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Fabster89 -> Very new (3/16/2014 5:29:27 PM)
Hi there everyone. Ok so I'm totally new to this whole lifestyle and I'm not even sure if I'm considered either a dom or a sub but I'm willing to try them both out just to set my preference. I'm thankful for you guys for letting me part of this family. Any tips?

SweetAnise -> RE: Very new (3/16/2014 5:44:40 PM)
Hi welcome to the discussion forum. You will find plenty of discussions that pertain to some of your questions. As for tips, you should probably join a local group in your community, attend a munch, and do some reading. Also hang out with us. Welcome again.

TieMeInKnottss -> RE: Very new (3/16/2014 8:10:49 PM)
Welcome! Check out the BDSM book list on the top of the "General" forum.

Fabster89 -> RE: Very new (3/16/2014 8:49:08 PM)
I'm not sure my community has such a thing. And I'm assuming a munch is a get together? Almost like group meeting? And thanks tiemeinknotss

peppermint -> RE: Very new (3/17/2014 12:11:59 AM)
You are correct. A munch is a get together, usually in a restaurant. It's a social thing and not for playtime. If you Google Santa Barbara and the word munch you will find that not only does Santa Barbara have a munch, it also appears to have a venue. Welcome to the forums. They are a great place to read and learn.

Rasciallymisty -> RE: Very new (3/17/2014 4:38:48 AM)
Hello and welcome to the discussion side of the site, it's nice to have you here with us. Take a look around and see what we are all about and maybe join in when you feel ready. There is a lot of good information here if you do not mind doing some reading. All the lovely people above me gave you some good advice so I will not repeat it.[:D] Good luck in finding that in which you seek.

DarkSteven -> RE: Very new (3/17/2014 5:50:44 AM)
I tried to let you know what kinkfunctions and munches are in your area, but the Fetlife search function is broken now... Well, welcome to the site.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Very new (3/17/2014 9:33:20 AM)
Hi Fabster! Welcome! I've found some links for you. I don't know how helpful they will be. There are more if you Google Santa Barbara BDSM. http://www.threshold.org/threshold/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=131&Itemid=143 http://thebottomline.as.ucsb.edu/2012/01/5319 http://kinky-fetishes-bdsm.meetup.com/cities/us/ca/santa_barbara/ NBMG

Toysinbabeland -> RE: Very new (3/17/2014 7:07:52 PM)
Welcome to the forums fabster. I wish you luck on the journey to discovering your preferences.

Fabster89 -> RE: Very new (3/17/2014 11:15:51 PM)
I'm gonna go check out the second link that you provided nicebutmeangirl. Thanks!

TNDommeK -> RE: Very new (3/18/2014 3:07:12 AM)
Hello and welcome

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Very new (3/18/2014 5:16:26 AM)
Welcome to the fun side Faster. Your local community does have a munch I'm sure. We even have one in my little town here in Indiana. It's the best way to meet people in the lifestyle MY favorite BDSM book Is called Different Loving. It gets into a lot of things you will find confusing at first, and gives you several takes on for instance, what it means to be a dom or a sub. You can find it used on Amazon for cheap. There's lots to learn here too of course. Once you've mastered the clunky search feature you will be able to pull up past threads on most any topic. And please feel free to jump into our discussions or ask questions where when you need to.

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