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RemoteUser -> That Last Thing (3/23/2014 7:43:18 PM)
I'm always looking to improve myself, in and out of the bedroom, so little accomplishments are always a pick-me-up. Thinking about my recent excursions, I thought about setting some small goals for myself to find and learn (and subsequently try) new things in the BDSM venue of my life. That made me think about past accomplishments, and the last one for me was a few knots I became better at doing for a partner that liked it tight but not painful. It's not mastering whip cracking to knock a cigarette from someone's mouth twenty feet away, but I'll take it, as the results satisfied both myself and my partner. What was the last thing you learned to improve your abilities (with a partner or in general)? If you have something outside of the BDSM box you want to share, that would be nice to hear as well. [:)]

StrongSpirit -> RE: That Last Thing (3/23/2014 8:52:56 PM)
The last thing I learned was that no matter how attracted you are to someone, sometimes your body just won't co-operate. If you are feeling sick, or just have low blood sugar, don't be surprised if things do work.

littlewonder -> RE: That Last Thing (3/23/2014 9:53:14 PM)
nothing in bdsm. Outside of bdsm...coding, learning Arabic, being a better person within my religious beliefs.

RemoteUser -> RE: That Last Thing (3/23/2014 9:56:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder nothing in bdsm. Outside of bdsm...coding, learning Arabic, being a better person within my religious beliefs. That's still pretty cool, LW. [:)] Are you learning Arabic for any specific reason? Or just for the challenge?

littlewonder -> RE: That Last Thing (3/23/2014 9:58:46 PM)
two reasons...my job and I'm taking it as part of my college classes. I have to take a course that has zilch to do with my degree but I figured if I had to pick something stupid I may as well pick something I can use....Arabic language.

FightingChains -> RE: That Last Thing (3/23/2014 11:03:03 PM)
Better martial arts moves. Very helpful inside, and outside the bedroom. Very helpful headlocks etc.

TNDommeK -> RE: That Last Thing (3/24/2014 4:14:29 AM)
I'm learning candle magic, and getting more practice with my whip. I've become...ehh...decent with it. I'm an over achiever so decent to me prolly means pretty good in actuality. But I'm a firm believer in practice makes perfect.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: That Last Thing (3/24/2014 4:27:27 AM)
I don't 'practice' sex, so I can't say I've ever done anything to improve my abilities kink wise. I just have sex, and with that my experiences slowly grows.

Rasciallymisty -> RE: That Last Thing (3/24/2014 7:59:11 AM)
Not meaning to highjack here, but TNK what is candle magic if you do not mind me asking?

DomDolf -> RE: That Last Thing (3/24/2014 8:22:26 AM)
BDSM - Communication skills around my own and my various partner's goals and intentions in this arena. I have been all over the map in the last twenty years. Communicating too much at times and not enough at others. Maintaining a rigid stance on what I will and how I will communicate has worked in some cases and not in others. What may seem obvious once outlined, wasn't easily observed from within the dynamics. I have learned that the person(s) I am communicating with may need more or less communicating about differing things. In order to be most effective, I must communicate at a level and intensity appropriate for the person I am communicating with. By learning as much as I can about them, I learn how best they learn and will open up to me or the information, thoughts, and ideas I present. My skills have increased exponentially over the past five years. My first fifteen years were really very hit or miss. I will trust that I will always have more to learn in this area in a general sense and I know I will always be learning the idiosyncrasies' of those I interact with. The more physical aspects of BDSM and sex are just too easy in my mind. I'm very satisfied with my abilities in the bedroom or in public (exhibitionist) - and so are those that I invite there. I have taken on and learned the skills I want to learn and have done well in any one of those within a few years of my first attempts. Single tails were the hardest for me, by the way. The hard work I am engaged in now is my desire to master the mind and human spirit, which is a life long pursuit that will never end - thankfully.

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