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On the spot - 7/8/2006 12:06:32 PM   
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I just had an interesting thing happen to me today. I have a keychain that says: "Spank me!" on it and have had it for some time. I was over at my parents house, and we were sitting there relaxing and a guy on tv was talking about how he loves feet, how they are so sensual, etc. Anyways, we were laughing about it and I looked over. My mother was staring at me and I said: "Dont look at me, Im not a foot guy." She came back with: "No, but you do like to be spanked!" Needless to say, I was a bit shocked to here that come from my mother. Because well..uhm.. I do love to be spanked. I asked her how she figured that, and then she went on about spotting my keychain one day. Then she asked me if I was one of those wierdos who was into sadism. Now, both my parents are extremely conservative and they would probably lock me up if I out and out admitted that I do like Dominant women. So I just laughed it off and tried to explain that it wasnt that "I" liked being spanked, but rather I liked to toss my keys up on the counter at the gas station in the hopes that one of the girls behind the counter would see it and blush or use it as an opener. *grin* I justified saying that because I keep my gas card on my keychain and so it does have to be handled by the clerks there. I dont think she bought that explanation though. For the rest of the time I was there, I noticed she was paying pretty close attention to everything I was doing the entire time when she thought I wasnt looking. She never said anything further, but I could tell she was itching to.  

So I guess my question is: Have you had inadvertant outings or situations come up like this with your family? And how did you deal with them?

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 12:16:45 PM   
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i have a miniature flogger on my keys, but the only person i'm not really open about my masochist side to is my aunt and she hasn't ever noticed it (or known what it was, i guess). my sister noticed it, but she knows i'm kinky, so...and when my parents were alive it wasn't really something that ever came up (i didn't buy the keychain til a few months ago). my previous d/s relationship was long distance and i didn't have a hard time avoiding the subject with them.

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 12:23:20 PM   
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I think all "kids" have simular experinces with thier parents be it "lifestyle" or what have you. I handled my situations like that with my father by telling him; he did not want to know, it took a couple times of being copmpletely honest with him that he decided to withdrawl questions when I told him he did not want to know.

My Mistress has an agreement with her mother, she will not lie to her, but she needs to make sure she really wants the answer to her questions before she ask.

Of course we are pretty much out, and I havn't ever really been in any closet (claustrophobic yanno).



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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 12:25:54 PM   
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I have a shirt that says " Sticks and stones may break my bones, but whips and chains exicte me".....I wore that one day without thinking to my parents house....my mother said..what does that mean on your shirt, and I said without thinking again..lol....." I like it wild in bed"...well, that made her blush and she never said another word about my shirt...

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 12:36:23 PM   
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While I havent had anything like that happen...poor thing you harrassed by Mom...LOL...I'm sorry I dont mean to laugh...okay thats a lie I do....Butt anyway...My grandmother says that bishop is so "thoughtful" the way she gets your coffee and everything why shes better than both those men you were with...OMG if she only knew.My sister just glares at her husband like why dont you do that for me.Some call Me bossy and think bishop has it rough I'm so demanding.


bishops mom says things like why do you always "wait" on her(snotty undertone usually included) all the time,shes a big girl she can get her own drink.
bishop tells her she likes to take care of Me it gives her a purpose.

I tell them all...I am Queen of My Castle and bishop is My right hand.

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 1:42:35 PM   
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Back a long time ago....  I had bought something for my little brother (he was a teenager then) and left it in the trunk of my car.  he went out to get it....  over the weekend (I was home from college for the weekend) he kept making comments and teasing me.  Never coming out that he "saw" something....  Finally, being the little brother that he was... He came clean before I went back to school...  He saw my big ole toy bag full of ...well.... Master's toys. (Since I love to make toys I kept the travel bag with me so that I could add surprizes to it as I finished a project....I also got to keep all of them when I asked for release...whoo hoo).  I do not remember if he told anyone or not.  I tried to deny it but how could I? 

Later in life my neice found a crop that I so irresponsibly left out.  I did not expect her to be visiting .... but should have been aware of what was out when she went "exploring".  She came in the living room with it....using it as a pointer.  My sister's eyes got big and she started laughing, wondering how I was going to explain that to my neice and my mom (sister knew by now)....  I just told them that it belonged to my friend who trained horses....  GOD!!!!  I love having a friend who trains horses and bring her into the conversation often so that everyone knows I have a friend who trains horses.  LOL.

I have been in this long enough now that most know.... most do not talk about it.... it is like sex... my family (the elders) just do not talk about it.  Now my genreation of cousins and such... well we will joke about things from time to time.  Most think I am the Dom I think.  When my cousin was going through a divorce she said she needed to borrow some of my "equipment" to whip her man into shape.  I never go into too much detail but they know I like it rough and wild....

Girlie

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 1:53:43 PM   
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Actually, something like that happened to me on the 4th....

Master has me wear a locked ankle chain with a dog tag attatched to it that says 'little one' around my ankle.

I was at my mom's house for a barbeque with the family. And my uncle noticed it, and asked me what i was wearing around my ankle.

I asked which ankle (i wear a hemp ankle bracelet around my other ankle), acting like i didn't know what he was talking about. He pointed at my left ankle, and i told him it was a locked ankle chain.

He asked why i was wearing that and i told him because i can. Then he asked what it represented. That threw me off a bit. I wasn't sure if he knew it was supposed to represent something or what....

Anyway, i told him it represented my freedom to do whatever i wanted to my body, and wear whatever i wanted. He didn't comment on my dog tag, and he let it go after that.

It threw me off. He was the first person to question why i wear it.

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 2:09:25 PM   
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My whole family knows, and can't say it bothers Me. <g>

When I was still a ProDomme, I felt fairly safe living and playing here on the east coast with most of My family down south and in the midwest. At one point, I took some photos for a magazine article, rationalizing that it was unlikely My family would be thumbing through a kink mag with a localized distribution.

How wrong I was.

The magazine ended up putting one of the photos on the cover. Oops.

I didn't discover this until I was visiting home and stopped in a local convenience store to pick up a few things. The adult magazines were right next to the register....not even covered in paper...and there I was.

I decided to out Myself at that point before anything blew up in My face. Funny thing was, none of them were in the least bit surprised. Being somewhat solitary and known for going My own way, they've held back on passing judgement as I had expected and tend to stay fairly quiet about things. They know when I have a playmate, they welcome him as a friend and family member when it fits. As long as I'm happy, they don't really bring it up. Thankfully!

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 2:21:59 PM   
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I was reading an email from my former dom and my sister came in and walked up behind me to talk to me... the email wasn't all that personal so I didn't minimize it or close it... I hadn't looked at the signature that said "Kisses and Bruises". My sister whispered over my shoulder "Kisses and bruises?" and then she giggled and walked away.. nosy bitch that she is

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 2:49:58 PM   
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I don't know what i would do if my mom and dad every found out.  I am the "baby" of 5 so i am their "little girl"  My mom might be ok with it she is pretty opened minded but i know my dad would freak.  That is why i make sure everything is hidden before they come over my house.  I do a walk through before then come over.  After  all i am their "baby" they did not want to let me grow up but they finally did.

Matt's littleone

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 3:04:45 PM   
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I mentioned to my mother at one point that I was flying to visit my then-dom, who was out of town, and I made some passing reference to the five inch heels I was packing in the bag. She laughed and started to call me "Miss Mistress." She would have been totally cool with my being dominant, but the truth--that I'm the submissive--would horrify her beyond words. 

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 4:18:18 PM   
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My sub and I went out to dinner and then a movie together. I have a pink tshirt with a leather clad woman with a crop in hand that says "A kitten with a whip put the OW! in meow." He has a white tshirt that has a masked guy tied up which reads "Mistress, I've been VERY naughty!". At the movie theater while buying our tickets a friend of my unmentionable came up and said hello. She looked at our shirts and blushed but never said anything. A day later my unmentionable came up and said "R said she saw you and j at the movie theater and you both had on, uh the most interesting tshirts!"  lol I just laughed it off and didn't bother with any explanation other then we are just a couple of old freaks

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 4:31:12 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra
--snip--
I have a pink tshirt with a leather clad woman with a crop in hand that says "A kitten with a whip put the OW! in meow." He has a white tshirt that has a masked guy tied up which reads "Mistress, I've been VERY naughty!".
~Lashra
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--snip--


I loved this.......ow in meow....*laughing* 

Best,

~Thea 

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 4:40:42 PM   
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i loaned my mother a stack of books to read and when i went to pick them up my mother asked..."so who is this Master and why is He calling you His slave?"  did not know what to say so quickly changed the subject and made up and excuse to leave.  the subject has never been brought up again.

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 5:27:14 PM   
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nosy bitch that she is


I'm am soooooo cracking up... I wish I had a nosy bitch sister!!!  Just two brothers here - one of which is gay.  When he "came out" to our parents (I already knew), they handled it well.  My conservative dad said - be there for him, I just don't know how.  My liberal mom said - OMG - is it true that my being dominering could have caused this (she knew better, but was afraid it was "her" fault - she's a mom)

I wonder what someone would think if they came upon my "goodie bag".  My mom has passed, but she would get a good chuckle I'm sure.  She was cool and fun.  My dad...I think he'd turn away and never mention it.

I went to get my oil changed a while back, and realized i had left my "goody bag" on the passenger seat... I was sweating it there for a moment, wondering if he took a peek...then, I thought...who cares...maybe he will be inspired and give his wife a thrill that night after work.

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 7:10:37 PM   
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To the OP..well..my adult unmentionable came upon me one evening while on CM..not wanting to make a big deal out of it, I did not bother to minimize..he looked and saw the forum and asked what the 2 "corndogs were"..lol..I then explained not "corndogs" but paddles..he then looked at me rather oddly for a moment and then said..aiyeeee.."I do not want to know this" then he laughs and says "its all good just dont give me any details"...and believe me , that works for me..lol...Tempting

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 7:43:02 PM   
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The last thing that came up with my mother was at lunch about a month ago. She was keeping my daughter for the weekend so i could go stay with friends in a nearby city. She up and asked me outright if my new friends were kinky, because why would a married couple want a single girl as a friend. I just smiled and said "Mom , all my friends are kinky"

She went back to eating her lunch and changed the subject.

Add that to all the other little things that have come up such as a conversation on poly relationships and the fact that she went into my closet then never went into my room again lol I'm pretty sure she knows but is maintaining the view that if she doesn't ask outright i wont answer and she can pretend to know nothing at all.

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 7:43:38 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Saint

I just had an interesting thing happen to me today. I have a keychain that says: "Spank me!" on it and have had it for some time. I was over at my parents house, and we were sitting there relaxing and a guy on tv was talking about how he loves feet, how they are so sensual, etc. Anyways, we were laughing about it and I looked over. My mother was staring at me and I said: "Dont look at me, Im not a foot guy." She came back with: "No, but you do like to be spanked!" Needless to say, I was a bit shocked to here that come from my mother. Because well..uhm.. I do love to be spanked. I asked her how she figured that, and then she went on about spotting my keychain one day. Then she asked me if I was one of those wierdos who was into sadism. Now, both my parents are extremely conservative and they would probably lock me up if I out and out admitted that I do like Dominant women. So I just laughed it off and tried to explain that it wasnt that "I" liked being spanked, but rather I liked to toss my keys up on the counter at the gas station in the hopes that one of the girls behind the counter would see it and blush or use it as an opener. *grin* I justified saying that because I keep my gas card on my keychain and so it does have to be handled by the clerks there. I dont think she bought that explanation though. For the rest of the time I was there, I noticed she was paying pretty close attention to everything I was doing the entire time when she thought I wasnt looking. She never said anything further, but I could tell she was itching to.  

So I guess my question is: Have you had inadvertant outings or situations come up like this with your family? And how did you deal with them?


Hmmm....well I was pretty much outed with my family while I was going through my divorce.  Since my ex husband did not know about my desires until shortly before our separation, he decided to attempt to use it against me in our divorce.  He even put in his complaint that I visited a Ds chatroom. My mother saw every word that was ever printed in our divorce papers and its funny but she didnt bother to pursue it or to question me about it.  My ex also made it a point to tell all of my cousins (who I am very close with) about my "desires".  They mostly joke about it with me now.  They say things like 'oh you want to do some cbt huh"?  lmaoo....They dont know which 'end' of it Im on, but they know im "kinky".  I dont think they understand the depth of it, or that its more than a kink for me.  But if thats how they process it, it doesnt bother me. Its funny as hell, but we all laugh and joke about it now.  One of my cousins even said to me "dont feel weird about it marie,  Sue (his wife) and I like to do some "roleplaying" and we have even considerd playing with a third party".  lmaooo.  So it actually got one of them to open up about his own personal life.  My ex thought I would die of embaressment.   Ha!   I happen to think that alot (if not *all*) people have a kink of *some* sort, be it Ds, or otherwise, even those who seem conservative or square.  Only difference is that some of us will act on it and admit to it and explore it, others wont. Im still discrete about it however.  Its not something I need to wave around. 

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 8:25:32 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: babysburnin

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
nosy bitch that she is


I'm am soooooo cracking up... I wish I had a nosy bitch sister!!!  Just two brothers here - one of which is gay.  When he "came out" to our parents (I already knew), they handled it well.  My conservative dad said - be there for him, I just don't know how.  My liberal mom said - OMG - is it true that my being dominering could have caused this (she knew better, but was afraid it was "her" fault - she's a mom)

I wonder what someone would think if they came upon my "goodie bag".  My mom has passed, but she would get a good chuckle I'm sure.  She was cool and fun.  My dad...I think he'd turn away and never mention it.

I went to get my oil changed a while back, and realized i had left my "goody bag" on the passenger seat... I was sweating it there for a moment, wondering if he took a peek...then, I thought...who cares...maybe he will be inspired and give his wife a thrill that night after work.


I say that about my sister lovingly...lol. I have two brothers too, since I have a spare could you use a third?

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RE: On the spot - 7/8/2006 10:38:08 PM   
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When my nieces could not read I opend an attachment someone sent me and it was this huge 10 inch dick, thank god for cartoons lol.

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