LadyConstanze
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ORIGINAL: MissMorrigan What I have noticed in a few of the replies is judgemental scorn because this is food-related, because let's be real, a great many people are under the misconception that those who have food-related issues are either bathroom vomiters or lazy Mickey D gorgers. if it were a discussion regarding alcoholism, sex or any other form of addiction it would be treated with a greater understanding. I don't think anybody said they are all the same, but I think for the ones who make the bad food choices and don't care, it's a bit unfair to lump them in with others who are actively doing something. I've got friends who are struggling and they have issues, however I also know a few who don't care and will tell you that cooking is too much of an effort, sink pints of beer frequently (yeah that stuff so doesn't make you fat) but then complain about the world. One girl is in her mid 20's and complains about having trouble conceiving and that her GP and OB Gyn both told her she needs to lose weight first, even if she would get pregnant (her BMI is over 40) she'd be putting herself and the child at risk and that as she's more or less pre-diabetic, her BP is far too high, she needs to cut down on salt, saturated fats, processed foods, she was outraged, she didn't ask them for diet advise, she just wants to get pregnant. Her partner was suggesting he takes over cooking and she would spend so much less money instead of having take outs almost every night and suggested to remove all the unhealthy stuff (crisps, chocolate, frozen ready meals...) from the house, she almost broke up with him, he wasn't 'supportive", her docs aren't supportive as they don't give her magic slimming pills but suggested a balanced diet and offered to sign her up for free classes regarding nutrition and hydrotherapy. We actually all liked her and most of us tried to include her in activities, but if it has anything to do with fresh air and even just a gentle walk, she's not interested. Her dog, it's close to animal cruelty, the only exercise he gets is being let out in her small garden and she feeds him what she eats, it's a wheezing dog and we looked after him for 3 days while she was away, he stropped as we fed him the dog food for older dogs (calorie reduced), the dog park is 10 minutes away, the dog was exhausted when we arrived there and sat there panting, Labs like to eat but they also tend to be active dogs, a medium sized Labrador with 70 kilos is not right. I like the girl and I hate watching her kill herself (and the dog) but I just can't feel sorry for her, apparently I must be a masochist because I take walks and occasionally work out, I don't know how to live because we might get a take out meal maybe once a month, my other half must be so miserable (he has weight issues and is happy that I'm supportive). On her own she's OK but when she's with her 2 best friends, I try to avoid her, they're the same size and they are always running their mouths. I'm everything but super skinny, but they keep making nasty comments, anything from "We do bigger poos than you are" to the usual that I'm too afraid to live because I avoid fast food, I must be starving myself... So now I tend to avoid them as a pack, which means of course that I'm the typical "skinny cow" and arrogant, duh, why would anybody seek out the company of somebody who's just heaping insults on you? I mean really? I know it could all be just some defence mechanism, but I'm just sick of it and sick of "Oh it's genetic, the whole world is getting bigger, diets don't work anyway" - I agree with the diets, they usually don't work, but undisciplined eating and avoiding to move and then their tale of woes about the size of seats everywhere and why don't all clothing manufacturers make clothes in their sizes... Easier to just avoid them than listen to their insults and biting my tongue...
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