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pg4g -> RE: Need Guidance (3/10/2014 12:44:31 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MasterRobert007
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ORIGINAL: angelical
So how are you personally defining consent?
Before play we both agreed that anything goes. There are no hard limits.
Did you discuss with her the idea that she might want to back out half way through, and her limits may change in the moment? Because that happens. And unless specifically discussed, this is most definitely rape and assault.
I discussed this with my partner for more than a year prior to doing anything like this. It took him that long before he trusted me not to report it as rape when he did so.
Just discussing before a scene is nothing. Institute a safeword, if you plan to play casually like this, that way you can gauge consent accurately.
"Consensual nonconsent" or the agreement between two partners that the sub can be ignored in their attempts to withdraw consent is EXTREMELY advanced play and requires both parties to know themselves and each other first. There are no excuses for this with casual play.
And as for punching in the stomach - this type of assault, apart from being extremely dangerous, would probably fall well out of what the sub expected you to do. Consent needs to be measured not only on what the sub agreed to - "No hard limits" - but what they thought they were agreeing to. They probably expected hair pulling, name calling, etc.
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