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martyh01 -> Finding and keeping (11/21/2004 5:24:58 PM)

How does one find a good sub / slave when found what is she looking for and how to keep her happy????????[:D]



Estring -> RE: Finding and keeping (11/22/2004 12:07:20 AM)

Be honest. And know what you're doing.



perverseangelic -> RE: Finding and keeping (11/22/2004 8:21:42 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Estring

Be honest. And know what you're doing.



Or be honest about not knowing what you're doing and willing to learn and be taught by someone who -does- know.



willing2serve -> RE: Finding and keeping (11/22/2004 8:47:14 AM)

Very good aforementioned advice, and i might add, not always let the submissive know what you are doing, it's not good for us to know all at all times.....


Respectfully,
Willing2serve1
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mydestinyunfolds -> RE: Finding and keeping (11/22/2004 1:12:25 PM)

Be honest.

First learn about what you want and need in a relationship.
I found out early that most people don't know what they truly want/need.
For example the Dom says he wants all of the sub but when the sub gives her all she is then perceived as being to clingy, needy ect.

Get inside the subs/slaves head and their body will follow.

Knowledge keeps us safe, so, as perverseangelic said be willing to learn.



cynnacent1 -> RE: Finding and keeping (11/22/2004 1:30:38 PM)

i agree with Estring's reply, along with all of the other's who have replied thus far.

Add to it all:

Know what you want & need, and communicate it.
Be sure to know what the sub wants & needs as well, encourage them to communicate. Be sure that each are capable ( and willing of course ) in providing what the other requires.
Build a relationship based on trust, respect and honor.

Knowledge + Communication + Trust, Respect & Honor = A Happy and Successful D/s relationship.

( ... It does HERE at least ... [;)] )



martyh01 -> RE: Finding and keeping (11/24/2004 1:01:37 AM)

May i thank you all for your honest and frank answers i have taken all into account though i personaly like a sub to be "clingy" or 100% devoted that is my preference i suppose if you or your friend feel inclined you can view my profile here thanks M



perverseangelic -> RE: Finding and keeping (11/24/2004 10:35:52 AM)

I think Destiny was just trying to say "be careful what you wish for, you might get it" :) Just be aware that what you want may not be exactly like you imagined it in your fantasies.

~sigh~ The realization that it's not is sometimes quite un-fun. :(



harmony3709 -> RE: Finding and keeping (11/25/2004 10:08:04 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: mydestinyunfolds

First learn about what you want and need in a relationship.
I found out early that most people don't know what they truly want/need.
For example the Dom says he wants all of the sub but when the sub gives her all she is then perceived as being to clingy, needy ect.



I couldn't agree more with not knowing what they really want and I think this is a perfect example that occurs frequently. I think you need to be honest with yourself first and foremost to determine exactly what it is you really do want......not what you think a submissive wants to hear......and then of course wondering why the relationship didn't work.

harmony



Wolfsbabygirlz -> RE: Finding and keeping (12/5/2004 3:58:50 AM)

greetings to you ..... My opinion & what works for me is simply thru trial and error...meeting as many as it takes till you know youve met the one for you. Then there's no questioning how to make her happy. when its right, everything comes naturally. I speak from personal experience, & after meeting many, & finding my perfect Dom. Every sub & Dom is unique so its impossible to have an answer to that. Many questions are only answered from within, yet too many times we look to others to find it.
Wolfsbabygirlz =)



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