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kittysbell -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 10:57:28 AM)
whats illegible about it,that i dont use caps,lol. an heres anouther catch 22,i know theres others,the happy have found a way,those who didnt are dead or will be.but every state agency ive attempted to find help with has told me the same thing"theres only ONE of you,not enough to warrent funding of anything that would help you"or "so sorry,theres no legal protections to go on to represent your INDIVIDUAL discrimination case". so even though there are others were so few and far between to count.you can pretend its all about me,an your right on the level that im searching for somone to help me better myself, eventually overcoming with this living hell. survival is a selfish instinct. sorry if im in a position wher im the only one who does care.

searching4mysir -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 11:11:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kittysbell whats illegible about it run-on sentences, lack of punctuation (such as apostrophes and periods let alone paragraph breaks). quote: sorry if im in a position wher im the only one who does care. so then become someone that someone else WANTS to care about. If all you are attracting are selfish pricks, then the common denominator is you.

evesgrden -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 11:43:35 AM)
This is the first you've said anything about being born with both male and female features. I'm not talking about orientation, I'm talking about physiology. Is that the case? Were you born with both and female genitals? If so, you should have been (and I would think still should be) eligible for treatment. But that should have been done before puberty.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 11:53:05 AM)
FR If you actually think someone is going to pay for your surgery out of the kindness of their heart you are delusional. The only reason someone, anyone, would help you with this is b/c they like and admire you as a person. You're having trouble finding that for one reason only: You are not a likable or admirable person. It's that simple. You need to see that it's not all about you, and until you do, you will be miserable. Slightly alluding to suicide only adds emotional manipulative to my list of things I don't like about you. (Whiny is #1). You expect someone to do all the hard work of becoming a happy person for you, but no one and I do mean no one can do that for you.

kittysbell -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 12:02:58 PM)
those pricks are business owners,otherwse known as cowards constrained to the whim of the majority they cater too.ive done this building of myself, expended my all helping a downtown community that doesnt seem to give a shat.pulled myself off the streets,leed a crew of others doing all the laborus things that need done around here.i still get no respect,no apreciation. im in the middle of a secound social annexation at this time.im no further to my goals than i was 5 yrs ago when i started. all my allies are apathetic,the one person in the world i thought cared for me has just been using me,my director has lost my subservience in that the mind,body,an soul needed tended after, an right now all those fractions of myself just hurt. for what? daring to make it on my own? so im done with helping those who wont help me.an right now medical needs are prevalent,not something to just be lived with. im looking for options,not that i expect to find them here,or anywher for that matter. and my writting style is that of a first draft,just getting it out there,if for some reason i was publishing my work then i might give a damn about paragraph structure,lol.

mnottertail -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 12:07:56 PM)
How the fuck does this resolve to a 50s style household, cuz this whole fuckoree looks like a rant disguised as a rant, and I didn't spend a great deal of time coming to that conclusion, it wasn't a vexing issue, pretty up front and uncomplicated.

LadyConstanze -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 12:09:03 PM)
quote: and my writting style is that of a first draft,just getting it out there,if for some reason i was publishing my work then i might give a damn about paragraph structure,lol. I was trying to figure out what the problem is and maybe point you in the direction of people who also deal with such issues, but after reading that you don't give a damn unless you're publishing it, I guess I shouldn't give a damn either.

kittysbell -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 12:13:51 PM)
you spend a lifetime bieng judged soley on a grotesque deformation hanging betwixt your legs ,an well see if you dont have the same calloused attitude toward yourself and others.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 12:16:22 PM)
But no one knows you have that but you. Unless you go around showing your personal parts to random strangers on the street. Other people aren't judging you for what's between your legs YOU ARE. Love yourself. If you can learn to love yourself, and forgive yourself, life will open many doors for you. Or stay where you are hating yourself, up to you.

LadyConstanze -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 12:18:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kittysbell you spend a lifetime bieng judged soley on a grotesque deformation hanging betwixt your legs ,an well see if you dont have the same calloused attitude toward yourself and others. I know people who went through gender reassignment and surgery, it wasn't easy for ANY of them, none of them had such a calloused attitude - maybe that was why people went out of their way to help THEM?

FeralFoxy -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 12:22:45 PM)
I have deformations on my chest, where everyone can see them. The only way to hide them is by wearing an uncomfortable binder, which itches in the winter and roasts me in the summer. And I can't afford surgery either. I can afford hormones now, however, because I reached out for support and found it. I offered to help you find affordable care for your medical problem, but you still claim that nobody cares. Since I'm nobody, and a nobody can't be all that helpful, I withdraw my offer.

kittysbell -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 12:45:57 PM)
oh ive found hormones on my own,im learning social scripts albeit awkwardly my own,im surviving on my own. but when survival takes everything and leaves you with nothing,its time to try something new.

kalikshama -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 12:59:48 PM)
quote: and my writting style is that of a first draft,just getting it out there,if for some reason i was publishing my work then i might give a damn about paragraph structure,lol. Your lack of effort makes you REALLY hard to understand. If you don't care enough to add spaces and paragraphs, why should we care enough to try to decipher it?

SeekingTrinity -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 1:12:15 PM)
~FRing it~ If you think you are going to learn social scripts based on an outdated gender social structure...you aren't going to learn much. Women today do not act as they did back then. If you are into the 50's dynamic as a relationship dynamic, that's one thing. But if you are looking at it as a way to get a free ride (ie. paying for your SRS), all that can be said is good luck and much patience because you are going to need a dump truck load of each with the unrealistic expectations you have. As an aside, this is a WRITTEN medium of communication. If you are just going to half-ass it, don't expect people to put forth an effort trying to translate. Quit expecting the world to meet you on your terms. You have to be willing to meet people halfway.

evesgrden -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 2:02:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kittysbell you spend a lifetime bieng judged soley on a grotesque deformation hanging betwixt your legs ,an well see if you dont have the same calloused attitude toward yourself and others. If you win the lottery, you still won't be able to get the SRS without being cleared psychologically. You'll need to look in the mirror and face your real demons; that's where the grotesque deformities live. Memo to you: your biggest problem is not your cock.

FeralFoxy -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 2:11:01 PM)
While many doctors still demand a letter from a therapist, that is not the most current standard of care. Being transgender is a medical condition, not a psych disorder. Informed consent treatment is the new standard, and will hopefully become the norm soon. As for the rest, I will keep my opinion to myself.

LadyConstanze -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 2:17:57 PM)
I thought for the surgery, the gender reassignment (changing your legal status to the other gender, etc.) you still need a stack of forms and evaluations? Has that changed?

stef -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 2:23:48 PM)
Things have changed a lot in the last 10 years. The whole "gatekeeper" system is slowly being scrapped.

LadyConstanze -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 2:30:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stef Things have changed a lot in the last 10 years. The whole "gatekeeper" system is slowly being scrapped. I'm talking about the legal changes, plus over here the surgery is usually covered by your health insurance, there have been the odd cases where people weren't happy with changing their gender and wanted to change back, the whole process is more to make sure they know what to expect, that it's a lengthy process, also a lot of paperwork as basically everything needs to be changed, from the name in your passport, your birth certificate, qualifications, etc. Having had a few friends who went through it, it's wonderful that they try to make it easier, but you can't just forget about the whole bureaucratic action that follows, most of them want to live in a new place where nobody knew them as anything else than the gender they feel they are, and you can't apply for a job as Jane Smith, when your paperwork says John Smith...

kittysbell -> RE: 50s style household (3/12/2014 2:46:08 PM)
ive went through the hurdles of the gatekeeping system,been sych cleared an doc cleared,letters in order. changed what oio will allow of identification.now languishing in preoperative hell for lack of finance due to lack of employment protection. of course id like to move an restartthats just not feasable as id just be yet anouther trans girl on the streets in unfamiliar territory.double edged sword stying her,i do have minimal work to survive on,but im an anti celebrity..wher everyone knows your name.. ive gotten as far as society will allow,inspite of its purposefull hinderance. really i could just restart put in anouther 5 yrs of vollunteer effort from the ground up,but do i really wanna waste my efforts only to hit anouther glass ceiling? really im tired,physically,and mentally, never knowing what turmoil tomarrow may bring.its never anything i need to do,but what the system demands.

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