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On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 3:03:45 PM   
SavageFaerie


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Status: offline 		I know there is alot of candid discussion regarding weight flying around and would like to pose one on the opposite side.

I grew up having the total opposite problem being underweight. From 6th grade to my early thirty's I was between 80-85 lbs. Gaining was my problem. When ppl talking about their weight problems, I would voice my concerns about needing to gain weight and more often than not got the condescending typical reaction of your just lucky or what are you complaining about.  This was a real issue for me. If I got sick for any length of time, the weight would drop even lower.  

I dont have a medical reason that any Dr could ever put their finger problem on other than the fact that I'm just a small person and that it runs in the family. And to answer before it becomes a question...no I don't have any eating disorder, I eat healthy meals and enjoy them.

Are there others out here that experienced anything similar to this or would care to comment in a non inflammatory way?
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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 3:08:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		When i was younger(under 20) people Always used to say I was skinny.........even my parents said i needed to gain wt............but as i got older.......(close to 30 now) i  dont have a wt prob being skinny..........I acctually need to lose a few lbs now............So..............I guess ive been on both sides of the story.......................  : S

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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 3:21:47 PM   
SavageFaerie


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Status: offline 		To follow up with my original post, I guess I hit send to early. 

Being at the ripe age of 46 (well at least until tomorrow) I did finally put some weight on.  I enjoy that little extra.
I'm happy with the way I am now.  But being younger it was quite a stigma to me
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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 3:34:28 PM   
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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 3:45:20 PM   
SavageFaerie


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Status: offline 		Thank you Level.

Listening to the sound of yet another thunderstorm on it way, I guess that blows the idea of inviting everyone down for a pool party LOL 

Will just be me and munchkin grand unmentionables. *pouts*

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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 3:53:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		LOL.  Oddly enough I can comment on both sides of the issue.  It's not exactly what you have experienced, but I have been both too large and way too skinny in my time.

I was chubby kid.  Not morbidly obese, but pretty darn chunky.  Eventually I took up enough sports that I lost enough to pass for thin, around 150 lbs. at 5'9".  It was a healthy skinny.  Well, time went by and I switched high schools (from private to public) when I was sixteen.  I lost a lot of weight the summer before and during the next year.  I got down to 125 lbs. as a steady weight.  I was a bit too skinny really.  After I graduated I got mixed up in the wrong crowd and started using certain illegal substances.  I'm not proud of it, but between drugs and not eating I eventually got down to a steady 110 lbs., with my weight spiking as low as 102.  I looked sick.  You could see every bone in my body.  It was really gross.

Finally I snapped out of it and quit that lifestyle, started eating healthier and making sure I lived healthier.  Unfortunately that made my weight fluctuate the opposite direction.  Quitting all the drugs made me gain weight at a phenomenal rate, and before I new it I was back up to 150 lbs.  Healthy still, but then I gained ten more.  Then ten more over the next couple of years.  I wasn't quite chubby, but I wasn't thin anymore either.  Now I'm pregnant and I weigh 193 lbs. at 9 months pregnant, and only seven of those pounds were put on during pregnancy.  I've tried damned hard to keep myself in shape and make sure I'm eating right during pregnancy.  The baby's gained weight just fine, exactly like he's supposed to, but I've managed to lose weight from everywhere but my belly.  My goal is to get back down to 160.  It's where I'm healthiest, and most attractive.

Sorry for the life story.  I just wanted to let you know that, to some small extent, I understand where you're coming from.  People that are too thin are discriminated against as much as those who are too large, and often gain less sympathy for it.

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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 4:27:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		NakedOnMyChain,

I see alot of your post and find them insightful.

Having never been overweight I cant realistically see the otherside...sure I have some baby belly left over..I see that as a milestone rather than an issue. I do have alot of empathy for those that struggle with any weight issues. I would by no means look down on anyone that isn't even with the weight charts. ( hard to find one that goes down to 4'10") Nor would it impact any relationship or friendships. I love that swallow me up feeling when cuddling ( LOL no pun intended) with someone of the larger variety.

Having had 3 wee ones, I actually hoped that I would gain more than just baby weight so I wouldn't have that skinny lil reed look. It still didn't happen. I generally weighed about the same post pregnancy.  Tho I will have to say that I definitely got alot of looks as I had all over 8 lb babies.   Imagine a reed with one of those weight exercise ball thingies attached to the middle. ROFL.

I look at myself not as a image but a person. I just wish more people wouldn't put such an emphasis on the outer skin.

p.s. btw if I ever sound like I'm rambling its just that my mind will whirl while my fingers often times play dead. I tend to have a hard time expressing just what I'm trying to say

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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 4:57:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		Savage, I had that problem too up untill I was about 24 years old.
When I was in the sixth grade I was 6'0" tall and only weighed 140 lbs!
In high school I was maybe 160 lbs. I lifted weights, ate a whole bunch of bananas but it didn't do any good!
We always walked everywhere we went so I was always burning up calories.
Now that I'm 55 I do have that middle aged gut but I'm not fat anywhere else on my body.

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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 5:11:44 PM   
SavageFaerie


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Status: offline 		I know at one point I landed in the hospital on a unrelated kidney infection, I got down to 75 pounds and it really showed. I ended up getting the weight gainer powder that are in the health food stores high in carbs made for weight lifters that are trying to bulk up.


BTW I am 4'10" just in case anyone is dismayed by what appears to be weightless to them.
I fluctuate now between 105 and 115 depending on what medications I am taking.


edited to run spell check, the i before e gets me everytime

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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 5:21:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		This is not a problem of mine, persay, but my pet. (who never seems to post, so I'll do it for him.)
He is 6'4, and a whopping 120 lbs.  He does have a medical reason for being so tiny, and as lnog as we keep an eye on health matters... everything is fine.  Granted, his tiny little body lends itself beautifully to some of the femenization training I have planned, but we take our perks where we get them :)

Me, personally, I am a typical female when it comes toweight. I am always thingking I ahve to lose some, even now that I am the smallest Ive been in years. Angel thinks im crazy to try and lose more, but then again when your that tall and that tiny... the concept of being overweight is foreign.

My 2 cents

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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 5:29:10 PM   
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I told someone once if we could all shed our skin we'd be skeletons all alike. I think people put to much emphasis on looks and I was told once by someone no offence but I don't like large women And I said it's ok I don't like men who can't look through the exterior.

later on he saw a better picture and he said oh you look much nicer than in the first picture, and I said see that's why you can't judge looks based one on shot.

But then again if we didn't have skin people would probably be trying to compare better bones, her's are whiter than yours hers are nicer bones than yours blah blah stuff.

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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 5:36:25 PM   
SavageFaerie


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Status: offline 		It's nice to get other prospectives on this, I never really had anyone that understood my feelings on being underweight at that time in my life.

I would think in alot of ways its much the same feelings as being overweight. Maybe input on this could give some prospective.

I dated a guy for a while that is quite similiar to your Angel.

Gads now Im thinking about the height aspect of things.


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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 5:45:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am in complete agreement with what you are saying. I never never judge a book by its cover.

I would never try and take the high handed view of the cover of the book is what you are and hope that I have not come across looking that way. 

Personally I don't put alot of stock in pictures being necessary to communicate with other people.  One of my fondest email friends I never even saw a picture of but loved his prospective in things.

If nothing else I was hoping that the perspective of skinny isn't always what its cracked up to be on the mental aspect of things.

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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 5:45:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Savage, lolol, yeah, I even tried that bulk up powder that weight lifters used! Funny, it tasted like crap too!!! I ordered it out of the back of a magazine, that was back in the 1960's! lol
Well Savage, you look great in your picture!

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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 5:57:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think the one I tried was Joe Weider's and it actually didn't have that gad me chalky taste like some of the others. That was back in the early 80's so maybe they had it down to a better science.

And thank you for the compliment.

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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/8/2006 8:05:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		Savage, you're most welcome. I've always had a "thing" for petit women.

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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/9/2006 10:21:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SavageFaerie

I know there is alot of candid discussion regarding weight flying around and would like to pose one on the opposite side.

I grew up having the total opposite problem being underweight. From 6th grade to my early thirty's I was between 80-85 lbs. Gaining was my problem. When ppl talking about their weight problems, I would voice my concerns about needing to gain weight and more often than not got the condescending typical reaction of your just lucky or what are you complaining about.  This was a real issue for me. If I got sick for any length of time, the weight would drop even lower.  

I dont have a medical reason that any Dr could ever put their finger problem on other than the fact that I'm just a small person and that it runs in the family. And to answer before it becomes a question...no I don't have any eating disorder, I eat healthy meals and enjoy them.

Are there others out here that experienced anything similar to this or would care to comment in a non inflammatory way?


I too at one time was called "too skinny" by my parents and my first inlaws (it was a different time and I had a little help, which I am not proud of).  Now after 6 kids and my 43rd birthday, I am PROUDLY what Sir calls voluptuous.  I am neither overweight or skinny, but as Goldilocks said "Just Right".  Unless it is a major health issue, as long as one is comfortable with who and what they are, then NO ONE has any right to judge, flame, ridicule, tease any one else. 

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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/9/2006 1:43:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		Now that I have started the delightful slide into hormone hell at the age of 44 I can honestly say I have experienced both ends of the spectrum for no particular reason. I was not overly concerned with being too thin 20 years ago and am not overly concerned with a few too many curves now. Neither affected my health or activities so life is good!


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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/9/2006 2:03:29 PM   
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I know at one point I landed in the hospital on a unrelated kidney infection, I got down to 75 pounds and it really showed. I ended up getting the weight gainer powder that are in the health food stores high in carbs made for weight lifters that are trying to bulk up.


My guess is that would be some type of creatine mix -- And it does have the dual effect of bloating and adding mass. My advice when using it, drink tons and tons of water or you'll kill your kidneys.


 
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RE: On the Flipside of the Weight Issue - 7/9/2006 5:45:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, at my heaviest I have been 145 and that includes both pregnancies. I am 5'5" and my ideal weight should be between 120 and 140 lbs. Yet people have always told me I needed to eat more and I am the big girl in my family. My son is 5' even and weights 75 lbs.

People keep telling me I am lucky to be small, but I just feel we all have a weight our body is best at and if we can really listen to our body that is where our body will settle in at. Some people will be heavy some will be thin, but everyone will be able to function at the size they are.

I am not talking about people with food addictions. I know they have more to deal with than the average person that just over or under eats.  

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