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Defining Moment? - 3/16/2014 10:00:24 PM

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Was there any moments in your life when you can pinpoint that you realised you were into something very different?

Personally, I have three.

- Watching the movie Ransom as a kid. I was 8, and something in me wanted to be the kid held captive and handcuffed. I wanted to be held against my will.

- Watching Starship Troopers when I was 9. I saw a handsome guy getting restrained for corporal punishment, and then whipped. I... wow I have no idea what I saw in that but damn both seeing another man being hurt like that made me go "whoa" and half of me wanted to be that man, and half of me wanted to be wielding it.

- Playing cops and robbers. Some handsome boy was playing the cop and he had fake handcuffs on me, and was holding me down to the grass with his foot. [mod edit to remove under-age sexual specifics]

I'm curious what others might have experienced that would tell them "you're not quite normal."

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/16/2014 10:04:45 PM

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No.

I've always dated men like this. This is just how I grew up, who I am, always have been this way, the culture in which I grew up.

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/16/2014 10:48:21 PM

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I had childhood play moments like you... Hell my mother still tells me the story of walking into my room one morning when I was about 4-5 years old, tied to my bed by the neck with my belt. The poor woman thought I was trying to kill myself, all I was doing was playing 'captured tiger being trained'...

But no, I never had a moment where I realized that I was different. What I had was a realization when I was about 15ish that the until-then non-sexual submissive fantasy play could easily be translated into adult play time, making it possible for me to really live out some of the fantasies I had. In short, my realization was that there were other people out there like me, but never a feeling like that therefore made me different.

I've always dated like this. It's who I am. I consider kink to be as much a sexual orientation for me than homosexuality is for gay people.

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/16/2014 11:54:04 PM

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I can't remember how young I was when fantasies of being tied up and tortured or raped started. It could be 5 or 8. But I know when I am playing with barbies, they were stripped naked, in bondage and whipped. I don't know where the inspiration or desire came from, it just felt like I breathe it. When I hit maturity and am more clear about my desires, it oddly wasn't alarming or I really didn't have battles or issues with it. I simply accepted it as something I enjoy, and tried to find men whom I can trust enough to play out these fantasies. There is the reality that I know I will not be accepted in many circles for being what I am into, so I simply do not publicise it. But I see it more of as, I do not like to make people uncomfortable. I am comfortable with what I am into and more than happy to share with anybody who is interested, but the ones I know who will be disturbed by it, I see no reason to cause such an uncomfortable situation for them with me.

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/17/2014 5:18:28 AM

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Like Greta, I've had these thoughts as far back as I can remember. My dreams typically consisted of being kidnapped by a group of people, held captive, bound, and raped. I often had a reoccurring dream throughout and I can still remember all the details. I loved that dream. When I didn't have those, my dreams were nightmares of the most horrifying and graphic imagery.

I can't really say I've had a defining moment. It's mostly been adult experimentation and perhaps a eureka moment when I discovered there was a name to it. With self-acceptance, I've allowed myself to express and follow my desires.

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/17/2014 9:56:58 AM

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Post deleted because domnotlooking is correct. My bad.

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/17/2014 10:05:46 AM

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Talking about your childhood sexual urges is against the TOS and the kind of thing that could get this board in trouble with some lord loving local level prosecutor.

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/17/2014 5:22:54 PM

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Yup.... The day I was born.... And everyday after that validated that there is no one like me. I am unique.

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/17/2014 6:12:00 PM

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Believe it or not. It was "I Dream of Jeannie". I think I was 9 or 10. It wasn't sexual at all.

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/17/2014 7:20:36 PM

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I had fantasies of being bound and spanked from the time I was about 6. I didn't understand what it was or where it came from....but I also knew it wasn't something I wanted to ask my family about. I remember one time my grandfather playfully threatened to spank me....and I got excited about it....lol

When I was about 12 or 13, there was a book that came out for the first time called "The Book of Lists". I had a fascination with useless trivia and such, so I bought it. There was a chapter in there called "Private Parts" and it had a few lists dealing with S&M. I immediately recognized the similarities between what those lists described and what I had fantasized about for so long. That was the first time I realized that there actually might be other people out there who had the same thoughts I did.

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/17/2014 8:07:37 PM

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I didn't have a particular moment. I vaguely remember thoughts I had... like if I was watching something where a damsel was kidnapped by the villain and the hero went to save her, I'd think "Well, that's silly, she's already with a man and he's way better than some boring knight. If I was her I'd tell the knight I'm not leaving!" And by my early teens I knew I wanted to be owned by a man someday, and didn't think it was possible even as a simulation, which made me very upset. I didn't know BDSM existed until I was 16 and until then I thought my choices were "be in a relationship that won't make you happy" or "be alone."

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/18/2014 12:00:04 AM

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Ever since I can remember, I always felt very different. But that was all right because I came from a family of individualists and our uniqueness was celebrated, within limits. Social conformity was not the norm outside of our family unit and family circle. Yet there was a rigid protocol we observed. I rarely speak of this because so few other people can relate, but we had diplomatic protocol to follow.

Sexually speaking, I don't want to violate ToS. I will say that my earliest memories of feeling an affinity for TV programming was as follows:
- Bewitched (not much to explain here, a powerful wife, etc.)
- The Addams Family (quirky, loved how wife Morticia wielded serene feminine power)
- I Dream of Jeannie (like Blonderfluff, although I always rooted for her to captivate Larry Hagman's character with her alluring charms)
- Select movies featuring romantic love stories. I wanted to rewrite any tragic endings.

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/18/2014 3:32:35 AM

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I never had a dawning moment where I realized that I was different. I did have a dawning moment when I realized everyone was different, and I felt sorry for them.

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/18/2014 5:51:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff

Believe it or not. It was "I Dream of Jeannie". I think I was 9 or 10. It wasn't sexual at all.

Mmmmmmmm. I suddenly had images of Blonderfluff in a sexy Jeannie outfit siting on a tropical beach of course ;). Mmmmmmmmmmm wow hot......

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/18/2014 1:07:08 PM

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I had a neighbor/friend of mine make me literally her b*itch for Halloween. This was probably 10 years ago and I had a few drink's in me at the time. My then neighbor was a cute Nurse. She had a kinkier side that I wasn't quite aware of at the moment. Anyway's it was Halloween and she threw on some weird suit on me and then had some sort of "leach" attached to it, that she lead me around on. The more humiliating part of it was then she paraded me around with that leach on me, around the entire neighborhood. I felt alittle embarrassed but I was able to joke it off since it was Halloween, Still, I wasn't very open about my submissive sexual nature back then and to have that out on the open, was alittle nerving. But most people found it to be interesting and some of the local female neighbors thought it was sexy. Not something one see's everyday, not even on Halloween. Now, I am very open about who I am and I can look back at that moment on Halloween 10 years ago as a "defining moment" in being open with who I am.

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/18/2014 1:10:18 PM

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I'm not going to say this was the catalyst, but it sure put the Dom in motion.

Jus sayin
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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/18/2014 1:10:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

quote:

ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff

Believe it or not. It was "I Dream of Jeannie". I think I was 9 or 10. It wasn't sexual at all.

Mmmmmmmm. I suddenly had images of Blonderfluff in a sexy Jeannie outfit siting on a tropical beach of course ;). Mmmmmmmmmmm wow hot......

Lol!! Aww

It's actually my FAVORITE Halloween costume. :)

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/18/2014 4:54:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff

Lol!! Aww

It's actually my FAVORITE Halloween costume. :)

Waits patiently for a picture of that favorite costume to give added stimuli to the fantasy. ;)

Modelled by the person in question of course

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/19/2014 11:27:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

I'm not going to say this was the catalyst, but it sure put the Dom in motion.

Jus sayin
Exiled

That was one of my motivators, but I started very early. So early in fact, I had to delete a post. I can't honestly remember when I first 'knew' I was wired this way, but it was a long time ago. It could possibly even go back as far as The Avengers, when Emma Peel was in dominatrix drag for an ep or two.

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RE: Defining Moment? - 3/19/2014 11:30:27 AM

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I figured folks would do the math. SW-ROTJ release date - my age =

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