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Blonderfluff -> I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 12:40:40 PM)
Today I posted a status on FaceBook about a recent positive development in my life. I really only use that medium to stay in touch with a family that is all over the place. I used to use it to spy on my kids, but they hardly use it anymore. They claim it's been " ruined by the old people". Shoot. I digress. After I posted my status I was shocked at the number of people that "liked" and left comments. It was over 50. I don't have 50 friends. Now. I KNOW all of of these people. Some I knew very well at one point or another in my life. And that lead me to some introspection. How many friends do I really have??? I was ruthless in my examination, and came to the number 4. I have 4 friends. I am 2/3's of the way through my life, and I have only 4 friends. I defined "friend" as someone I would call in the middle of the night, and fully expect them to pick up the phone. Someone that knows me, all of me, and may not LIKE all of me, but LOVES me anyway. And for these 4, I would do the same. I wonder if I have gotten lazy. I used to have lots of friends. GOOD friends. I looked at that FB list, and many of them were on there. Did I just at some point decide NOT to nurture that friendship ? I honestly don't know. As I head into last part of my life, I am beginning to wonder...do we lose that desire to make new friends? Is it because I am choosier about who gets my attention and time? Or is it that I am just losing a bit of that joy and excitement in life that makes new friends so much fun. How do you define friendship?

ShaharThorne -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 12:48:13 PM)
Did not get your request (I use my real name on FB) but you make me laugh to the point of tears...or it could be the pain I am in...LOL!

jlf1961 -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 12:55:52 PM)
I use face book, funny thing is that most of my friends are actually friends of friends

Blonderfluff -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 1:12:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShaharThorne Did not get your request (I use my real name on FB) but you make me laugh to the point of tears...or it could be the pain I am in...LOL! I do tend to find the humor in the mundane... I amuse myself way more than I could ever amuse others. Hmm. Maybe THAT'S why I stopped making new friends!!!

tiggerspoohbear -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 1:17:16 PM)
I haven't seen that post yet. So it's gonna be 51. [:D] But then you know you could call me in the middle of the night, and if you needed me there, I'd be there no matter the distance. I don't have many good friends left either. I prefer to think I've gotten choosy. I think as we mature, we go back to our childhood friendships for the most part. It doesnt matter how long you've been apart, you just pick up where you left off. It's like no time has passed. We tend to be more leery of the friends we make as adults, I know I do. We want to meet people who get us, who share our interests, who won't take advantage of us. You know we're both givers with great big hearts. People take advantage of that very easily. You and a very few others are ones I know I can trust with anything. You make me laugh, you really listen to me, you cheer me up, by the same token, I make you laugh, I listen, I offer the best advice I can, I cheer you up. We're a good match as friends, because as MM puts it, "I'm scared of the two of you together, it'd be two giggle monsters who'd talk the entire time and not always make sense AND not care about it." He's right, but we don't care, cuz we're us. And us is good. [:)][:)][:)]

Blonderfluff -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 1:19:41 PM)
[sm=cute.gif][sm=cute.gif] quote: ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear I haven't seen that post yet. So it's gonna be 51. [:D] But then you know you could call me in the middle of the night, and if you needed me there, I'd be there no matter the distance. I don't have many good friends left either. I prefer to think I've gotten choosy. I think as we mature, we go back to our childhood friendships for the most part. It doesnt matter how long you've been apart, you just pick up where you left off. It's like no time has passed. We tend to be more leery of the friends we make as adults, I know I do. We want to meet people who get us, who share our interests, who won't take advantage of us. You know we're both givers with great big hearts. People take advantage of that very easily. You and a very few others are ones I know I can trust with anything. You make me laugh, you really listen to me, you cheer me up, by the same token, I make you laugh, I listen, I offer the best advice I can, I cheer you up. We're a good match as friends, because as MM puts it, "I'm scared of the two of you together, it'd be two giggle monsters who'd talk the entire time and not always make sense AND not care about it." He's right, but we don't care, cuz we're us. And us is good. [:)][:)][:)] [sm=cute.gif] Right back atcha, PoohBear!!

LadyConstanze -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 2:14:06 PM)
Ah Fluffer, let me send you my FB, you'll laugh as it's so nilla

shiftyw -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 2:30:37 PM)
I have maybe...six friends not counting family. I have like tons of fb friends but they are more aquantinces.

LadyPact -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 3:36:38 PM)
How do I define it? I don't have the exact formula. I know I'm pretty lucky in the "friend" department. While they might be few, I know there are people on this spinning globe that would do damn near anything for Me. In this, I've been exceptionally fortunate.

Blonderfluff -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 4:03:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact How do I define it? I don't have the exact formula. I know I'm pretty lucky in the "friend" department. While they might be few, I know there are people on this spinning globe that would do damn near anything for Me. In this, I've been exceptionally fortunate. You could add me to that list as well!!!

GoddessManko -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 4:47:30 PM)
LOL I have a very strange group of friends. People who for years, oldest friend as long as a decade who all still think of me as the "quintessential wife". None of them know I'm a Domme (except one sorta), they know me as this sweet girl. My oldest friend is a doctor in Mumbai,India who owns a medical airlift company. I recently told him of my "subs" without going into much detail about it. He disapproves yet had SOOOO many wild sex partners while going to medical school in Russia. (Really?) LOL. He is on linkedin but not facebook. I told him the other day he should have married me a long time ago to which he replied, "I know :-\|". We chat via skype most days now. Second best friend is the Saudi millionaire I brought up before. Just an incredible man, UC Berkeley and he would literally drop anything to listen to me gripe if I had a bad day. His initial plan was to marry me and have at least 5 kids, sometimes when he toys with the idea of me being nanny to his son (I was my nephews' nanny), I stopped talking to him entirely until I have a bad day again and need him (out of respect for his wife and he knows this). He really thinks I am an angel and I adore him. He says the goddess I am is better than the goddess I pretend to be, even then he has no idea I'm a sadist. Another is from Bulgaria, he checks in one me everyday come what may and has about 2000 likes per pic on fetlife, really attractive and sweet guy. The most impressive thing about him is the personality he has attached to his looks. My only local friend is from Ukraine. I always tell him he's more emotionally mature than me because despite what's going on in his country, he smiles everyday, he's good to everyone around him and he listens to me gripe about my petty first world problems yet never complains. Lately he has been there for me in the most incredible ways, in ways no one else has and I only created a facebook because he asked me to. Seems I am developing a slight crush on him I realized last night, when towards the end of our convo I got butterflies in my chest and the sudden urge to rape his mouth with my own. He has a gf and he's young (younger than me and all my other friends) so eh, gonna try not to get too attached to this infatuation. (Also vanilla and unaware of my kink). I have no female friends, not really. Girls who want to go to the club and take selfies, not really my thing. I like most people I know generally, I have met thousands over the years but detach easily. I don't get the hype surrounding social acceptance to be honest, I never have even as a kid.

LadyConstanze -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 4:59:52 PM)
My friends are somewhat eclectic and weird, from all walks of life... Can't really say what it is, but with some people you do click and it just works, some gave me hell because I tried to phase out as I thought our lives went different ways and I didn't want to seem like a hanger on. It doesn't depend when and how often I talk to them, but I know they are there when I need them and I am there when they need me. The amusing thing is that a lot of them come from really different walks of life and all different backgrounds and careers, but they usually get on like a house on fire, which is really really cool, if they wouldn't, I still would take each of them on their own terms. Seriously, when it comes to friends, I feel I have been blessed and until you fuck up and stab me in the back, you have to do a damned lot to lose the "Yeah, I help you to bury the body" status.

angelikaJ -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 5:04:57 PM)
First, I suck as a facebook friend: I rarely update and frequently miss notifications or just am in an energy reserving mode and purposely don't pay attention. Quantity matters little to me. Most of my actual fb friends are people I knew back when I was a res-hab training specialist. It is so good to know that 13 years later I am thought of with love and fondness. Some are people I met here, and I value their friendships greatly. My youngest niece (16) invites and then disinvites me with great frequency. One person is someone I have known since I was 12. Many are HS classmates and I rarely talk to them. But I don't have many friends that I could call at 3am. For more than 10yrs, that person was Elizabeth. Our paths crossed in 1996. We were staying in the same residential-type motel and just hit it off. And were fast friends until she died from complications related to Hep-C, acquired via a blood transfusion she received during emergency joint replacement surgery. She had MS and one of the treatments had a rare side effect of avascular necrosis to joints. She developed it in 2 hips and a shoulder. The first day we met she explained she was "terminal" but not to be sad. This isn't what you were looking for, and I didn't post this as some kind of downer. Having known her fills me with great joy, and instead of being sad, I reflect on how lucky I was to have found an anam cara.

DomKen -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 5:13:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff I defined "friend" as someone I would call in the middle of the night, and fully expect them to pick up the phone. Someone that knows me, all of me, and may not LIKE all of me, but LOVES me anyway. And for these 4, I would do the same. IMO if you have 4 friends of that quality you are blessed.

sunshinemiss -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 5:14:05 PM)
Four friends is, as I understand it, about standard. I have about that number... No that's not true. I have a few more than that but I think it's due to being a traveler, and there is something that happens with traveling with others... you are in daily life crises together that create seriously deep bonding. What I usually say is that I have someone in every time zone. a bit of hyperbole, but I can live with it. I can count sister friends on one hand, brother friends on the other. The rest of the people are good people, but not middle o the night folks. That is how friendships work. I use fb all the time. I like people to see my dull day to day and I like to see theirs. It's also a great way to share adventures! It has become my go to for news that's important to me, the way I learn of births and deaths, the way I learn what's happening in my community. Back in the day, all my traveling friends used to say myspace was for people who didn't really leave their home countries while fb was for expats. That has changed over the years. I'm glad for it. I never liked my space. the music irritated me and crashed my computer or took too long to load a page. Congrats on your success... whatever it is!

Blonderfluff -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 5:14:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ First, I suck as a facebook friend: I rarely update and frequently miss notifications or just am in an energy reserving mode and purposely don't pay attention. Quantity matters little to me. Most of my actual fb friends are people I knew back when I was a res-hab training specialist. It is so good to know that 13 years later I am thought of with love and fondness. Some are people I met here, and I value their friendships greatly. My youngest niece (16) invites and then disinvites me with great frequency. One person is someone I have known since I was 12. Many are HS classmates and I rarely talk to them. But I don't have many friends that I could call at 3am. For more than 10yrs, that person was Elizabeth. Our paths crossed in 1996. We were staying in the same residential-type motel and just hit it off. And were fast friends until she died from complications related to Hep-C, acquired via a blood transfusion she received during emergency joint replacement surgery. She had MS and one of the treatments had a rare side effect of avascular necrosis to joints. She developed it in 2 hips and a shoulder. The first day we met she explained she was "terminal" but not to be sad. This isn't what you were looking for, and I didn't post this as some kind of downer. Having known her fills me with great joy, and instead of being sad, I reflect on how lucky I was to have found an anam cara. THIS is EXACTLY what I was looking for. I guess I was feeling like I was in a "friend" rut. Not making any new, significant friends. Sharing the stories of friendship shows that one can be worth more than many

sunshinemiss -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 5:23:07 PM)
My line in the sand is... would they fly half way around the world to take care of me if I were sick? I gotta say, very few pass that test. Some say they would, but I know it's poppycock. On the other hand, I have at least one friend who got a passport just for that "in case" situation. And on the flip side, there aren't a lot of people I would do that for. My sister friends and brother friends, heck yeah. Other people? I'll hook you up with a friend of mine to help you out, but spend the two days and several thousand dollars to get there? can't. Maybe, won't. I think it's important to recognize that there are people that we connect with on a deeper level. Nothing wrong with recognizing a friendship hierarchy of circles. I don't want to be considered tight with someone I'm not tight with. It dishonors those we do have close relations with ... in my mind. They are special. Other people are also special, but they didn't get past the second or third circle in my world... yet. It's like... He's a good man, just not MY good man. best, sunshine

Blonderfluff -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 5:28:07 PM)
quote: Nothing wrong with recognizing a friendship hierarchy of circles. That describes what I believe has happened to my friendships I think.

LadyConstanze -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 5:35:46 PM)
Hey, there are people you meet and help out, ships passing in the night, as long as you don't get a kick in the teeth, it's all fine, some you meet and brush and go separate ways and you're glad to do so, some people you just like for themselves... In the end it's all good, as long as you're happy with who you are, you don't care much about how important somebody thinks they are or their views are, if they aren't important to me, why should I care? Apart from the amusement factor, but that might be the sadist in me....

blacksword404 -> RE: I'll be your Best Friend....! (3/21/2014 7:32:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff Today I posted a status on FaceBook about a recent positive development in my life. I really only use that medium to stay in touch with a family that is all over the place. I used to use it to spy on my kids, but they hardly use it anymore. They claim it's been " ruined by the old people". Shoot. I digress. After I posted my status I was shocked at the number of people that "liked" and left comments. It was over 50. I don't have 50 friends. Now. I KNOW all of of these people. Some I knew very well at one point or another in my life. And that lead me to some introspection. How many friends do I really have??? I was ruthless in my examination, and came to the number 4. I have 4 friends. I am 2/3's of the way through my life, and I have only 4 friends. I defined "friend" as someone I would call in the middle of the night, and fully expect them to pick up the phone. Someone that knows me, all of me, and may not LIKE all of me, but LOVES me anyway. And for these 4, I would do the same. I wonder if I have gotten lazy. I used to have lots of friends. GOOD friends. I looked at that FB list, and many of them were on there. Did I just at some point decide NOT to nurture that friendship ? I honestly don't know. As I head into last part of my life, I am beginning to wonder...do we lose that desire to make new friends? Is it because I am choosier about who gets my attention and time? Or is it that I am just losing a bit of that joy and excitement in life that makes new friends so much fun. How do you define friendship? I've got plenty of acquaintances but only two friends. My friends can come by unannounced anytime they want. For sure we'd commit assaults for each other. We go way back. I've always been picky about my friends. I like people around me I can trust. Like they say "Why hang around people you wouldn't want to die with".

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