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RE: How do I help my husband become the Dom I would lik... - 3/19/2014 12:28:33 PM

crazyml

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You know, I have a feeling you're both going to be just fine!

The fact that you're communicating, and both interested in discovering more is probably the most important thing.

The great advice you've had on this thread will help you of course, but looks to me like you've got the really essential stuff sorted.

Make sure you keep talking and sharing, and you'll be just fine.

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RE: How do I help my husband become the Dom I would lik... - 3/19/2014 12:45:19 PM

SeekingTrinity

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~FRing it~

I agree with Crazyml...you guys are communicating, interested in learning, and seem to be on a similar page. All good signs.

Only thing I caution is please don't have expectations of him being the dominant YOU want him to be. Instead let him develop into the dominant HE wants to be. Realistic expectations are healthier than unrealistic ones and trying to get him to be what you want seems an awful lot like setting him up to potentially fail. Learn and grow together

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RE: How do I help my husband become the Dom I would lik... - 3/22/2014 8:43:14 AM

Darkdog

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You two need to read the same books and visit the same sites.

Also, some doms don't push it too hard because of love.

A. He doesn't want to hurt you.
B. He doesn't want to turn you off and you leave him because his fantasies aren't yours....

I could go on. ..

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RE: How do I help my husband become the Dom I would lik... - 3/24/2014 11:28:58 PM

DevilKitten719

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I had learned the hard way , you can't force someone to become a Dom, either it's in their blood and it's a passion for them OR they are simply just someone wearing a mask who is only doing it for his own personal pleasures not knowing anything about the lifestyle and how deep it really goes.

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RE: How do I help my husband become the Dom I would lik... - 3/25/2014 3:30:51 AM

evesgrden

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ORIGINAL: thecollaredwife

Yes. He asked me to find out more. I don't work and he works long hours. So as part of our play he gave me the asingment of finding out more to help us both.

I realize the OP's account is closed but perhaps they've reopened together or he has one now.

At any rate, the above quote tells me they're well on their way. He has taken charge, determined more information is needed to help him make good decisions. He has directed her to collect information for him. She is complying. With this information he will be able to decide how to proceed for the benefit and safety of both in this new dynamic while protecting their relationship at all costs. This may never go beyond bedroom tap and tickle or could become all encompassing wild and woolly freak out the onlookers over time. But this beginning is a good foundation from which to explore.

He asks her to do stuff while ensuring her welfare. She does it gladly.

Kinda covers it, no?

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