

Darkfeather -> RE: How do find a true Master ? (4/10/2014 1:32:07 PM)
I simply show my "True Master's Card" Acceptable at any major department store, gas station, roadside fruitstand, and the odd vending machine. Not valid in Guam or the Virgin Islands, void where prohibited

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