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Kaliko -> RE: I'm happy if your happy (4/1/2014 4:25:35 AM)
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And I can see why someone would say that. There are different perspectives. For me, taking this type of view toward a relationship seems actually quite sensible and practical.
The piece as a whole spoke to me. I haven't picked it apart to determine what I don't like about it. It's more that I am moved in a positive way when I read it.
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"To sum up: There is more intelligence required to love than is generally supposed, and to be happy in loving. Up to the moment of the fatal “yes,” or if you prefer, up to the time of her defeat, a woman does not need artifice to hold her lover. Curiosity excites him, desire sustains him, and hope encourages him. But once he reaches the summit of his desires, it is for the woman to take as much care to retain him, as he exhibited to overcome her."
"Do you know why lovers become nauseated so easily when enjoying prosperity? Why they are so little pleased after having had so much pleasure? It is because both parties interested have an identically erroneous opinion. One imagines there is nothing more to obtain, the other fancies she has nothing more to give."
Taken as example of what I find so practical and transparent, really all these statements tell me is to constantly grow and evolve; to provide joy for him to discover in me.
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
That says that NRE is automatically of more value than deep knowledge and trust of the other, coupled with genuine liking for them.
The joy of discovery of someone who continually proves herself to be worthy of joyfully being discovered: this isn't of more value than deep knowledge. It enhances deep knowledge and spurs us to want even deeper knowledge because there's always something more to know. And frankly, I would be taking this view of myself with or without a partner. Perhaps this is something I respond to simply because of who I am. Stagnation scares me to death. So it's only logical that my own desire for self-improvement and enhancement would be something I hope my Dominant finds desireable in me. But it's not necessarily done for him and him alone. It's my own worth that I'm keeping, by my own standards. If I am ever raising the bar for myself, then even just circumstantially, there is ever something about me for him to newly desire.
Incidentally, I don't consider it to be a one-sided responsibility. But this particular question was about how a submissive can keep her Master from becoming bored with her worship. So that was my answer. By giving him reason to not become bored with her worship.
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