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jonathan -> RE: What if Play turns into Love? (7/16/2006 4:56:09 PM)
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Everyone responding here has had something worthwhile to say, the most important being that until you have experienced it, you cannot imagine the sublime transcendence that can occur in this situation (it was mylittlesub, i believe). my first real Domme and i went through that moment about two months after meeting and starting a relationship. We were in my loft one weekend morning, talking about the state of things and what we wanted to do that weekend, and just looked at each other and said the same thing, "I didn't expect to like you this much." [It started out as purely play.] The intersection on a vanilla level was what fueled it. That was about 15 years ago and my heart's been through the meat grinder a few times since and i hope that i've been smart enough to learn the signs that say, emotionally, to "run away, run away".
The key to survival is being able to separate the two in your own mind. Putting the desire for BDSM fulfillment to the side and honestly asking yourself if you'd feel the same way on a purely vanilla level. That's the difference between love and just bonding with your Domme. i've sought the former since, having experienced it once. my take on it all since that time has always been a vanilla foundation with a devoted D/s superstructure. This is what has been happening with my Goddess the past several weeks, and i'm counting the days until our first meeting next month. She, as the guiding force of course, has kept it that way, more interested in me as a man than as a fantasy. i may never be more than Her boy, but i know that She'll claim me as that for who i am. And i'll serve Her out of the affection that i already have.
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